Ladies,
I have noticed as my male side Ben I have no interest in cleaning the house. None. However, once I bring Amanda around she can't help herself but to clean, dust, dishes, clean the bathroom, etc. Not talking about dressing as a maid I am talking about getting a dress on a cleaning as my female side. Has anyone else noticed that the female side is more willing to clean up then their male side?
Amanda
I also enjoy doing house work while being dressed, feels "normal" doing this in my feminine state.
Cleaning and doing routine household chores is a part of life whether you're male or female. I'm always dressed when I'm home so I'm always cleaning while dressed. The same goes for yard work.
There’s no question with me. Male mode + house cleaning = a chore. Dressed + house cleaning = enjoyment and my wife loves it. Might as well be comfortable...of course, she sees nothing comforting about hose, underwires, heels. I just smile 😊
Here's a thought.
When I'm not dressed, I feel less worried about how I look and don't care if I look a little 'sloppy'.
When dressed, I try to look my best.
I don't think I'm alone in this - right?
-so-
Maybe that caring about looks - spills over into how you'd like the world around you to look.
Perhaps you're more willing to take the effort to to make your home look better too.
Does your She self cares about things your He self doesn't? (does that sentence make sense?)
It doesn't HAVE to be about a female gender stereotype issue.
It could be as simple as feeling good (and maybe abandoning the "men don't do housework" one.)
Being brought up in an environment where both real life and fiction portrayed domestic work as stereotypical of what women do, it's no surprise that we connect the two. Then add in dressing up as female, and it's a perfect storm of feeling as if we're female. It quenches the thirst caused by the GID.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
If only:
I could change my clothes, (you'll notice that word has an E in it), and WANT to do house work!
Or, change my sexual orientation!
I read posts like this and am astounded!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Amanda,
I used to feel like that, I probably do because when I wear drab I feel out of it a bit.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
Amanda, now that I am retired, wearing a skirt or dress and an apron and doing the housework is my daily routine. I not only enjoy it more that way, I find that I am more efficient at it as well.
I am a vessel of the goddess. Let me express my calling to a feminine life through nurturing love and relatedness.
Always clean in male clothes. I prefer to relax when I wear a dress.
...because we all know that cleaning the house is women's work.
Like a corpse deep in the earth I'm so alone, restless thoughts torment my soul, as fears they lay confirmed, but my life has always been this way - Virginia Astley, "Some Small Hope" (1986)
Sunlight falls, my wings open wide. There's a beauty here I cannot deny - David Sylvian, "Orpheus" (1987)
Yes, this thread is dangerously close to a stereotype. The only way to make it more so would be to wear a frilly French maid's outfit complete with heels.Originally Posted by Sara Jessica
...because we all know that cleaning the house is women's work.
I can't say that I have a "feminine side". I'll get dressed up as a woman but it doesn't change who I am. It doesn't change my likes and dislikes, my choice in music or my political beliefs. And it doesn't make me want to jump up and clean the house.
Someone posted about not getting the pretty clothes dirty. That's very true. If my wife is going to clean the house, she puts on old clothes first. That's what I do as well, male or female. And the only possible reason to wear heels while cleaning the house is to be able to clean the top of the bathroom mirror.
Krisi
And god forbid I break a nail, or screw up my makeup, or ruin a dress! Nope, leave it to the grubby side.
I too like to do chores when dressed, but I find there are things that make it more difficult. Vacuuming in heels just doesn't work for me, and when I'm wearing my stick-on nails I can't put my hands in water. Today I put together a small Ikea storage unit and had to be careful with the fingernails. My most interesting experience a couple years ago was when I was checking the timing on my old car with a timing light and when I bent over the engine to see the timing mark one of my silicone breast forms tumbled out of my bra. Fortunately the t-shirt caught it or it would have fallen into the fan. I suppose I could have come with a new phrase, "when the form hits the fan".
Dressed or not, today I am feeling UNmotivated to get to the housework! Need a lazy day, but the dishes do pile up!
Later now than before:
I'm experiencing a little GD to get me motivated. No, not Gender Dysphoria, some Grateful Dead! Been a long time, and right now what a long strange trip it's been.
Last edited by Macey; 02-23-2019 at 08:38 AM.
If I am doing work around the house it is usually in men's clothing. I don't want to get the good stuff dirty.
The female side is more willing to clean up?
Certainly not mine or my wife's female side, as much as I hate to admit it our house is generally trashed
We are both pack-rats and hate cleaning... That's a bad combination
Last edited by Robertacd; 02-21-2019 at 02:53 PM.
...but a good marriage. At least you have no friction.
My clothing has no effect on my housecleaning. I definitely don’t want to damage my pretty clothes doing mundane chores.
When haters hate, I celebrate!
If the kids are gone and I have to clean, I will usually do it in a skirt/dress and heels because I don't get much time in my heels and most chores are standing so I can enjoy the heels more. My wife hates laundry so I always put away her clothes partially dressed at night after the kids go to bed (win/win for both of us). I won't do cleaning that could ruin an outfit like the semi monthly thorough bathroom clean or painting walls, I usually wear ratty male clothes for that (don't even want to ruin my good male clothes for those chores). But if chores need to be done, they get done regardless of outfit and it doesn't bother me.
it seems like the only time I get to dress is when the house needs to be cleaned. so both my wife and I are happy!!!
Housework en femme? Sounds very familiar.
Vikky
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Adventure before dementia
When I was younger I liked the neighbour's mother putting an apron on me so as I would not get my borrowed dress dirty when making cookies in the kitchen.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
I have been retired for a full ten years. My wife still works full days when she wants to work. Rather than just sitting around en femme I don a pretty dress, heels and hosiery, all the proper undergarments (panty, slip, bra and garter girdle) and my wig. I do all the domestic chores (laundry, ironing, vacuuming, change the linens, etc) as well as bake and do meal preparation. I call it my "June Cleaver look." I never saw June Cleaver (Leave It to Beaver) or Harriet Nelson (The Adventures of Ozzie and Harriet) in anything but a dress. I also tend to the flowers in the garden. I will admit my wife gets a little irked because I never clean the bathrooms. That's a little much for a pretty dress and heels.
Last edited by Stephanie47; 02-22-2019 at 11:11 AM.
Dressing in the stereotypical role may seem a bit condescending, but if it's part of an enjoyable time, then why not! To just sit around after dressing up is boring. I need something to so, and the work while wearing the clothes makes me feel good inside. There are two reasons, one being the feel of the clothes moving against you, and two my wife is pleased that there was work done that she doesn't have to do. I see it as a win-win situation!
I like myself, regardless of the packaging that I may come in! It's what is on the inside of the package that counts!
I dI'd for a while. My wife took notice and commented, "I think I like it more when you dress now." It threw me off, as she previously preferred that I remain low key and at home with my dressing. So I shot a confused look her way.
She clarified, "I've noticed that you clean up and do more housework when you do."
Immediately after that, she saw an advantage and did a lot less on her end. We ground to an impasse where not enough was getting done and had to make agreements.
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