Came across this wonderful article by a woman who pondered it too- a very clear and friendly discussion of the reasons why it is 'never done', but why that shouldn't be true. Enjoy the warmth! It gives us more ways to acknowledge what our spouses and negative friends are feeling, and why it is so hard for them to even let it just be- why it is threatening.
https://www.racked.com/2018/4/23/172...ng-men-dresses
The article ends with her citing a few men taking public positions on it, and that contrarian 'this is what I believe' stance is how I go about this now.
It feels good to read, but she doesn't talk about the subliminal sexual connotations of clothing, which are also a big part of why people just can't deal with it. There is no current category for the sexuality of people who are hetero but want to wear the clothes that reflect the sexuality of the other sex.