She obviously doesn't like your dressing. It would have been best if you told her and negotiated these inter-family issues before you married her and had a child with her. Would be good advice for anyone in that situation, even when crossdressing is not involved. For better or worse, you are now stuck with her rules.
(Of course, a man who tells a woman what she can and can't wear would be torn to pieces, but it is the way the system works...)
On the other hand, you have a family. I am your age, and while I am single and can dress all I want, I am getting old and will probably never have a family or children of my own. I envy you. I'd gladly give up my dressing to have what you have.