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    To honour or disrespectful

    My wife is cleaning out her late mother's closet. Is it wrong to scoop a few items of her clothing?

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    You need to have a conversation with your wife.

    If she does not know you cross dress then don't go anywhere near them.

    It maybe she wont want you to have them as it may upset her if your wearing her mothers clothes.

    If she agrees to you having them then go for it.
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    I agree fully with Shelly. Those clothes have meaning to your wife. Messing with them could turn out to be an infuriating thing for your wife. Personally, I would not even consider it. Play it safe.

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    Shelly put it succinctly.

    Use common sense and show respect.
    Work on your elegance,
    and beauty will follow.

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    Let them go.
    The things you see as just clothes are reminders of her mother and although she may say she's fine with you have a few, the will be fraught with memories that will cause many mixed emotions for her.
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    Well every situation is different, but I would predict that this is a really bad idea. Do you want to appear as your wife's mother? The number of different possible ick factors here are astounding. Plus, is she even likely to have much that isn't way back dated, matronly, or even close in size?
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    I also agree with Shelly , you need to be respectful to both your wife and your mother in law .

    My other thought is would there be anything worth having depending on what the age gap is . If I was in a situation to be offered I think I might decline anyway wearing an older lady's clothes doesn't feel right .
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    Regardless of whose clothing it is, Do you really want to dress a generation older than you are?

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    This is a REALLY, REALLY bad idea on so many levels that I don't even know where to start...

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    I'm with Meghan and Leslie on this one. The downside risks are way too high.
    It's just the clothes... isn't it?

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    This would not end well in a lot of ways. If it's just a convenient way to get some things of your own, it may seem easy but the consequences would be huge about her finding out and the dressing up idea.

    Maybe going to a second hand store and finding something that really appeals to you would have a better value to you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Micki_Finn View Post
    Regardless of whose clothing it is, Do you really want to dress a generation older than you are?
    Oh, I readily agree this is probably a bad idea. However, if she was a collector of fine vintage lingerie/slips I can feel your desire to save them. If she had knowledge of your cross dressing and your wife approves maybe it would be alright. I'd hate to see some garments ending up at Goodwill and then sold on ebay.

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    I would say don't do it.
    Telling your wife that you would like to have some of her mother's clothes sounds risky at the best of times, but even more so at a time like this.
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    Bad idea.

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    I wouldn't even consider it. Real bad idea.

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    I agree with others, bad juju

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    If we are voting, put me down as a 'NO'

    NO way, nada, not happening.

    There is an 'ick factor' on so many levels.

    But, you do what you want.
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    I agree with everyone here: This is a big big NO NO so in other words, forget about it. If you go anywhere near any of those items, you could cause a lot of unncessary friction in your marriage so don't even think of doing anything silly.

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    This idea kind of gives me the creeps. My vote is obviously "no". I can't think of any reason to even pursue this idea.

    However, if your wife thinks it's ok and you really want those things, it's your prerogative.

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    No because its very disrespectful.
    I can't believe you even gave it a thought.
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    This has nothing to do with your M I Law and everything to do your SO!
    Ask her, not us!
    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    If your wife is good with that.

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    Everyone makes good points. Never without your wife's blessing. One more thing, though. DO you really want to dress like your mother in law?

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    I wouldn't go anywhere near them..Bad idea

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    Does your wife know you dress and is she accepting? If she is and if there is a special piece to remember her by then I may ask. If not don't even go there

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