Congratulations Steffi, that's fantastic!
Congratulations Steffi, that's fantastic!
Outstanding. I would love to hear how everything turns out.
[B][I]Call me Michelle: doll:
Steffi, Congratulations! That is wonderful and it looks like you will get the job. Please get the wife talk behind you soon, you will be ok but you just need to do it.
Crissy
Wonderful! Looking forward to hearing more about your journey.
A cautious congrats, Steffi.
That talk though? I'm not sure this is great advice, especially since I believe in being honest even though my wife disapproves... Maybe stick to the DT part of DADT.
There, I've said it. Of course you'll need to tell her about the job, but I'd strongly suspect she'll put 2 and 2 together very rapidly then it's up to her if she wants to ask.
Granted that then entails her breaking the DA part and you may prefer to not put her in that position. Perfectly understandable. But you're kinda already doing that. You don't need THIS job. But you sure do want it. So ultimately your desires are what's stretching the bounds of the contract you and your wife have struck, however reluctant you might have been in acceding.
So that brings me to a place I can very much sympathise with. My wife doesn't care for me dressing, at all, as noted. But I want to go to a Non-binary social. For me, my position as her carer renders moot any choice about telling her. I have to. But I would anyway, frankly.
This is your call, Steffi. Which is going to weigh on you more in the long run? Potentially deceiving your wife, rationalising to yourself that what she doesn't know can't hurt? Or missing out on this opportunity (I would still consider the income an ancillary benefit, given the potential downsides. I doubt it's a significant enough bargaining chip for your wife.)?
You asked for advice on 'The Talk 2.0'. I'm really not sure that the way you approach this is at all important compared with the decision over whether you do indeed have the talk at all. Put another way, this is a situation where there's fewer ways to lessen the blow and probably fewer questions, since those are typically dealt with in 'The Talk 1.0'. But the pitfalls remain potentially as huge. Is this something that could cause an irreparable rift? Only you know, Steffi.
Keep us posted. We're all rooting for you.
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