I was reading an article from one of my favorite writers Walter e William's where he recounts a story about a conversation with his professor. He tells his professor he assumes everyone is his enemy unless they prove otherwise. His wife assumes everyone is her friend unless they prove otherwise.
His professor asks if he has every considered a third possibility that people dont give a damn about you one way or another.
Profound thought. If I see someone of a different race, ethnicity, class, education sexual orientation, (or the same) I dont go out of my to pat them on the back or curse them. I just dont care.
For all those afraid to dress up and go out, most people don't care.
Interesting thought on how that would apply to race relations too.