Not a CD topic!

[Meghan4now]

OMG

This is very serious. What is the breaking point? Abuse should not be tolerated. Even if you think this relationship is saveable,you need a third party to keep her accountable. Otherwise the pattern will repeat and escalate. What happens if you finally snap? Who will be sitting in jail saying "but she hit me first? No really"

I am not an advocate for divorce, but at least protect you self, put some distance between you. Does she even know what she did, and how wrong that is?

[Helen Waite]

Stacy, hope you're okay, haven't seen a post from you in 3 days. Take care.

[abbiedrake]

Amen Helen

[Micki_Finn]

You’re not “creating awareness” by staying in an abusive relationship. That is assault and she should be arrested. If you want to “create awareness” get the hell out of that relationship and help others to do the same. At this point with all the stories of egregious physical abuse you’ve given us, it makes me wonder if you just stay for the attention from others.

[Ronnie38]

Although harsh i kind of agree with Micki on this. There is no excuse for violence but at the same time there is ALWAYS a way out. My ex wife is my ex wife because of her abuse towards me. At first it was yeats of neglect and emotional abuse. Then the cheating and lying. Then the boyfriends showing up to my house to "put me in my place." when she started hitting me, I called the cops. They told me I would be the one arrested. So I called a lawyer. With the law now on my side i kicked her and her boyfriend out of my house. It was a long battle after that but in the end i did what was best for me and my children. Its a hard path to fallow but sympathy dosnt fix anything. Action does. Stand up for yourself and take action.

[Stacy Darling]

You’re not “creating awareness” by staying in an abusive relationship. That is assault and she should be arrested. If you want to “create awareness” get the hell out of that relationship and help others to do the same. At this point with all the stories of egregious physical abuse you’ve given us, it makes me wonder if you just stay for the attention from others.

IT's people like you which attempt to put down the more vulnerable of us, which sickens me!

[JaytoJillian]

Girl, glass to the face indicates that you are not married to someone who is well. You are in danger, girl. Leave now.

[Leslie Mary S]

Sid question any children at home?

[Stacy Darling]

The Girls have grown up and now trying to conquer the word Leslie, Sad to say that I wish one of them were here as this would not occur if either of them were here. That's selfish of me though to even think of that!
Stacy!

[Macey]

Stacy, it may not be selfish to invite one or both of them over for a visit. If it's been a while, they should probably get a look at the situation.

[Crissy 107]

Stacy, I think that is a good idea Macey has, you should give it a try.

[Stacy Darling]

I like your thinking Macey, It's just awkward with me being more femme now and then how to go about explaining this situation to a couple of lawyers. Neither would understand I fear.
Stacy!

[Crissy 107]

Stacy, I understand what you are saying but I would give it a try.

[Linda E. Woodworth]

Another point I think needs to be made here.

Stacey believes that the assault would not have happened if either of the daughters were there.

And what if it does?

This is a very real possibility and I personally know of one instance where it DID OCCUR!

Things can keep escalating until what ever is holding them back no longer works.

At that point you're back to square one but only worse.

[phili]

aHi Stacey,

You are amazing- holding up so well in a very extreme situation. You are sharing with us, your friends, and people who understand. Of course it is nice occasionally having someone to talk to. So please tell us more! Talk out your reasoning here-

How you feel about your marriage, and if has changed over time.

Were either or both of you subject to or a witness to family violence in childhood? We can learn as children that love leads to hurt, and we can be helped to find a better way to love and be loved..

Where is this all going? What is the ending to this story as you two are playing it out?, and why does that seem like the ending to choose?

Looking forward to hearing more

[Stacy Darling]

Not much to say Phili,

One of the cold war Kids, sigs operator at 19 to where I now am! Such extremes?

Guess I'm all WAR'ed out!

[Macey]

Stacy, better awkward than dangerous, I think. Invite your daughters over. They should see the both of you for a lot of reasons. As for lawyers, I suggest finding a trans support group and seeking their advice on trans friendly lawyers.

[Leslie Mary S]

What is a "Sigs operator". It seems to have garbled coming across the pond on the short wave.

[Micki_Finn]

IT's people like you which attempt to put down the more vulnerable of us, which sickens me!

Yeah I’m putting you down by telling you to get away from the person who keeps beating the shit out of you.

[Kelly DeWinter]

Stacy;

I think what a lot of people are trying to say is consider placing some boundries in your marriage, such as
. No physical asults or the consequeses will be, a ) she leaves, b ) you leave c ) she spends the night in jail , something along those lines.
. What every you decide just be safe

What's a sigs operator ?

[giuseppina]

... how to go about explaining this situation to a couple of lawyers. Neither would understand I fear.
Stacy!

I'm sure there are some experienced lawyers that specialise in family law with spousal abuse where you live, Stacy. They've seen everything. The best ones are empathetic to you and a lion(ess) in court.

While the majority of physical violence is perpetrated by males, the statistics show that domestic violence responsibility is split close to evenly between males and females.

[Stacy Darling]

It's with the responses of so many that someone as blind as I am can better choose where to go next. Not sure where but hey! Please don't be disappointed if I stay though, it's in my nature!
Stacy!

[Macey]

Stacy, the fact that you're considering your options is a great step and gives me hope!

[Ronnie38]

If you do stay, please put your foot down, take control, and set some rules. You should not have to live in fear,