It is just like religion, philosophy, science, newspapers, radio, telephones, television, and movies. A mixture of both good and bad. Human nature.
It is just like religion, philosophy, science, newspapers, radio, telephones, television, and movies. A mixture of both good and bad. Human nature.
I'm not big on, "what if's", Maria.
What if u hadn't found CD.com online?
Who knows? But, I CAN tell u this. I suffered alone for 10 years in a vacuum trying to work out why the heck I suddenly wanted to be a woman and began secretly dressing like one?
Then, I went online and found cd.com. And, within 2 years all my CD issues cleared up and my life changed forever!
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Like Sarah I am an older 'baby boomer' too. As a child of the 1950's and 1960's I seriously doubted my sexuality. Society dictated any man who wore women's clothing was a "faggot, fruit, queer" and subject to ridicule and worse. Gay had not yet been co-opted by the homosexual community. There was no other terms other than more vulgarity. How could a teenager who lusted after girls and loved Annette Funicello be gay? A life full of self loathing and hiding.
The Internet came along and information was becoming available. I had come to the conclusion with self therapy there was nothing wrong with me. This site gave me affirmation of my self diagnosis. I know nobody in my day to day community who is a cross dresser. So, this evening my wife is watching "Say Yes to the Dress" and I am banging away on the key board.
Of course, Maria has an understanding and supportive wife. But, it also sounds as if Maria is a good guy too, and, does not overwhelm his wife. I am intentionally using a male pronoun because Maria is obviously a dual person and operates as such.
Of course the internet as it relates to cross dressing or transgender woman is full of negativity which is my opinion of related porn and sites which denigrate cross dressers and trans people.
I will also give a shout out to Youtube and the wealth of supportive information posted there.
The internet is good and your example is proof of it
If it were not for the internet and sites like this I would still be totally in the closet with no hope at all.
Crissy
There are plenty of good and bad things out there on the internet, but there's no doubt that this forum has totally changed my life for the better.Without the internet i would certainly be in the closet for life....
"The only way is onward. There is no turning back."
Internet is good, because you can access so much more information and make friends online, but I kind of miss times when mobile phones didn't have cameras. I was much more relaxed when going out fully or partly dressed.
i will agree with the others. internet good and bad. depends where you go. i am a bit biased as building the web kept me employed for over 30 years. As the ohers have stated, this is the only forum i consistently visit. yes i don't sign on very often but i visit almost every day.
the moderators here are among the best and because of that, this has become my go to place for questions. It was here that i found out i was not alone, that what i did was not "wrong" and was able to make peace with the battle that was waging inside of me for so long. It was here i learned about myself, the girl inside me and how i could balance the two and be sane and happy at the same time.
i have take council from many here through your posts and replies. For that, for me, the internet is very good. thank you maria and moderators. i will now move back into the shadows and learn.
All things considered. Bad. But I'm still here....
The internet is a good thing, as others have said it makes available what would normally would have not been. Can it be abused, yes. Is it abused, yes. is it an an asset, I think yes. Tools have always been used/abused/perverted for wrong, that does not mean they are not good.
I respect that thought Brenda. But I personally think we are now the tools of the internet.
Similar to the others, good and bad. This forum has been awesome for me. It helped me realize I was not nuts! I never felt guilt about dressing, but I was confused about it all. The girls here helped me, and later my wife understand that I can dress and still be a man.
I never have cared for Facebook so no opinion there!
I met my wife on the Internet. So yeah, the jury's still out. 😁
Nah, the net's like a hammer. It's what you do with it that counts.
More specifically though, Maria, it seems like you're asking if your progression from slip and hose to full femme is a bad thing and is it this forum's fault. I'd answer both with a hearty shrug..,
Would you have taken quite this road without this site? Maybe. Maybe not.
I'm a firm believer however in only regretting the things I didn't do. As long as you and your wonderful wife are both OK with your path I wouldn't question it too much.
where would we be without it? ploughing around in the dark ostracised by sections of the community (yes that still happens now but I believe it is in decline) would we have the gendre freedom we now have i doubt we would have had the ease to seek out other like minded people so yes the internet is a good thing, sort the wheat from the chaff, do not believe what you read with exceptions of course. but on the whole is it good, yes I found this site and felt peace for the first time in years.
I started life a lost man now I am a found woman
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