So, don't do what I did.
I was using Messenger on Facebook to swap messages with a GG friend of mine (who knows the Dee side of me). I texted her a picture of me dressed, and wanted to add some text.
So I clicked on the suggested link to "add to your story".
Bad move.
It actually send out the picture to all of my Facebook friends (around 100). I didn't realize that until I got a response back from a friend that I hadn't meant to send the message to.
Panic time. Try to delete message. Find link on Facebook where you can limit who gets posts. Frantically go through list clicking boxes of friends to exclude message. Hope for the best, but sleep very little that night (this all happened around midnight).
Woke up next morning, and no additional FB messages. My outlook on life improves. I figure out how to delete the picture.
It's been a week, and still nothing more. I think I dodged the bullet.
The one person who DID see the picture? She sent a reply with a gif of a woman in a flowing gown dancing down a set of stairs. She was a former girlfriend/FWB who helped me dress a couple of times about 30 years ago. We were friends on FB but I had not communicated with her that I still dress. Given the picture I sent, she realized I still did.
We ended up swapping a number of messages, and talked on the phone. I texted her a number of my pictures dressed, and emailed the stories from this board of my first time out locally and my train trip to Chicago. She was complimentary of my look, and my style of dressing. She even said that 30 years ago she thought I looked better in her clothes than she did.
So it appears I only outed myself to someone who already knew I was a CD. I got lucky.
So don't use the share a story feature on Facebook unless you really, really, want to.