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    Time

    Ive been here every day put havent posted in awhile. Why, lack of time or just feeling having nothing to contribute

    So why the post today, Im not sure but have been thinking about this for almost a month. In past post I have told yall (thats southern talk) that my wife is very accepting of my femine side but we do have a few boundaries. She is OK with me wearing panties, bra, thigh highs or panty hose with silky nightgown or panties around the house in front of her but no other female clothing in front of her. Oh, one other thing my boobs cannot be bigger than hers but thats OK since hers are more than ample. Hope this dosent get too long

    So where is this leading. My wife and I have been seeing a counselor together so she could better understand my femem side and not being able to progress beyound where we are now. It hasnt been easy, we are both in our mid seventies

    On to the meat of my post. First what I am about to say I in no way want to turn into a pity party. My wife and I are living every day as the first day of the rest of our live

    On 10 October I woke up with a pain in my stomach that felt like I was being stabbed and yes I know what that feels like because I was stabbed years ago. To shorten my wife rushed me to the emergency room. I was in such pain the ER doctor gave me morpine and had a cat scan done. Turns out I have a blockage in my small intestines and have to operate.

    When I wake up my wife, primary care doctor and surgeon, all woman, were all around my bed. My wife was holding my hand when we were told I had cancer. My wife squeezed my hand, kissed me and said we're going to beat this. We are going to New Orleans to a cancer center to see what lays ahead later this week and will keep you updated

    I was in the hospital for six day and my wife and I have done a lot of talking. One thing she said was the little things dont matter, one of which was my femine side
    She even admtted that one of the reasons she fell in love with me was because I was different than any man she had ever met and it probably was my softer side, she just didnt realize how soft. LOL

    Anyway fast forward and the day before my discharge my wife asked what I wanted to wear home from the hospital
    I still had 28 staples in my stomach so I told her anything that wasnt tight on my stomach. Also I had been wearing panties under my hospital gown and all the nurses had seen then and a few asked me questions about my crossdressing and everyone was cool about it

    Side note, one of the nurses came in to remove my cather and asked if I minded if some student nurses could watch her remove it. All modesty on my part was gone so I said sure. Next think my nurse returns with SIX STUDENT nurses she pulls up hospital gown, down bright green panties and out with the cather. The look on their faces was priceless

    Day of dischage my wife and adult daughter show up with a bag of to go hme in cloths. Light blue knee length silky nightgown with matching panties, darker blue midcalf robe and FUZZY blue slippers. Nurse comes in and loves it ans gets everybody together to say bye. Thenwheelchair trip thru hospital to car with more than a few stares but the three of us loved it.

    The point being none of this would habe happened if we had not gone past the SMALL STUFF and learned we loved all of each other. Rhe future looks great for us and we will love each other for who we are one day at a time

    Hope this makes sense
    Last edited by Sidney; 11-11-2019 at 12:01 AM.

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    Curmudgeon Member donnalee's Avatar
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    Please continue.
    ALWAYS plan for the worst, then you can be pleasantly surprised if something else happens!

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    Glad to hear that things are looking up for you! You are very fortunate to have a wife and family that are that accepting and allow you the space and freedom to express that side of yourself. Best wishes on a full and speedy recovery!

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    Great post. Thank you for sharing.

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    That's a difficult way to bring home such a huge point. I wish you well and thank you so much for sharing something so personal. I certainly got something from this post.
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    Sidney,

    That is quite a story and a glorious one, except for the cancer. I am currently in the middle of prostate cancer treatment and about your age. I'm 74. Finding out about cancer was a much more gentle process than you went through. It was still an incredible shock to my system. Oh my gosh, that must have been a horrible and frightening experience for you to suddenly experience so much pain. My heart goes out to you.

    Like it has been with me, it is time to focus on getting well. Your feminine self and identity can play a significant role in that process. Please don't shut her out just because you have so much to deal with. Clearly it is a positive part of who you are and you will need all the positive influence you can get going through the "I have cancer" journey. Doesn't really matter what kind of cancer it is; the simple association of the word "cancer" with you is incredibly difficult to accept. Makes accepting your gender variance seem like a cakewalk. But, I did find it is a delicate balance. Obviously, like me, you have been doing this a long time and you also have the benefit of a very supportive wife who also desires you to be engulfed in as much positive influence as possible. Let it flow but remember the mission is to get well. I wish you the very best in this journey.

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    Sidney, I hope you get better soon. Great story.
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    I wish you complete healing and happiness.
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    Sidney,
    I'm sure this is a great fear for many of us , not only dealing with the BIG C but also being cared for and our dressing needs .

    I can't say how wonderful it is to read your story , I hope very much you do beat it and live a happy life , especially with being accepted so much more .

    Living alone it is a thought at the back of my mind of how it would work out for me , I hope I can be as lucky as you with your family .
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    Thanks for sharing your story. Good luck on your cancer treatment.

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    Thanks for sharing! I cried when you said what they brought you to wear to go home! Wishing you a full and speedy recovery! Hugs to both you and the family! Lana Mae
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    Sidney, glad you have a loving and supportive wife and family. Cancer is a fierce enemy. You and your family need much Strong support to defeat the enemy. Always manifest good thoughts and good things will manifest.

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    That was a teaching moment for the students, Sidney. They need exposure to us so they don't get all shocked when they see it after getting their license to practise. Frankly, if they can't handle it without judgement, they're in the wrong profession.

    Sorry to hear about the cancer and glad to hear that your wife has had a change of heart.
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    Sidney, what a powerful and personal story. I was in tears and laughing at the same time. For what it is worth, we could learn a lot from people like you and your wife. Don't think for a minute that you have nothing to contribute. Your understanding of love is inspiring. If only more of us were like the two of you and your daughter. Best wishes in this difficult time.

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    Hi Sidney , Thanks for sharing your story with us, All be it is bitter sweet,

    Please do keep us updated, We are all here pulling for you. >Orchid ..oo..
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    It just points out what is important in life.
    ALWAYS plan for the worst, then you can be pleasantly surprised if something else happens!

    "The important thing about the bear is not how well she dances, but that she dances at all." - Old Russian Proverb (with a gender change)

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