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    Who faced punishment, when they were caught?

    I blocked it for most of my life. We were young and playing at my father's aunt's house. They had clothes to dress up in, in the play room. So I picked the clothes I liked, some of the aunt's old dresses. I put one on, I was maybe 8 at the time. We were having fun, my cousins, my sisters and I. Much of it was just kids playing. Then my father came in the room, his face I will never forget. The anger and turmoil that shone through his eyes, split me in half faster than a laser. His words were even worse. The names he used I will not speak. His aunt behind him, chastised him down, my saving grace.
    He respected his aunts, so he shut his mouth. The first moment away, he ripped into me faster than a flaming knife through butter.

    So I quit and bottled any thoughts that were my own. I learned and did as my role was suppossed to be. Cutting and crying, hiding all of me. I did what was expected of what I was supposed to be. Burying myself as far as could be.

    I understand now, why I did what was expected and did not care. I had to show a path, that was to be seen.

    I wake in my age and regret the years I lost, not being me. Yes I hide what I was, even from me.

    I have only the future to be and realize me.

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    A lot have the same story here.
    I am glad you are here to vent.
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    Ivy,

    I experienced similar treatment from my parents, it was the neighbours that were more sympathetic and they helped keep a lid on it.

    They needed a girl of my ilk to play with their daughters.

    I could be a boy when I wished to.

    This worked well.
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    Ivy, never caught by my father, but he was the only person that I had issues finding out.
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    Both my parents passed away before I began my coming out process and I never did any dressing of any kind while I lived at home with them so I never had to deal with any potential or real fallout from either of them. That said, I don't think it would have been a big deal if I had gotten caught because my father was a very mild mannered person who always deferred any type of punishment to my mother whenever me or my brothers needed a "talking to" or a spanking. As for my mother, I actually suspect that she would have been OK with it and possibly would have supported or even encouraged me to crossdress because she often made comments that "I should have been a girl" because I had such nice hair (wish I had it now). Additionally she dressed me up for Halloween one year in one of her dresses and put lipstick on me and a woman's hat. At times she painted my nails because as she "claimed", it was a deterrent to me biting them. HMMM? really?

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    When I was growing up there was a big difference in the treatment between my brother and me. He was 15 months older than I. As the first born he was suppose to be a boy according to my mother's view of the perfect family. I was suppose to be a girl. Surprise! Not my fault. Blame my father's sperm.It was sort of surprising because the last female born in my father's lineage was born in 1881. My brother took after my mother's genetic pool. I followed my father's. My mother doled out the discipline which was a belt. She left welts on the back of my thighs. She thought masturbation was sinful. I've related many time she probably knew I was wearing her clothes. Who snapped the strap on her only black bra? Me? Or my brother? Well, my parents tried their best to catch me. Never did, but, did come close. They were not tolerant of gays and lesbians. The list goes on.

    My father passed away when I was eighteen and a freshman in college. He was dying of cancer in my senior year of high school. I suspect, if I had been caught wearing my mother's clothes I would have been kicked out of the house. Military service. The 1960's were rough for anyone who was not plain vanilla heterosexual. Of course, it would have been assumed I was gay because that was the common thought back then.

    When I outgrew my mother's clothes I did decrease my interest in women's clothing. I had absolutely zero thoughts when I was in the army. It wasn't until after I was married those thoughts returned. My wife is not on board with my cross dressing. She does not mention it at all. Deep DADT. Sometimes I wish she would scream something so it would open a dialogue.

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    In my family My Mother wore the pants and dealt all the punishments out. She was very conservative and if you crossed her you did it at your own peril. When I was about 9 my boy cousin and I were teasing my 8 and 10 year old sisters about the new petticoats their grand mother had bought them. We were waving them around and laughing about how silly girls were. Well my mother came home early from her beauty salon appointment and was not to happy . She made it quite clear to us boys that we were never to touch girls things again or we would be sent to school in pretty dresses and girls underwear. Believe me the threat of being seen at school by the neighborhood girls and boys in Girls things was the scariest thing I could think of. It made me very careful and nervous my whole life.
    Oh here is what my sisters Petticoats and dresses look like back in the early sixties.

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    My father caught me on two occasions, thankfully I was 15-16 which for me was also around the time I started maturing, physically he couldn't hurt me and public embarrassment would've hurt him as well...so I only got veiled threats and half-hearted punishments. But even then disappointing my parents was enough to remove a significant amount of self-esteem. It's a shame that such views exist, especially from those closest to us, but in my opinion it's those hard-learned lessons that make me want to be a better person and a better parent (when the time comes).

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    Thank god I was never caught.

    I don't think I ever wanted to be, after an episode with my father yelling for me to come to our basement that he was cleaning. I went down, a bit worried that I had done something wrong. He held out something small he had in his hand, and asked me if this was mine, in a very angry tone. "No, it isn't, was is it?" I asked. My answer was him slamming it into a box of trash, and him ignoring me. Curiosity made me go down the next day to look in the trash for that item. It was gone, but I remembered what the little box had printed on it. Years later, I saw another one just like it. A package of Prince condoms.

    That mad my dad had on that day explained that whole episode. That had to be from one of the guys my older sister was seeing. Made me very thankful that he never caught me dressing.
    I don't dress up because I want to be a woman, I dress up to make me happy.

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    I was never caught but would have loved one of those dresses in Robbiegirls post.
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    I was never caught by my parents, but, in retrospect, I wonder if they knew anyhow.

    I won't even mention how angry my wife was when she caught me. And, I was just caught packing a bra in a suitcase before and out of town trip.

    Since she caught me the first time, I've been caught a few more times. One time she caught me in a very colorful bra. She said only a teenage girl would wear a bra like that. I took it as a complement, even though she was pretty angry about it.
    Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.

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    Never got caught flagrante delicto, but had enough close calls and odd references by my parents that I wonder if they knew and somehow tolerated it.

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    Thank you for your replies. Yes I needed to get some of it of my skin. Thank you dear ladies!

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    I was 9 or 10 when mom caught in her bra and girdle. She said I have to be punished so the next weekend I was goin to be dressed as a girl the whole weekend. Mom thought she was punishing me but all it did was hook me on womens clothes. I am now 76 and still dressing.

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    I was caught in my twenties when my mother found a pair of my yellow frilly bikini panties. She gave them to me and asked if they were mine. That was all their was to it. Aside from me dying of embarrassment, it isn’t necessarily even a bad memory now

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    I was never actually caught dressed, but my mom would search my room and she found my stash of clothing I had taken from her more than once.

    The punishments for that were no different than punishment for any other trouble I got into, and I go int a lot, being grounded, not left alone in the house, to whippings with a belt. (That was her favorite growing up)

    She really didn't know how to deal with it until I was in high school and threatened to use use the "nuclear option" and out me to everyone if she found my stash again.

    Well as a teenager who didn't understand or let alone accept myself, in my mind that was probably the worst possible thing that could ever happen to me, yet a small part of me wanted to get caught again

    She never found my stash again.
    We never spoke of it again.

    So I guess it worked...
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    I relate, even though I was embarrassed remembering this, it feels important now, and that rush of embarrassment feels so erotic now

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    Around the age of 10 or 11, my mother caught my stash of her old girdles under my mattress.
    I got this lecture, and a scolding about wearing other's people's clothes.
    Well I was already on my way to being a good wood worked, so I built a false bottom to
    a built in dressed I had in my closet. I wonder if anyone ever found what I had hidden in there.
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    In my mid teens my mother caught me dressed in a dress she kept in the attic.
    She said "I don't mind you wearing the clothes, just put them back the way you found them when your done".
    I don't know if she told my father, he never said anything.
    She told my older sister that I was going through a phase.
    About a year after that I snuck out at about 11:00 PM fully dressed and as I was walking down the driveway my brother and his wife drove in and had quite a good laugh.
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    "This is ME" I am not CRAZY, I'm just a GUY who likes dresses!
    Since allot of men dress up in woman's clothing that makes it a manly thing to do!
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    It took an entire month for comments to resume. Nothing in February. Sometimes it bothers me when some are chided on this site for being leery of venturing forth or even revealing their desires to people closest to them. There is a lot of conditioning of one's mindset from early childhood/teenage experiences. If all the time you were berated or disciplined for doing something, wouldn't that be in the back of your mind as an adult? I was never caught wearing my mother's clothing, but, if I had been caught I know the punishment, physical and mental would have been severe. Ah, the 1960's!! It's not like riding a bike and falling off. I have those physical scars which I can turn to with some pride. I just cannot imagine sitting around with friends, neighbors or coworkers reliving the times I was almost caught wearing my mother's clothes.

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    This is a more complex question than many of us realize. Many crossdressers frequent pro Dominatrixs to not only find a safe environment in which to dress but also to find a way to experience the guilt some of us still experience about dressing. This has been a factor for me. Most pro Domms will attest that crossdressers make up a lot of their clients

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    I was never caught, but I think they knew.

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    My mother would put makeup on me and I though it was cool. My father (the molester) would get upset about it. I only dressed a couple of times in my mother's clothing but it was exciting and they fit me really well. It was irotic as hell. I wanted more. Never did I touch my sisters stuff. I did not get caught dressing but, my sister would get blamed for going through my mother's clothing. I use to laugh because my sister was mean to me all the time. I guess she thought it was okay because she was older. I'm in my 60's now and I've began again crossdressing last year. I want to go all the way, makeup wigs, shoes. I want to be able to go out dressed and have nobody care.

    My childhood was weird. My father was a pedophile and molested my sister and I. More So me. Because of this my sister was extremely permisquist. I lived in a small town and most of the boys in the neighborhood were never around. From year 13, when my sister got horny she would come on to me. We fornicated occasionally but I never did initiate it. She did. One day she told me she was pregnant and said I was the father. She wasn't and I never had sex with her again. She would bring home some of her girlfriends and ask me if I would to sleep with them. I never did. As a matter of fact I didn't have sex again until I was 20. Many a girlfriend in my teens I lost because I wouldn't become sexual with them. I had one gay encounter when I was 18 but that was just a by chance physical thing.

    I don't know if it was my father or my mother that is responsible for my feelings about dressing. As ignorant as both of them were, I know for sure that neither one would have accepted it.

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