Feeling lonely the more I dress

[Kathrine]

I have been interested in dressing since I was little. About 10 years ago, in my young 40s I decided to do my own thing. I have been dressing more and more for the last 10 years.

My family and friends are not opposed but definitely not supportive. So I find the more I dress the more alone I am. I regularly grocery shop, go to the mall and pop out for lunch dressed. But I don’t have anyone to share with. Anyone else find that their crossdressing isolated them?

I’ve thought about personals looking for cds to dress with or maybe even a guy (never dated a guy but kinda thinking about it) but it doesn’t seem like personals are what I’m looking for. I’d like a guy who wants to go for a walk or something but the personals I’ve seen they’re looking for something else.

And I keep looking to see if there are some cd get togethers or places to meet other folks who have similar interests. Nothing near me.

There is some good news though. I can now walk in heels very comfortably. I do icy parking lots, rolling sidewalks and stairs no problem. When I first started going out I wobbled every now and then. Now I cruise around without a thought.

[Helen_Highwater]

Katy,

Yep it can be an issue finding like minded souls. It sometimes takes a little bit of creative Googling to unearth social groups in a particular area. Have you tried searching of LGBT groups to see if one of those knows of something to meet your requirements? I don't know if you've seen the listings by state that appears at the very bottom of this forum. There's a link there for Maine Crossdressers. I can't vouch for what sort of activity you'll find on there, it could be of the type you've described were it's more about being intimate that casual friendship. That is one of the joys of this place that such things aren't allowed.

It may be you may have to be prepared to travel to some of the more major conurbations in your search for a social group. The organisers of these things often have pathways into wider networks and you can track back towards groups nearer home.

Best of luck in your endeavors.

[Tracii G]

Find the local LGBT pride center in your area,call them and see if they have a trans support group.
They may have just a CD support group too
Now understand gender and sexuality are two different things.Just because you CD does not mean you will have to date a man. If you are not attracted to men and still attracted to women there is no need to date a man.

Now don't think Oh there is no LGBT office in my area or Oh there isn't a trans support group in my area because I'll bet there is.

[Teresa]

Katy,
I don't mind shopping alone , in fact I now prefer it but socialise quite alot . I attend three groups and meet up sometimes for late night shopping and coffee . I must admit I would like to do it with a female companion , it may or may not happen in the future .

Sociial groups aren't for everyone but it might be worth finding some in your area to see if it helps .

[audreyinalbany]

there's also an online thing called "meet up" which has lots of groups in the area, not just cd or lbgtq groups, but things like hiking groups or knitting groups, or whatever. You might try searching that and seeing if there are any cd groups near you.

[Beverley Sims]

Others have said it, bite the bit and look for a local LBGT or like group in your area and go for it.

[Rachelakld]

I doubt I would join an LGBT group, I'm just not interested in "support" groups.
I did however join a sewing class about 15 years ago and last year I was a regular at the gym & pools, chatted to a few nice people.
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Find out what your interested in (other than crossdressing), and join the group.

[Macey]

If nothing else, you could post a thread here Titled "Anyone in Maine want to meet for coffee?" Or some such. Long shot, but anyone in your area that responds would be somewhat active, I'd think.

[Patience]

Keep an eye out for drag queen events. Girls like us are generally less glamorous and over the top, but can blend in fairly well when we work on our presentation.

Like others have said, your interest in dating guys is separate from the dressing. Whatever floats your boat.

[alwayshave]

Kathrine, my wife is supportive, so I have a partner crime. I also belong to a local group I found on meetup.com, you may want to look there.

[Ressie]

I had a GF that lived in Lewiston way back when. She picked me up at Logan Airport. How far is Boston from your area? It sounds like you're quite far north.

There are probably a couple of towns that aren't too far to drive. We have CDs that drive over 100 miles to get to meetings. Good luck.

[Kathrine]

Thanks for all the nice responses.

There is a support group near me but they are for people who are transitioning. I’m just s cross dresser and I think of myself transgender but not moving towards transition. So I do t think that group is for me.

I know that sexual orientation and gender identity are different, I’ve been thinking about dating a guy a bit. Thee are personals on Craigslist but those folks are looking for quick dates. I maybe would like to meet a friend.

Ressie I have thought about going to Boston, I’m about 2.5 hours away. But what I see online are special events not just casual chances to interact.