Thank you Teresa, Sara and Kelly... if fact Sara's point was brought to life last Thursday when I went to see my therapist and she asked me point blank so how do you describe your present state... I said without hesitation "I am trans-gendered you know that" and she pointed out that that was the 1st time I actually used the words... I often refereed to having Dysphoria but never ever said I was trans-gendered till last Thursday....saying it is a new reality, like Kelly I was always a crossdresser and it was always enough till one day it just wasn't.
I really appreciate all your comments