So, there's MY way. There's MY WIFE'S way. But we established many years ago there's the 3rd way. Think of it as a no-compromise compromise. By that I mean neither party feels they're compromising MORE than the other. Even in typical marital compromise that way leads to resentment sometimes.
She likes those curtains, I don't? We don't buy them. And vice versa. It's not an exact science and takes patience sometimes waiting for that 3rd way to show itself.
Which is where I am now with CDing. Wife wants JUST hubby. I want some Abbie time. So this is one of the more intractable 3rd way searches we've had as we're not typically so diametrically opposed. Our usual unilateral veto approach isn't working with something that refuses to go away.
We'll figure something out, with time. But what are some of your '3rd ways'?