Darci
I got just about the same response that you did. In fact, she said, "Get fixed".
Well, it turned out that she was out of town a lot taking care of her dad. While she was out of town, I went out and about starting with a local girl that I met on this forum, and then her friends, and their friends. By the time she got back more or less full time, I had been out enough that I didn't want to go back in the closet. For a while, I would meet my CD friends out and about, and tell my wife that I was going out drinking with the guys. That was nothing but the truth, but not the whole truth. I got tired of the lies, and eventually told her the whole truth. We ended up negotiating boundaries that I could go out dressed twice a month, provided she never saw me dressed, not participated at all. It was a DADT compromise that I could live with. It required me to change into my girl costume in the car, and change back before I got home. Eventually, I made friends with another local CD whose wife embraced her CD husband. She would let me change at her house before going out and about.
It's worked for me for several years now, but YMMV.