GG here, I love these threads and the conversations it sparks in me and my husband. We are new to this and have had a lot of CD things occupying our conversations and time of late. Aside from no one in our circle knowing, he is very private, I have asked for transparency, no hiding purchases or interest in new things, and that female mode is planned. I don?t want to repress but I also don?t want to be surprised. As an aside we have 2 small children and get so little us time that I think it?s fair that I get my man when I?m unwinding at night. That?s not to say we haven?t planned same day dress-up evenings but just that they are communicated.