Eemz,
That is the whole point for whatever reason she doesn't " Hate my guts !" The truth be known she knows she's made a big mistake . No I don't believe everything she tells me anymore she's bent the truth too many times , she is gradually learning she can't speak for everyone but she has had that controlling influence over all of us for many years , it takes time to adjust to it . Yes my kids are grown adults but at times she still treats them like kids , maybe it's a lack of maturity in her .
I totally agree I will have to talk to my son direct but have been talking to my daughter for some time but as I mentioned my wife made it very difficult for my daughter .