A structural problem is that crossdressing is an act, and not an identity marker. So we have a circular problem- without definition of why we crossdress, there is no argument for identity, so people don't embrace us -as they have no clear framework in which we fit- and therefore understand it. Then we hide because no one understands us- and then others see us as having something we feel we have to hide.
SAs embrace us because we have an identity- buyer.
Also therefore the question- "Did you lose a bet?" That's easy to understand.
Someone might ask - "Are you gay?" " TG? " as long as we aren't looking fearful or uncertain.