Too tall to go out?

[Jenny22]

If you don't want to be seen out because of your height, check out this list of well known or famous tall females:

http://www.femulate.org/p/being-tall...t-tall-so.html

[Lydianne]

Great... but irrelevant .

I live in a university area, and when in male mode, I walk past multiple female students my height ( around 6' 1" ). The reason this is irrelevant is because many people, when they see such a woman, they would do a double take, study her other features, and conclude unequivocally that she is a woman. When they do the same process to me, I'd get read. Therein lies the difference.

There is no comfort to be drawn from knowing there are tall women. We just need to stare down the barrel .

- Lydianne.

[JaytoJillian]

Great... but irrelevant .

I live in a university area, and when in male mode, I walk past multiple female students my height ( around 6' 1" ). The reason this is irrelevant is because many people, when they see such a woman, they would do a double take, study her other features, and conclude unequivocally that she is a woman. When they do the same process to me, I'd get read. Therein lies the difference.

There is no comfort to be drawn from knowing there are tall women. We just need to stare down the barrel .

- Lydianne.

I agree 100%. Being out en femme as someone who is tall (6'-1") gets me a degree of added scrutiny that most can readily use to ascertain that I'm not a person who was FAB. I am always pleasantly surprised on those rare occasions in which I am assumed to be a GG, but I operate under the assumption that everyone knows the deal when I am out and about.

[looking_good]

We just need to stare down the barrel.
- Lydianne.

Absolutely made my day. Thank you.

[Stephanie47]

And, how much do those women on the list weigh? Weight is not the only part of the equation. I'm six foot even and weight 195 lbs. Decades ago I was 6' 1 1/2" and as little as 138 pounds before I gained weight. My best weight for feeling toned was 175 lbs and a waist of 30-32 inches. Skin was smooth and unblemished. Now? Age has taken its toll. Taking strolls among the masses would be out of my comfort zone which is one of the reasons why I wear women's clothing to begin with. There are college coeds around here and when the women's visiting basketball team is out at the mall there is a group of very tall women. Yes, they do attract attention. For the most part there is no mistaking they are women. The mind's eye with years of recording information will "make" a tall cross dresser. Height is a lightning rod for attracting attention.

[Genifer Teal]

I'm tall myself. It can be extremely difficult when you don't want to draw additional attention to yourself yet everyone is noticing your height. You have to push past it because it gets better. You can't shrink away from it it looks worse. You have to own it kind of like a runway model and not care when people look. Not saying it's easy but it is manageable. Best of luck to you.

[suzanne]

Femulate? Where did that word come from? I can see the mash up, but when did it get started?

I worry not one whit about my height. I am 6ft2 in bare feet, but who goes out in bare feet? My heels are often in the 3 1/2 to 4 inch range, so I rise to height of almost 6ft6 when I'm dressed. I'm not the type who craves attention, so I don't do it to get noticed. But I'd be stupid to think I don't get noticed, maybe even closely scrutinized. So I must carry myself as well and as proudly as I can. Genifer is spot on when she says you have to own it. Walk with your head held high as if you belong where you are. Because YOU DO!

[DMichele]

IMO, no one should avoid going out because he or she is too tall. Wilt Chamberlain, a 7'-1" NBA player, observed that people are fascinated by tall people.

Many TG people would like to be in the 'average height' box, but we know issues from society's expectation about the gender box. Just be yourself, a statuesque TG individual, and go. BTW, I am 6'-7", occasionally wear wedges, and dress female casual and rarely receive any staring. Tall people are far more common today. So just enjoy the vertical enhancement.

[Tracii G]

It sucks being short and fat too.
I suppose we all have our times when we don't feel quite good enough to go out.

[Robertacd]

LOL, that's what flats were made for. :P

[Tahoegurl]

Great thread ladies. I am 6'1" and I wear 4" heels...it has been said on here already, wear it like you own it. I weigh 175 with a 31 inch waist a dress to flatter my shape. I try to walk and move in a more feminine manner (which is a whole different stereotype conversation). Do I get made...i am sure I do but I am not dressing for anyone else. If my wife is good with how I look when we go out then all is well. Practice makes perfect...so I will keep practicing. Cheers.

[Beverley Sims]

Tall just gets you a more lingering look.

Just accept it I feel.

[Bobbi46]

So far I think I am the tallest! topping out at 6'-7" add 2" heels and well, doors then become a problem for me! And by the way I do go out.

[Elizabeth1980]

I am 6 foot tall. I like wearing heels but they make me too tall and stand out in a crowd. But without the heels I find dressing less interesting. So I wear them anyway.

[Leslie Mary S]

I'll log in at the 6 foot mark. like to wear 4.5 inch heels when I can find them. I also like to wear hats, some tall and I do not remove my hat when inside but have to duck through doorways. The typical home doorway is 6'8" but they are starting to go to the 7' size. in the early 1900s it was 6' 3".

[ellbee]

5'9", here.

Still on the taller side for a typical GG. But I was happy/lucky to be in that range, I guess.


Back during my out-in-public totally-enfemme days, the highest heel I would go was a self-conscious 2.25", usually for a night on the town.

Felt like I was pushing it even at that. So, eventually just dropped down to 1/4" flats when out & about, which made me feel a bit better psychologically. And despite not the greatest arch support, still somewhat easier on the feet.

Of course, at the same time, I did, on some level, miss strutting in those empowering heels.


Remember, even guys wearing typical guy-shoes have like a 1" to 1.5" "heel." So, they net out a bit more. Plenty of them seemed to tower over me!

Still didn't matter, in my eyes. Even in flats I felt I was "too tall." And that was with GG's usually wearing some kind of heel.



Whatever. Height isn't everything.

Knew a CD'er who was like 5'4", no exaggeration. That little bitch!


Didn't make a lick of difference. Could read them a mile away.

[Jean. Ann]

Tall Genetic Girls go out all the time
Wear heels if they want and look fabulous
doing it
So no problem

JAS

[JennykBailey]

I'm too tall to stay in sometimes. I often bang my head on the door frames especially in heels.

[JaytoJillian]

I'm too tall to stay in sometimes. I often bang my head on the door frames especially in heels.

ha ha good one!

[prene]

I'm to tall 5'-11.5"

For me it is finding clothes that fit.

[JulieAmanda]

I'm nearly 6 ft and have been out to plenty of places in three or four inch heels. It's more about your overall look fitting in, and about common sense - I wouldn't wear heels and short skirts to the supermarket where most women are in trainers or flats but at a night club where everyone else is dressed up it's fine, or even out and about in the town. My legs look so much better in heels so ain't gonna give 'em up!

[Princess Chantal]

I am 6’ and wear heels out and about. I never had concerns of being taller than the average female, but then again I have absolutely no issues and shame with being noticed as someone belonging within the transgender umbrella (cd/trans/MIAD/whatever).

[ellbee]

You're right: At least in my case, I didn't want to be seen as part of the trans army. I wanted to be seen, accepted & treated as a GG!


And that was *really* important to me back then. Short of hormones & surgery, I did everything I possibly could to help tip the scales in my favor, whenever possible. No stone was left unturned.

Took a lot of time, effort, energy, knowledge, experience & money.


Ultimately, I learned the hard way that it was an impossible & never-ending quest for what turned out to be fool's gold. Became this sort of unhealthy obsession. Definitely wasn't cool nor fun, by the later stages.



These days, it's fortunately no longer important to me. I don't attempt to pass in any shape or form -- couldn't anymore even if I tried, LOL. I don't go out in public all dolled up. Heck, I don't even get *kinda* dolled up, save for once in a blue moon, behind closed doors!

Took quite a while, but finally found my happy place, most typically as some variation of a MIAD, at best, whenever I feel the need.


But back then? Yeah, there was definitely some sort of gnawing psychological need that had to be fulfilled, as best as humanly possible.

Weird times, for sure. Not gonna try to stop anyone, but I don't really recommend it, either, if you can help it.

[Teresa]

Jenny,
I count my blessings being shortish at 5' 7" . While you think tall ones may struggle maybe also spare a thought for the short ones . I spent a whole morning in an out of town store going through the racks . The store has specials for coach trips and I followed a group of them round, the converstion was hillarious at times . They started choosing things for me and I started picking out for some of them . I picked out a lovely dress out and remarked to a lady next to me , she said , " It's fine for you being tall , but where do you think it's going to end up on me at 4' 11" ? ". That poor lady picked out dress after dress and had a problem with most of them , even the petitte's section didn't help .

[susan54]

At just over 5 foot nine I am not unusually tall for a man or even a woman. However the women (FAB) that I socialise and shop with are all quite short and/or petite and I stand out as a giant next to them, which draws attention to me. I just assume that people realise I am male anyway, I wear heels, and just go for it. I as long as I am perceived as making a good job of my appearance and movements I am happy.