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    Loosing the want.

    Itís the middle of a very cold winter here in Australia (Melbourne), Iím finding that while Iím still buying a few things here and there and swapping clothes with a friend in Queensland I just canít be bothered at the moment. Feels like Iím loosing my mojo. Iíve even gone nearly 2 weeks without shaving, such is the slump I find myself in.
    Im sure the pink fog will return in time.
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    I get into that funk sometimes.....takes too much effort to shower, shave ,lotion, makeup & wig and gather my clothes (I keep everything in the attic and its very cramped area and my bags are heavy). But when I do go thru the process I LOVE and ENJOY the entire ordeal!


    Sometimes I think its my age, or not being able to share the experience with someone else....but I FULLY want to be feminine as much as possible.

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    Yeah Ok like whatever Tracii G's Avatar
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    I dress as me 24/7 365 and the motivation is always there.
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    The desire to dress ebbs and flows. There's nothing wrong with that.

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    It happens. 🤷*♀️
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    Rachel,
    Sounds like "Wintertime Blues !" maybe you should try and find a place to hibernate for a while !

    I love the change of seasons, I'm wearing some items I didn't get the chance to wear last year but at the same time keeping an eye out for bargains to wear when the weather cools down later this year .
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    Go with! The desire will return and probably even stronger! Get some winter clothes and go for it when you are ready! Hugs Lana Mae
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    I ran into that funk many times. I've even got all dressed up, looked in the mirror, and, said to myself "Why am I doing this?" Sometimes it just does not do anything for me. Sometimes I let the facial hair grow until my wife mentions it. Sometimes I feel great barefooted, cut off shorts and graphic tee shirt with Bigfoot on it.

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    So take a break, no big deal. Don't overthink it.

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    I find CD is like a Drug or a "Fix" . That helps me relax and unwind. I only have to Do it when the "URGE" comes. Sometimes the "FIX" will last longer than others.

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    I can't tell if she's turning her mojo loose, if if she's losing her mojo.
    Well, somebody has to make up that base of the bell curve that defines "normal".
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    Yeah Ok like whatever Tracii G's Avatar
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    If you don't feel like dressing don't its as easy as that.
    The urge will come back I'm sure. Everybody says that so it must be true.
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    All's not lost..
    The urges will return. I've been through this before but it's normally when the weather heats up, to have this happen at the moment could be a good thing.
    I still sleep only in lingerie (baby dolls & short satin nighties are my favorite) wife doesn't complain about that either. It helps me sleep well to be honest.
    I'm still haunting the op shops for bargains, in the last 3 weeks ive bought about 7 dresses, 5 skirts and a few other things.
    It's just that there's still only 24 hours in the day.. no matter how you try and manage your time, it's just impossible to change that!!

    As i type this, I think i'll be getting an opportunity to try a few things on later tonight when everyone is out.. fingers crossed.
    i am what I am, I do what I do..
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    So many Melbournians I've known hit the antidepressants when winter comes around.

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    Rachel, I get your feeling. I'm more likely to dress in winter when its not hot though.
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    Here in Colorado we have those extremes in the weather. Frigid in the winter sometimes and boiling in the summer, like this week. People feel trapped in their homes. It gets you down either way. Called cabin fever here and I am sure elsewhere. It will pass. A bit of a mild depression caused by feeling kind of trapped and not being able to engage in your normal activities without a whole lot of effort. Kind of like Winter Blues or the more serious SAD (seasonal affective disorder) both of which tend to occur in the winter. Exposure to a lot of really bright light for awhile each day will release some hormone that tricks your brain into thinking it isn't the way it really is. Result - you have more energy and enthusiasm for doing things.

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    I find it harder to dress in the summer myself. Too hot to wear a wig or anything much more than skimpy clothes.
    "You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder

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    I like the cool in the winter for dressing up either in guy clothes (looking sharp in a sport coat) or girl clothes. But what gets annoying is how dry the cold air becomes which wreaks havoc on my hands. Snags my nylons.

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    Wifeling has a degree of SAD (amongst her catalogue of disorders &#129301 so I attest to it's effects.
    Maybe see your GP if it persists.

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    Seems to be a disorder for even the simplest of things.
    Summer is hot winter is cold it happens every year so people should be used to that.
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    You can lose the want even deny the want , the bottom line is the want will eventually find you until until you submit .

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    I've dressed for the most part of almost 60 years. really in to it for the past 13 years and never had the happen. I know It will return for you.
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    Iíve been the same like 2 years now. My brain goes ďyou should dress tonight ď . The same brain that night goes ď why? What for?Ē. I still enjoy it when I do... some dynamic changed somewhere. Do it if you want when you want I guess.
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    Just do what feels right for the moment. We are all have different needs and wants out of this.

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    I'm currently in that funk but it's kinda forced. I can wear stuff under my "normie" clothes but it's not the same. I finally shaved after a month of growing fur but it's already growing back lol but I still gotta wear my toe ring and anklets and pretty sandals.

    Don't worry luv you'll get your mojo back

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