The darker side of barhopping while dressed up.

[ellbee]

Imagine that. The perils of being a woman.

At least men don't have to fear any danger!


Oh, wait...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q5ZAmxXkNAY

[docrobbysherry]

Hugging a strange, drunk, jerk? Letting random guys touch your legs? Your just asking for trouble!

Those were the only dark sides in your experience, Sandi? Then, you've never been followed and really frightened by a strange man who could easily over power u as Micki and I have!

[Helen_Highwater]

The posts here are talking about being approached by drunk strangers and the perils that can bring but I also think it's worth commenting that it's not a good idea to have too much to drink yourself. You can find yourself doing something that you wouldn't do stone cold sober. The odd glass here and there over the course of an evening yeah but doing rounds of shots is taking you into dangerous territory.

I know we all should be free to do as we want but sadly it's the case that for even GG's they have to keep their wits about them. Too many of them end up in a liaison at the end of the night that the next morning is a blurred, vague memory, a memory they try to forget.

[Jodie_Lynn]

Hello all,

-Now for the darker side of things. When all dolled up, I am dressed to get attention - not ****ty (usually) but skirts that are a little short, fairly large breast forms, blond wig, and bright lipstick, etc. Obviously I am dressing for attention, and it works.
Sandi

Sooooo, you dress to attract attention, and are offended because drunk men make advances????

And how dense do you have to be to NOT realize that if a guy puts his hand on your thigh, he is hoping to get intimate?????

And, not for nothing, if you are hanging around in bars, you should expect to find drunk people.

I've been in bars, and nightclubs of the straight and also gay varieties. It took no time at all to realize that guys + alcohol = bad behavior. Now maybe, you have a teeny tiny taste of what women have to put up with.

[Sandi Beech]

For Jodie. Actually, I only posted my experience for the benefit of those who have not ventured out into this space while dressed. Not everyone has done so. I am quite analytical so I knew exactly what I was doing. Most who hit on me were not drunk, and I even made friends with one couple after the fact. Only once did it elevate to the point I became angry out of many outings. My only real mistake is that I have let myself drink too much a few times. That is probably what has put me at the most risk.

Sandi

[Genifer Teal]

I was recently out near nyc. I go to this place all the time. Pretty sure the staff all know me though there's a quick turnover. Most nights I'm surrounded by friends. This night I was sitting at the bar I didn't want to give up my seat. I was with one person I kind of knew. This big tall guy comes over to me. Greasy hair, no attempt to dress neat, and pretty drunk. Tells me how beautiful I am and starts touching my leg. This guy wouldn't leave. I kept ignoring him and refused a drink offer. After maybe 15 min of him only backing away alittle them coming right back, some other friends arrived and I went over by them. It didn't take long for him tor follow. I sat in the middle of that group. He still didn't go away but I had a wall of protection. Lol. The bouncer was not far from this location. I realised it was time to say something. Before doing so. I told the guy directly to go away. I'm not interested. He walked away for the moment. I went to the bouncer and told him the situation. He wanted to react right away. I told him only if he comes back. Sure enough he did and the bouncer escorted him out. Problem solved. The nicest part was 15 min later another bouncer checked with me to see if everything was OK. In retrospect, I should have said something sooner. I wanted to be nice about it and thought he'd take the hint. The women I've talked to say that's often not the case. I never felt threatened or scared i just wanted the situation to disippate on its own. Thanks to the staff for being so nice.

[SnowW]

I'd imagine that must have been a an annoyance dealing with him. For me that's really my biggest issue with being out in public, safety concerns.