So Teresa put this in another post and I want to add to this .
Teresa said “
OK I've only been out in the RW full time for just over a year so I can recall what my fears and expectations were , I still recall Pat's words , " Don't overthink it !" how right she was . I learned quickly that if you don't look for a reaction you won't get one , stop looking over your shoulder . “
I remember all those years ago going out with Sherlyn the first time and she kept turning her head to see if people turned around and going right up to people in the store to see if they noticed anything . I was shocked she was so insecure and that day I said NOTHING because she was so thrilled she went out. But a day later I described to her what it looked like ....like she was nervous and guilty and suspicious. So I said we are going out again and you will visualize walking like you belong, are confident and self assured. NO turning around just act natural. I believe we sat in the car and she was playing it over in her head and said I can not do it . BUT next day she wanted to give it a go and from that day forward there was no stopping her.
Over the years I have seen many videos in the gallery where someone was walking or at the mall and they nervously were looking around/ they were so proud they went out but all I could see was if someone was acting like that I would look because....what are they up too?
You do belong, you are not doing anything wrong .
And like Teresa said don’t over think it.
Be an Actress fake it to you make it.
ADD if you have no desire going out that’s fine too? Just be you.