Simply Put, your wife is 100% right, you were wrong to dress like that so learn from her and don't do it again. She is right you represent all CD's. If someone see's you dressed ****ty then they have a bad opinion of CD's. That would be your fault. On the other hand if you were dressed nice they just might be more accepting and all CD's would move up the ladder of acceptance another rung. Are fishnets really appropriate??? One more thing, you are very very lucky to have such am accepting classy wife.
One more thing I need to mention, I have posted in the past that I am a nice size so I can wear feminine clothes well. If I am in a store dressed attractively and conservatively wearing low heel girl shoes, girl pants and top with appropriate size boobs why shouldn't I be accepted as a nicely dressed CD. I feel dressed as such I look better in female clothes than male. What's wrong with me wanting to dress and look female??????????????????????????