For better or worse, I believe that labels are just a part of human nature and they are neither inherently good nor evil. It all depends on the context.
Think of it this way - one of my hobbies is cycling and I have several bikes. To my non-cyclist friends, I have 3 bikes. But to my cycling friends, I have a mountain bike, a triathlon bike, and a gravel bike. And to my gravel bike friends, I have a Specialized Diverge (not to be confused with a cyclocross bike) set up for gravel touring - Shimano 105 components, front and rear pannier racks, hydraulic disc brakes and currently debating tubeless tires. My triathlon cycling friends wouldn’t know the first thing about pannier racks even though we’re all cyclists who sometimes ride on the same bike paths/streets but sometimes venture down quite different terrain even though we’re all on bikes of some sort.
The gender and crossdressing spectrum is no different. Sometimes I’d like to reach out to a TG woman because I’m curious about a particular trans woman topic. Sometimes I’m looking to chat about balancing my CD life versus my wife and kids, and it’s useful to be able to focus my search within that particular community, or maybe even get an opinion from a CD spouse. And sometimes I just want some advice on pantyhose or breastforms and don’t really care if the opinion comes form a straight CD or a gay trans woman or a gender fluid androgynous person or anything in between. Don’t get me wrong - there’s tremendous value in getting opinions outside your particular bubble. But on average, triathlon bikes are very different from gravel bikes, mountain bikes, touring bikes, etc.
Hope this all makes sense. There’s a time and a place for labels as long as they’re used with respect and within the proper context.