I stayed in an AirBNB in Manchester UK recently and decided to be completely upfront with the host about my plan to arrive in drab, get dressed and go out for the night. I mentioned this in another thread recently and a few people asked me to post about that experience separately, so here it is It was actually really good.
I'm an AirBNB host myself so I knew if I just turned up he would have no choice but to let me stay. But I wasn't going to stay somewhere that didn't want me, so I decided to take the bull by the horns and sent a booking request with a fairly direct note like: "Hi I'm TG and I'm meeting some friends in Canal Street on <date>. I'll be arriving looking like my passport because it makes travel easier and am planning to change, put my makeup on etc at your place and then head out for the night. If that's not OK with you please just let me know - I think it's better if we both know exactly what we're getting into. Hope to see you soon. E"
Well. I need not have worried. I got the nicest reply "That's no problem at all, sounds like fun. It's nice to have something a bit different to look forward to" and then a bunch of directions about trains from the airport, what time will I arrive etc. So I was delighted.
But then, about 10 minutes later, I got another message: "I've been thinking, the light in that room is not great so if you want to use the main bathroom to get ready then that's fine too; there's better light and more space in there." Now that's another level again.
(if you're going to Manchester then PM me and I'll sent you the link to his place)
Looking back, I think that my being so upfront and matter of fact really helped things to go smoothly. Sometimes we create problems and stress around us that doesn't need to exist. In my limited experience so far I have found that a lot of the time people will follow the lead that you set, good or bad. That's "Eemz's thought of the day" anyway LOL. I'm also very lucky ymmv, don't try this at home, I'm not a doctor, etc etc.