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    Who would you marry?

    For those who have completely transitioned, or are nearly complete, would you marry a cross dresser or become a SO to a person who is a cross dresser? If you are already married or in a long term relationship, feel free to offer your thoughts.

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    Whether someone is a cross dresser or not has no bearing on who I would form a relationship with or marry. For that matter their gender/sex doesn't factor into the decision either. What matters to me is the person inside and not their physical appearance, and our feelings for each other.

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    As the saying goes, "Love is the answer!" Gotta be love before commitment! I have had enough with marriage and am not looking for anyone! But who knows? Hugs Lana Mae
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    No he....! Because probably learn from me desire to transition, then I would be married with a woman.....lol
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    It wouldn’t be a total dealbreaker, but it would be a huge negative in my view.

    • I’m attracted to men and masculinity. It would be a big turn off for me to see my boyfriend in women’s clothing.

    • Seeing him like that would evoke too many bad memories of my early and pre-transition days. I don’t want my boyfriend to stir up my bad memories with his CDing.

    • I’d always be wondering in the back of my mind, what if he someday wants to transition? Because sometimes CDs don’t realize they’re TG or TS until later in life.


    For all those reasons, almost certainly no. He would have to be absolutely amazing in every other way for me to overlook the CDing. Like maybe if he looked like Jon Hamm and was a vampire or something, lol.

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    No. It is not the cross dressing as much as the temperament that usually goes with cross dressing.

    Among cross dressers and some MTF there is a high degree of artistic inclination (usually musical) , emotional sensitivity or a type of logic that produces computer programmers and tech people.

    I don't resonate with people devoid of emotion who are all logic and analytical. I find them to cold but a man that is highly emotional is also not masculine enough for me to find him attractive. They lack an animal quality about them that appeals to me.

    I tend to be attracted to men who are outdoor types. Into hunting, guns & trucks with no feminine inclinations but with a soft side that is usually displayed toward their dog or children. A toughness but with a gentle side.

    I have no interest in hunting, guns, trucks or chopping wood but seem to be attracted to men that do.

    These men are absolutely comfortable in their masculinity and have no interest in escaping from it.

    They tend to be very binary in their thinking. Needless to say this is a problem for a transsexual woman because what she is attracted to is often disgusted or deeply offended by what she stands for which is the opposite of the binary as being non-binary

    Even before I transitioned my closes friendships were with men like this from very early in my childhood.

    I'm attracted to my opposite energy. I have several male friends who have a femininity about them but I feel zero physical attraction to them because I'm not attracted to that which I already am.

    It is not being judgmental but my sexuality is very selective. It is rare someone can make it wake up. I have no control over it.
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    Interesting replies so far. Two who would would prefer to evaluate the entire relationship before knowing the answer. Two who express a clear preference for a very masculine type and with no hints of cross dressing, much like many women who find out their SO’s are cross dressers and have a difficult time dealing with the situation. One person does not like the idea of a cross dressing spouse, yet is currently married and transitioning.

    Hopefully there will be some more replies.

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    I'm happily married, and I can't imagine there exists another person like her in the world, so this is hypothetical, but here goes. This is in the context that in my life, I have lived bisexually, so I'm not against either gender from that perspective. This is still not an easy question to answer.

    Since HRT my sexual interest is pretty close to zero, if not quite zero. So, any relationship would be in the context of companionship. Having removed the smell of male urine in my household, do I ever want it back? "Not on your nelly." I remain really put-off and disliking of hairiness, so I reckon a male companion would not be high on my list, but the right type of CD (slim, dark, unhairy) could work for me, possibly. Energetically, they would have to come across really feminine, and I reckon their mind also, and emotionally open.

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    I am quite happily married and Sandra has travelled this journey with me from start to end, so I can only answer from what if.

    I have noticed that my sexual preferences haven't changed one bit, if I was "on the market" so to speak, I would seek out females, but not sure if I would be able to have a relationship with a bi-sexual female, I'm certainly a monogamous individual and wouldn't like to share
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    Answers seem to come in twos. Now there are two responses from women who have transitioned and are married to their wives from BT (before transition). My interpretation is that both appreciate the feminine traits of their wives.

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