Age at which you came to grips

[INeedThis123]

I've been wearing women's clothing since I started wearing my sister's swim suits, then nylons, then dresses and panties around 12 or 13. With ZERO disrespect meant, I've notice I'm a minority insofar as my age. I'm heterosexual, but the past 20 years I've accumulated and spent at LEAST $20,000 on lingerie, heels.. My question? Why am I in the minority? Again, no disrespect meant, but please don't delete the post. I just feel like I'm a stranger, here, when I am really struggling with what I think is a fetish, but borderline want to be, and feel, like a gorgeous woman.

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And wearing a not so "classy" dress and 10" platform heels, a thong, a bra, putting on make up and lipstick, and walking around the house with confidence has become somewhat of an addiction. Advice, needed. <3

[Tracii G]

Sounds like you have a fetish and like to dress like a hooker.
This site isn't your regular CD/ pron hub site.
None of this is a fetish for me and never has been.Its who I am.
None of this is sexual for me so we seem to differ in that respect.


I will say welcome and glad you found this site.
I hope some here can help you find what you are looking for.
Age is just a number so don't worry too much about that.

[INeedThis123]

As I said, no disrespect meant, nor do I think this is a pornographic message board. Thought it was a place that could help me be me. Sorry.

[Tracii G]

No problem, no reason to be sorry.
We do get an occasional visitor that thinks this site is like a lot of the others that are kind of pornish.
I know you weren't being disrespectful and if we can help there are many here that would be glad to help.
I came to grips in my late 40s to answer your first question.

[docrobbysherry]

Don't get put off, Need This! I identify as a fetish dresser and there r quite a number here!

Not only that, there r very few dressers here or anywhere that haven't been turned on by their dressing at one time or another!

I would wager u r far from being in the minority on that issue here!

[Jane G]

Welcome to the forum. This is most definitely a place that will help you understand who you are. Spend time here. Read what others have experienced. There are such I wide spectrum of CD and transgender folk who pop in and out on this site. That makes it both a place to realize there are other people very like you and that every one is different and has their own battles, hangups, predudice, tollerance, you get the picture I hope.

Stick around? Be execpting of others, who may have very different views on being a CD and you will eventually find what you seek. For me it took around 40 years before I fully understood who I am.

[Tracii G]

The one thing to remember when you think you are the only one that feels a certain way you will find that you are not the only one and there may be many that feel the same way you do.

[Lana Mae]

Like many others, started in teens! Married 34 years and 5 months! Wife passed away! It all came flooding back like a tidal wave! Actually became aware of all of this at age 65! This is where I became aware! There is a lot of knowledge, experience and opinions here! Much can be learned! Sit back and enjoy the journey! Hugs Lana Mae

[lingerieLiz]

there are a lot of variations when first starting to CD. My first event was when my mother put me in panties when I was about 5. There are no exact reasons or how you will progress. Humans have so many variations.

[JuliaGirl]

I have dressed since I was maybe 11 or 12. Like BTWimRobin, at 56 I am also finally at absolute peace with my needs and desires. Still closeted, but happy.

[char GG]

Hi INeedThis123,

I see this is your first post. You may want to tell us a little bit about yourself in Introductions.

Please take a look at the forum rules: https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/faq.php

Hope you enjoy the forum.

[NancySue]

I can’t identify a specific date. I began early, not having a clue why I wanted/needed to dress...all lingerie, at first. I tried to quit...many times, thinking it would go away, but only to “fall off the wagon”. During the down times, I’d experience tension, anxiety and other distractions, which went away as I slipped on my lingerie. I found no answers in all my research reading. At that point, probably in my teens, I came to grips with my needs to dress. Once done, I never looked back.

[Teresa]

INeedthis...,
Please don't think you are different , I've checked your age and I can't think you are so different to many of us at that age . I agree you are spending a bucket of money at the moment , I would suggest you try and deal with that as dressing doesn't need that kind on money to enjoy it, that appears to be your addiction !

To make it clearer I may be late sixties now but it all kicked off for me when I was 8-9 years old , the T kicked in on top of a female trait and the rest is history as they say . CDing evolves ,we may be all different but the stages are similar in many cases , after all these years I'm now happily in balance and comfortable with it but it has come at a price . If I'm addicted to anything it's being out in the RW , I guess because I've found me !

[Jean 103]

First you differently are not alone.

They don't talk about sex here. So just stay away from that and you will be good.

I would guess that there are more people here like you than me.

I have a boyfriend that is a fetish dresser. He is into leather. Has no interest in going out in public, or meeting anyone else.

I'm completely the opposite. I live in the real world as Jean.

So stick around, you just might find the help you are looking for.

[Sabrina133]

Welcome to the group. As most have already said - the thing about this site is that we are all unique and, at the same time all part of the larger whole. You will find that our stories, reason for dressing, what we like and dislike is extremely varied.

Bree

[Leslie Mary S]

I most likely started when I was about nine (1952) but did not realize it fully until about 2002. I have also gone to the extreme and done a few nights as a Drag Queen performer.
I have made excursions out of my "Closet" on several occasions, this coming week end is one such trip, going out on the town for my 76th birthday.
So come on in. We all are unique, but don't feel lonely, As you stick around you will start feeling like a part of the group.

[LilSissyStevie]

The problem for a so-called fetish dresser who wonders what it's all about is that fetish sites are generally populated by people who only want to indulge their fetish fantasies and non-fetish sites are more puritanical than typical Southern Baptitsts and only want to indulge their gender fantasies. Both types of sites can be vapid in different ways but sometimes there's a glitch in the matrix that allows something interesting through. I started crossdressing 60 years ago and I'm still coming to grips with it.

[Stephanie47]

My cross dressing started with trying on my mother's slips. Then it was her girdles, bras, hosiery and panties and one particular sun dress I fit into. I never went through a "trashy looking" period. I'm not a psychologist so I am not skilled at psychoanalyzing anyone. However, when I emulate a woman it's based on my perception of a woman I would want to be. Or I feel I am when she comes to the forefront. My wife and I have been married for almost fifty years. I'm past seventy. I do not dress like my teenage granddaughter. If I was a teenage girl I would have no problem dressing like my granddaughter. She has excellent taste in clothes and makeup, but, does not get anywhere near a "trashy look." I can't explain "trashy" other than I know it when I see it.

It's all about "different strokes for different folks." I do not agree every cross dressers goes through a "hooker" look. My perception of a woman is not a hooker. Hookers are an aberration to womanhood. My wife was a drop dead gorgeous young woman when I met her (still is). Her attire was sexy yet tasteful because sexy is a lot more than the clothes and makeup.

If your cross dressing niche is not classy, so be it. I don't want to step on toes, but, if I was you I'd examine my perception of a woman.

[soyangela]

Hello Ineedthis,

I’m 52 and still trying to understand who I am. I’ve been wearing women’s clothing off and on all my life. For me that feeling that this is a fetish comes from my upbringing. Being told wanting to wear women’s clothes is wrong and something is wrong with you. Have I thought this is a fetish, yes. Which is why I put Angela away for a long time. I’m finally beginning to understand this is not a fetish. I enjoy putting on a dress and felling like a woman. I eventually want to go out and feel like a woman but that’s a long way off.

[Tracy Irving]

want to be, and feel, like a gorgeous woman.

There are more than a few members that share your desire.

This site contains a wealth of insight and information from some wonderful people. You're only a stranger if you want to be.

[Aunt Kelly]

No one point in time s te and out in a lifetime on the TG spectrum, but there were a couple of milestones. At 38, I let go of the guilt and accepted. Around 58 it became clear that i was more than a CD. At 61 I finally used the word transsexual in reference to myself.

[JulesLynne]

I’m 44 and have really come to terms with this over the past 1-2 years. I can’t tell you that I fully understand it, but at this point in my life I no longer try to hide it. I initially thought it was more of a kink but over the years realize that it’s way beyond that. I suppose that I still have some guilt issues and this is something that very few people know about - fortunately my wife is one of those people and she’s supportive. However, I’m OK being Jules and I have a great time with it.

[alwayshave]

I was 44 when I came to grips with it. I had hidden it from my ex-wife because I knew she would never accept. When I left her for reasons unrelated to dressing, I knew that I would never hide it form any future partner. I have been with my now wife for 13 years and came out to her about 8 months into out relationship before we moved in together. She accepted and I have been happy ever since.

[Robertacd]

I would have to say I was in my 40's when I finally came to grips with the obsessive buying. In my case it came down to coming out as transgender and actually going out dressed as often as I can. As now I only buy clothes that I will actually wear out in public, it's not like I am going to wear a ball gown or stripper heals to the grocery store.

Believe me I used to obsess over certain items, or styles you can probably even find evidence of that here. One day I realized that in my mind these are the clothes I should always be wearing but since I don't, my mind keeps telling me I have nothing to wear but these ugly boy clothes. So I should to buy more clothes and it didn't really matter what as long as it fit before I started going out.

[Piora]

For many years, I was a "fetish dresser", and used that for sexual gratification. Often, I still do that. But it was only after joining this site, and reading what other members were doing and experiencing that I began to explore other avenues of dressing that had not actually occurred to me previously. Before, I had only dressed in lingerie....no "outer clothing" such as dresses, blouses, skirts etc. I still have a passion for those - but I now dress as close to what actual everyday women might wear....knee-length skirts, dresses, tops, jackets etc. During these periods, I don't try for sexual purposes...I enjoy feeling and looking feminine. It's become a "dual-crossdressing" aspect for me.