My wife knew of my crossdressing before we we're married and is very accepting. We've been married over 10 years. The other day she said she had "figured it out". Figured what out I asked. The question of why men who crossdress that have sexual interaction with other men and don't consider themselves gay.
It is her theory that because he is presenting as a woman that in his mind he is having that experience as a woman which makes it ok and not gay.
Your thoughts?