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    I was having a great time this weekend until...

    I usually like to go to the movies on Saturday nights since there's a nice theater that's within walking distance from my house. The staff is really nice and I've never had any unpleasant encounters there. So I get to my seat before the movie begins and after a few seconds I notice that the guy sitting down the row from me takes a picture of me on his phone (with the flash on!! he didn't even try to be subtle about it!) I was naturally very upset, but this has never happened to me before so I didn't even know how I should react and I didn't want to make a scene so I just let it go since this happened moments before the movie started. I have a feeling this won't be the last time something like this is going to happen, what should I do or say when it does? How do you handle situations like these?

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    That is creepy, but I guess you know what the hollywood types feel like. Maybe report to management and they can call the police. Next time you take a picture of him... Non verbally put him on notice!
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    Not sure I would take a picture back. That might be taken as giving him the ok to extend whatever it is he started. I would either ignore it completely or report it.

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    Shepanie,

    Just pity him! His life is so void of real content he has to live it by being able to show his friends that something "interesting" happened in his shallow existance.

    It just shows that some people are utterly lacking of manners and their only real companion is their smartphone.

    One quick question, did he actually turn around to take the pic or did he hold the phone as if taking a selfie?

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    Wow, what a piece of garbage. I would definitely report him to the management. I’m so sorry to hear this happened to you.
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    That's totally unacceptable. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. That is a invasion of your privacy. Depending on my comfort level, I would either call him out on it, causing a scene, or say something to the management.

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    I am not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure that one has a right to privacy if one is a paying customer in an establishment. In other words, the photographer needs your permission. In "public" places, the rules are definitely different, so we're fair game for what, I agree, is classless behavior like that.
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    Cameras are everywhere now days. He could have taken your photo without you knowing it. Just a few years ago most people knew that you should get permission before taking a photo of someone. Those days seem to be gone.
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    Actually, use of recording devices are banned in most theaters, I would have alerted the management and they would have escorted him out.
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    Like others I would have reported it to the management. Some people are so shallow. Was it a McMenamin, either way I would report it. Hope you enjoyed the movie.

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    News Flash
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    I would have taken his pictur.

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    I would have walked down to him and taken his pic so I had proof of who took the pic.
    Really call the police? Come on its not a crime to take a pic.
    I would say there have been many pics taken of you but you just didn't know it at the time.
    Don't be so sensitive about it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Kelly View Post
    I am not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure that one has a right to privacy if one is a paying customer in an establishment. In other words, the photographer needs your permission. In "public" places, the rules are definitely different, so we're fair game for what, I agree, is classless behavior like that.
    I doubt there are any protections. It’s a space where she knew people would be assembling, so there isn’t really a “reasonable expectaction if privacy”. Sorry, but it’s a danger of going out in public. This was rude, but not illegal, nor anything the proprietors would likely do anything about. Realistically all you saw was someone using flash photography in a movie theatre before the movie. Can you prove his intention was to take a photo of you and not say someone else in the theatre, or of the theatre itself?

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    Agree with Tracii, Dont call the police. Talk about bringing attention to yourself! Your right to privacy in public is little to none, nothing against the law of people taking photos of you, in public. Not saying it is right, but it is what it is.. Cameras are everywhere, phones, security cameras etc... more people than ya think looking at you thru the lense.

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    Aunt Kelly, the laws vary by state.

    In Washington state anyone can take your pictures in public. You are not guaranteed any more privacy in public than being in public affords you.

    The state's voyeurism laws only protect people who are in a place where they "would have a reasonable expectation of privacy"

    In fact up until maybe 10 years ago it was perfectly legal to take "upskirt" photos of GG's without their knowledge or consent in a public place in Wa.
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    One thing that most people are forgetting or not realizing is this was not done in a public place, it was done in a semi-public place. Either way calling the police won't get anything done because taking the picture in itself is not going to be a violation of a law, what is done with the picture may be, but that is a separate matter . However notifying the theater management may be another story, it's their property so they make the rules. If there is a no photo/video policy in effect, or if they just want to tell the person to stop, then the person with the camera has two choices, stop as requested or leave the facility. If they refuse then the theater management can have the police respond and have the individual removed and/or charged with trespass and what ever else the police deem appropriate based on the persons actions once they have responded.

    While we may not like it, our pictures are being taken multiple times every day. It's a fact of life, so if you're going to leave your home you need accept that it happens and get a thicker skin and not let it bother you.

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    Like Roberta, I reside in Washington State. There is no expectation of privacy in public places when it comes to the visual, i.e., taking pictures. There was a case not too long ago of a creepy guy taking pictures of little kids in public. Nothing could be done about it. You could have told the theater management and perhaps he could have been thrown out because he violated the theatre's rules. Washington State is a two party state when it comes to making audio recordings.

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    Stephanie,
    Not an easy one to deal with but he was invading your privacy so you had every right to ask him nicely to delete the picture or you would make a complaint to the management .
    I guess you could have taken his picture but what that would have achieved I'm not sure . It was very rude and I feel it should have been pointed out otherwise he will just keep doing it .

    Kelly,
    As a professional photographer I still needed to seek permission from any person whether the picture was taken in private or public .

    I don't agree with Paula about getting a thicker skin , any person taking a picture in those circumstances has a certain responsiblity , the use of that picture could have disastrous consequences to some people .
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    He should have at least been discrete. Was he alone. You could have approached him and asked if you knew him.
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    Might have been fun to ask him why he took a picture of you. It may have made him squirm a little. If not squirm at least get an answer. If he responds that it was of something else then I'm sure he wouldn't mind showing it to you. Maybe he wanted a picture of a pretty woman? Wouldn't he be surprised! Or... maybe he's also a crossdresser and liked the way you did your make up??? Who knows....next time be forward and friendly, maybe it's not the conclusion we jump to.

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    You could have reported it to the management at the time, at least he would have been thrown out as cameras are not allowed to be used in theatres.
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    You really want to throw him you should have just said “oh hon if you wanted s picture, just ask” then go right up to him and take a selfie with him.

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    I'd have sat right next to him and took a selfie with him and posted it on reddit, but that's me. I have to agree with those who say contact management and report him.
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    You've experienced a pet peeve of mine. I'm sorry it happened. Normally, if I catch them on time, I cover my face with my hand, giving them the finger in the process. Contacting management is an idea, but realistically, what would they do?

    On a side note, and I've touched on this before, I don't think there's any activity too mundane that it can't be enjoyed while dressed (aside one exception or two), but getting all dolled up just to sit in a room with no light is not my idea of time well spent dressed (especially when alone), but that's just me.

    If you absolutely can't do without going to the movies dressed, I suggest you wait until they start the previews before you enter the room. Less risky that way.
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    Patience,
    I've found the cinema very enjoyable , I don't get too dolled up but I've had some lovely conversations in the bar before the show and just before the performance starts while seated . If some aren't comfortable being out in public the cinema is a great way of breaking the ice , to me it's perfectly normal to go as Teresa .

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