New to this questions

[novastar]

Hello,

Please pardon my ignorance. I'm new to this. I've always been secretly bkisexual. I was in a straight marriage for 16 years until she left. Immediately after she left a close dear friend of mine of nearly 20 years confessed his feelings and made a move on me, which was warmly received. He's a very large, dominant black man. He was always unawaer of my secret bisexuality and penchant for black men, it just worked out good for us.

He calls me feminine things a LOT...and I enjoy the way he is able to make me feel feminine. As a surprise for him I got some panties and stockings and it drove him absolutely wild....and lit a fire inside me too.

We've been in a relationship over 2 years and it is amazing. I suppose my question refers to dressing. I'm wanting to take it further for him but don't know what I'm doing and would love to have someone help me. The goal is looking passable not like a clown. Also, my question is "am I opening doors that won't close?" Like...am I going to find myself doing this outside the bedroom....what if he likes me dressed female and I decide to stay that way?

[Beverley Sims]

You may find that there is a good balance by dressing at home and then going about your usual business each day.

You may find being a housewife is a good solution for you both.

[novastar]

Thank you for the reply. Maybe you're right....as I said this is all very new to me. We both are enjoying ourselves....so.....I suppose what surprised me the most is how I am NOW entering this world, and not through "porn."

[Stephanie47]

You mention wearing panties and hosiery for you to wear which drove him wild. Just making sure you're the one wearing the panties and hosiery. If he has not seen you in a total female outfit; dress, hosiery and heels, panty, bra, slip and makeup with a wig, ask him if that is something he would be receptive to. It may seem obvious but you never know. There are many makeup tutorials on the internet. The biggest hurdle is always the face. If your relationship is solid he knows under clothes and makeup you're still a genetic male, so I do not think he will be so critical as to damper the moment.

I concur with Beverley. Maybe the first time you do get totally en femme for him you invite him for dinner and greet him at the front door. You may have to reheat the dinner in the microwave oven!

[novastar]

Oh, my question was answered before I could even finish asking. Supportive and encouraging. Yes I'm sure it'll take a good bit of practice. This is why I'd like a supportive ladyfriend because I don't really know diddly squat about girl stuff

[Wendi_cd]

Try googling transformations services + your city.

You can also make a visit to Sephora or Mac, just tell them it's for a costume party if you wish.

[novastar]

I'll have to check that out, thank you! I never imagined myself being in to this, but now I'm wishing I started earlier. I suppose it is because of the support and encouragement I have.

[docrobbysherry]

I think the noted crossdresser, Franklin Roosevelt, said it best,
"The only thing u have to fear is fear itself!"

[novastar]

FDR was a crossdresser, wasn't he in a wheelchair? Sounds like an awful lot of work.

I'm glad this site finally approved me....after a LONG time. I'm enjoying reading posts from other members and I can't help but wish I had gotten in to this sooner in life. In my teens I was in to plenty, and until I learn the rules here I'll be careful what I say.

I was about 11-12, my brother a tad younger, and we were next door. The neighbor girl had a friend over. The girls were about 14 maybe. Courtney and Tiffany. They decided they were going to dress my brother and I up as girls, make-up, everything. If I could go back I'd be an eager and willing participant. Although I felt a bit of muted intrigue at the idea I adamantly refused mostly to protect my brother. I feared the potential horrible ridicule that could be coming with this and wasn't going to chance letting it happen to my brother. I was at the age I was starting to have feelings for Tiffany, too, and not the "I want to be dressed up for her" feelings.

This is something I haven't thought of in years...perhaps 25 years. Their clothes would have been a very near-perfect fit, too. I'm sure I would have looked gorgeous, too. Maybe things would have been different if I had a sister.

[alwayshave]

I believe it was Theodore Roosevelt who was dressed in girls clothes as a child.

[Tracii G]

If he is gay and you are living in a gay relationship then right?
Is your dressing as a woman a turn on for him too because it seems you like it and it turns you on.
If I was in a relationship I would prefer he was a man and not a CD ing man.
I want to be the tranny in the relationship.

[novastar]

WEll the funny thing is we were "straight friends" for a LONG time up until we got together. I'm the dresser. We're having fun with this