Let me start off by saying that life is not fair. It seems that this is not obvious to some people in this world. Discussions go from the sublime to the ridiculous, but it still doesn’t remove the fact that life isn’t fair. When it comes to CD’ers, many people in this world don’t understand the why’s of their dressing, or even care for that matter. So, this begs the question, what do we, as CD’ers, want so that everything is ‘fair’. When many examine why women get to wear men’s clothes, and men don’t get to wear women’s clothes, they are forgetting one important thing? Women that may be wearing men’s clothes are not attempting to look and act like men. They are simply wearing something that is comfortable for them at that given time. Can the same be said for some, or all CD’ers? I can only speak for myself, I don’t attempt to pass for looking like a woman, yet I wear some clothes that are traditionally are considered to be women’s clothing. By definition, I am crossdressing, so what is the point. Life is not fair, that is the point!
Yet I wonder is it jealousy that causes us to feel that it isn’t fair. Would we still be CD’ers if it was the year 1819, or 1919, looking at the rights and freedoms that women had in those days, or would we only be interested in the finery of the rich? The lives of women was no picnic during that time period, so would the vast majority of CD’ers want anything to do with what women were going through in those time periods. I’m not so sure that most of there clothes would be comfortable anyway!
As women were emancipated, men themselves didn’t realize that they need to have freedom also. The masculine needs to be more than cannon fodder for whatever a countries leader lusts after. Men needed to have ways to express the gentler caring side that is within them. Some needed the freedom to express the strong feminine side within them that gets hidden and buried through shame, bullying, etc. Some may be just looking to find a way to express an intellectual nature that encompasses more than just the masculine. Then again for some there is a strong biological drive that says that they are not who everyone thinks that they are. Live is not fair!
Within the CD culture there are many types. Whether life is fair to them boils down to possibly what type they are. Whining about why life isn’t fair changes nothing. Accept yourself, change yourself, just realize that you are never going to please everyone.