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    Aspiring Member NancyJ's Avatar
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    Do you want to BE a woman or ...

    When I put on my first pair of (Mom’s) panties and rummaged through her fascinating drawer of stockings, girdles, and bras, I just wanted to touch those sensuous things and experience what it was like to wear them. The more I watched women and men, the more I decided I did not want to grow up to be a man, wished I would grow up to be a woman, and admired the lives the girls in my neighborhood seemed to be living. For a while, I thought dressing as a woman would be enough. It wasn’t. And, of course I could not stop my physical maturation as a man and Intook on stereotypical male roles — maybe over compensated for my repressed transgenderism by becoming hyper-maco in some hobbies and external dress (even though I’ve worn panties 24/7 for 49 years).

    Now, actually, I dress less often because the dysphoric hangover is so severe. It’s actually easier to just stay away from my forms, skirts, and heels so that I don’t have to take them off. Kinda crazy? At least I can wear my panties 24/7 :-).

    How about you? Do you wish you were a woman? (I do.) Or do you just enjoy dressing like one? Nancy

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    I have come to the point where and it has taken a lifetime to realize that I AM a woman! At 4-6 I wanted that dress! I never received it! I was then indoctrinated into being a male! I even accepted that role but did not realize I was really a female! A wise person once said The sum total of who we are is not determined by our genitals!(Holly) Many other factors have come forward after working closely with my therapist! I am on HRT and my "T" and "E" levels are both in the female range! HRT aside, I am the happiest I have ever been and that is saying a lot! I am in the process of saving money for the name and gender change! After that possible surgeries! I do not wish I was a woman, I am! Hugs Lana Mae
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    My dad often used a familiar old saying in regard to wishes: “if wishes were horses, beggars would ride.” To this day, I cannot say the word “wish” or so much as think “I wish...” without hearing those words.

    So, does that mean its wrong to wish or dream? I don’t think that’s the intent. The question becomes what do you make of your wish or dream. Are you willing and able to make whatever that might be into a reality? The answer to that question, in my case, is that I’m only willing to go so far. I have spent considerable time, emotional energy and money...and lost a marriage in pursuit of living as a woman. But, unlike Lana Mae, I can neither say confidently that “I am a woman” nor am I willing to risk any more towards fulfilling my own wish. At best, I’ll remain somewhere in between the gender poles, gravitating towards one or the other as circumstances dictate or permit.
    Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.

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    I never thought I would transition to be a woman.
    Even sometime ago, when I started on hormones wasn't sure where I would get.
    Almost years and a half in HRT, the only regret is or did it before it life is good now, I stay married with my lo e for 40 years, have 3 amazing kids that gave me 3 daughters, and a grandkid 10 years old. I don't it would be better in other way. Who knows?
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    YOULOVEMYTOES Palaina Nocturnus's Avatar
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    Yes, I wish daily I would just wake up as a female

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    I definitely subscribe to the gender continuum theory. I am clearly on the more feminine side but I also have substantial male characteristics. I am not going to transition so I live my life in a binary existence. I have a loving, accepting wife and great children; no they don't know. My life is good and I am satisfied. Expressing my femininity is important to me; but so are the other of parts of my life. You play the hand you were dealt and make the best of it.

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    I adore women, but no thanks ! Just like to wear their silly clothing !

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    I wish I was a woman. If I had all the info, resources and the internet in the late 70's and the 80's I think I would have probably had SRS. Age, money and a medical condition make that impossible now. So, yes I wish I were female, but I get by and I am fairly happy and content.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Robbiegirl View Post
    I adore women, but no thanks ! Just like to wear their silly clothing !
    Ditto

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    Sometimes yes I wish I had been born a woman but I was not but deep inside me there are strong feminine feelings so dressing completely fills that void and keeps me happy.
    I started life a lost man now I am a found woman

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    Yes....the more I dress and indulge in the female world the more I wish that I was just a girl. I LUV when I am feeling Fem and dressing and going out. Wish I could just do that all the time without all the trouble and secrecy. I would LOVE to be a girl 24/7 and just deal with all the issues of being a girl (Which there are many) vs. dealing with all the issues of being a guy (Which there are many).

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    Nancy, I have no desire in transitioning. I love wearing women's clothing, but it stops there.
    Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".

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    At times I have desired to be female but overall I don't want to change

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    Quote Originally Posted by alwayshave View Post
    Nancy, I have no desire in transitioning. I love wearing women's clothing, but it stops there.
    I'm the same as Jamie.


    Karen

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    We are all on the Transgender spectrum just different places and we are not stuck in one part of that spectrum, it can change often for some of us.
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    Crissy, this is so true.
    I find myself in some sort of middle ground. I do not have any desire to transition, but equally neither do i associate with the "masculine" male type either.
    "The only way is onward. There is no turning back."

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    When I first tried on my mom's lingerie I was 5 or 6.
    I didn't know why, but it just felt so natural to me. It certainly wasn't sexual at that age.
    Later I went through that sexual stage and then it changed again and for the last 25 years hasn't been so. It's just been that "natural" feeling again.
    Do I want to be a woman? I would fall asleep when I was little and pray I would wake up a girl. Now I know that deep inside I am that girl and it's just that my outside doesn't match.
    I can do and have done all kinds of manly things, but they have never brought me the peace and comfort that I find when I express my femininity.

    Where will I end up? I can't say just yet, the journey is still ongoing.
    I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !

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    Nope. I'm just a sort of contrarian male who's jealous of some of the things women have to themselves in the "real" world.
    To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. ~ Timothy Keller

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    Bea, Pretty funny!
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    No, never wished or had a want to be a woman. I enjoy dressing as a crossdresser or as a woman prettied up for a special occasion, you know like wearing a dress, nylons and heels!

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    I am OK being me...dressed whatever way I feel like at the moment. I do prefer to be very fashionable...just because.
    Life is too short to be boring...Alexandra

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    Though I often wish I were a woman transition is highly unlikely for me at this time. I know myself well enough to know that it wouldn't be a good decision.
    Last edited by Elizabeth G; 08-15-2019 at 08:43 AM.

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    Yes I do is the short answer.

    I have spent the last few years looking for the answer to this question. It is something you just have to answer for yourself. No one can answer for you.

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    Yes, I want to be a woman. But I can’t, right now.

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    I like to wear women's clothing but that's it.

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