Tracii, it's not for everyone It is an incredibly densely populated state and with so many people living on top of one another there is a general attitude of "live and let live, but we're gonna say something about it." I think I've written about it before, but a NJ resident will say things affectionately to people whom they figure are 'in the know' with them. If a NJ resident says something mean TO you, it usually means genuine affection with the expectation of being treated in kind. If you get the sense that a NJ resident is saying something mean ABOUT you and trying to be sly, then they think they're smarter than you and they're just an a--h-le. But a NJ friend with whom you trade affectionate barbs is usually a loyal friend for life. Common here is the expression "A friend will help you move. A NJ friend will help you move … a body."