I have men friends and women friends but when I see an attractive woman I know which way I am leaning.
I have men friends and women friends but when I see an attractive woman I know which way I am leaning.
I started life a lost man now I am a found woman
We look to Scotland,for all our Ideas of Civilisation-Voltaire
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A woman who loves to wear beautiful clothes is like a flower.
A man who loves to emulate these women is a special flower-a rose Facebook:Sophie Johnson
Wow, I'm new here but I'm amazed at the comments.If you don't have or haven't had sex with a man while dressed fully as a woman, you don't know what you're missing! It has NOTHING to do with being attracted to the man, but has everything to do with being attracted to the woman you feel like at that moment! Personally I don't get these 'crossdressers' who wear 'women's' jeans and insist they're straight. Why dress if you're just gonna wear jeans, and the label doesn't matter. You don't have to be attracted to the man or his equipment, but when you feel what he does with it, and turns you into a real woman (rhetorically speaking), you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. Some already know what I mean.
As far as being Bi...watching porn or fantasizing about being with a man does not make you Bi, and while actually being with a man while dressed as a woman TECHNICALLY makes you Bi, I don't consider it to be bisexual, as you are emotionally a woman at that moment. Full blown Bi would be if you engage in sex with a man AS a man.
Also, while there ARE straight crossdressers, most who say they're straight are lying to themselves and everyone else. That's fine, many are (unnecessarily) ashamed of it, but when someone decides to be honest with themselves, a whole new world opens up.
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LovinHose. I am a Straight Cross Dresser. I have no desire for sex with either a man or a woman. I just like the feel of the cloths. I do enjoy going out on rare occurrences all dolled up. I still don't feel the need for sex with a man. To date, no man has hit on me when enfem either but 8 woman have hit on me in drab.
So therefore, you statement that all CDers who are saying they are straight and do no desire a mans relation are lieing is wrong.
I learned a long time ago to never make "absolute Statements" because there is always that one exception that destroys the absoluteness.
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Leslie Mary Shy
Remember this:
You do not have to be a man to love a woman, or be a woman to love women's clothes on her or yourself.
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Lovinghose
I agree with you 100% i feel the sam
When I first started out my public answer was always "NO". No matter how I felt inside. There was no way I would own up to it, especially on a public forum such as this. I often wondered what I would do in a situation where it really happened. When the time came for my first experiance with a man; I never even thought about it. I just did it. As automatically as with a GG. Afterwards there was no second guessing, no guilt, nothing but acceptance that I would be doing this again.
As for women being bisexual. Most of my social circle are GGs. With only a couple of exceptions they have all admitted to either having thoughts of being with a woman or actually being with a woman. Mind you this is not the same as being "bisexual". I just looked this up. Officially less than 2 percent consider themselves bisexual. Yet; according to a recent study at Boise State University, at least 60 percent of women studied ( mostly younger college age women) consider themselves bi-curious. And other studies suggest that number goes up, and some say way up as women age.
No, it is not pure sex for me. Roxanne is a happy bi "gurl", and so would adore a man in her life. She (or, I) so want a lover, a male SO who understands, and wants me, as Roxanne. I have so much love and adoration to give, and do not want to live alone for the rest of my life. Yes, I want to kiss, hug, snuggle, adore, be obedient to, a male in my life. I do not see any other way. Surely, there is someone out there, who will let me be happy as Roxanne.
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Wonderful assessment, and I fully agree-Roxanne Lanyon
As Sweet As I Can Ever Be
I have a male friend who has come over a few times, when I am dressed, and we take girlfriend / boyfriend type pictures together, I'm the girl A lot of fun. He has hugged me and kisses me when he leaves. It was kind of nice and it gets my fantasies going, but I doubt I would let it go anymore than that.
Only you know if you will ever go on with it and only you can decide how far you will go. For me not a question, I would in a heartbeat but dont have to be dressed. But then I am bi so there is that.
Roxanne '... be obedient to...'?! Have you seen what year it is? A personal desire to have a dominant partner is fine but please don't suggest that obedience is somehow linked to being a woman.
Likewise Livinhose. I've tried sex with men. It's not for me. I'm straight. It is what it is. I thought I might be bi but I'm not. But also I wear women's jeans. I'm a liar, am I? You're very simply playing into that tired old narrative that all CDs are gay. Thanks. Oh and you're emphatically wrong. Like Lana Mae I'm a straight crossdresser. Why do we care about the labels? Well, personally, I don't but they are a simple and accurate description of who and what I am. It's not a case of 'protesting too much'. We're not in denial. Nor are we homophobic for pointing to own personal sexual preferences.
Surely a community as diverse and allegedly accepting as this can discuss both gender roles and sexuality without resort to anachronistic sexism and homophobia (or insinuations of such).
The question doesn't really apply to me since I'm not totally hetero. I also don't know what feminine feels like since I'm not a woman.
"You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder
Another great question which I wonder about. I consider myself a hetro CD I do love dressing. I have been with a mail as a CD and I can say I didn't like it. generally don't find men attractive and have a hard time seeing what ggs see in men. I have been flirted with by guys and I love it but when it comes to touching not so much.
All this just makes our hobby so much more mysterious and strange
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They see: Indications of leadership, which include intelligence, confidence, decisiveness, general lack of concern about other people's objections to his decisions; for women, height seems to matter a great deal, and most will initially not find a man shorter than herself even of possible interest, though that might change if he has exceptional other qualities. Indicators of strength (musculature, build and if he appears to be exceptionally physically fit, and again, height), awareness of what's going on around him, his tendency to be at the center the group during social interactions, his lack of spontaneous submissive behavior in social settings, displays of wealth and status, posture, and how other men seem to naturally behave somehow subordinate to him. FWIW, a lot of quite tall men seem to behave almost apologetic for their height; the alpha male, even when short, does not behave that way, nor does he usually behave aggressively; his status is clear to pretty much everyone around him. While there are some men that women consider 'beautiful', for the most part, a handsome physical appearance is only of secondary importance compared to everything else. As Kissinger once said, 'Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac'.
Even then, when a guy walks into a room and the women perk up and notice, I don't immediately see what THEY see in him. It's not what draws my attention. OTOH, when a hot woman walks in the room, all the women notice her. Something to do with the inherent feminine nature to be aware of her female competition in the social realm.
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Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
I have found myself everywhere on the spectrum from -"Guys? Yuck. I'm totally straight" to "I am a woman and only interested romantically in men." to "I am gay and prefer being a man with other men" to "I am a male lesbian". My explanation is that humans compartmentalize A LOT- as a natural way to stay focused and get things done. The internal walls seem real and solid, and perhaps for some of us they are, or simply last a lifetime. It is fair not to assume that these walls are fiction, but in my case they were.
We are all beautiful...!
JaniceP,
It would seem that you have created a good discussion. Some pushed away into shyness over what they thought was okay to discuss to some firmly standing their ground preaching...
My feelings towards this is not a “label” or you must be this way to that.
If you are out and are attracted to someone then why shouldn’t you be happy? Regardless if they are male or female. If you are afraid of labels and what would others think then you need to look at what matters more to you the label or other people
Be yourself.
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Michelle
I could, and I have. In the past couple of years, I've been with men almost exclusively, though not in any meaningful way.
Hi Hun. I have to admit I am pretty jealous. About to head into surgery for the 2nd time in 6 months. It is what it is. I love you and our friendship. I wish you all the best!!! All My LOVE Wendi
Leslie Mary Shy
Remember this:
You do not have to be a man to love a woman, or be a woman to love women's clothes on her or yourself.
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WOW,
I don't want to add to the core discussion but would say we are all individuals so don't equate you with me and expect to get a tick. Just enjoy yourselves, whatever that includes.
I did love the discussion. for me: I love the attention of women and being girlfriends, if anything else comes up I will make up my mind at the time, with little regret. I do however value my privacy so am very discrete about Jenny, and as such don't currently plan to make a big thing about anything. The key is acceptance of self and some people struggle with this so give them some latitude and if you disagree that's good, but be kind. Most of us here know what fear is! don't be the person who generates it.
Jen
Everyone has their own feelings, for me:
When in male mode, I identify as a heterosexual man.
I will notice a good looking or together guy but I'm not attracted to men.
When I am dressed, I am very attracted to men and I have acted upon that attraction.
When dressed, I am still attracted to women and have been with women while dressed and the holy grail, a couple!
Never say never. I have been attracked to a few guy in male mode. Wife even enjoy watching a guy hit on me in male mode. We went to a party one night and I was dressed to the nines, if I was going to submit to a guy that would of been the night, but the only one to hit on me was a lesbian. Now I'm at and age that if anyone hits on me I would welcome it.