Did you do your critical thinking 101 A-Z?
I agree with Layne Bryant worker's comment, they took the time to show you respect and to work with you at the store. Steffi question, what happens for the next crossdresser wants to apply? You should take the job out of respect for them.
As far as your wife is concern.....
You mean like how Steffi wasn’t open to discussion BEFORE she went out and got a job behind her wife’s back?
Marriage is supposed to be a team effort.