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    A Crosssdresser Salsa Dancer?

    Hello everyone

    It's been a really long time since I posted here, I miss expressing!

    For past 14 months I've been learning to dance Salsa. As some of you may know, Salsa is a partner dance; there is a leader (Typically the male) and a follower (Typically the female). I am learning Salsa as a leader. I really wish I could wear a sexy dress and attend those weekly social dance parties as Rose, but this is impossible.

    In my community, crossdressing and changing the default gender roles is a taboo and is very much frowned upon. So I have zero chance to crossdress and enjoy my hobby the way I love.

    I do hope one day I will live in an accepting community where I can be Rose and re-learn Salsa as a follower. I really do.

    My best wishes to you all
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    Rose, hope you realize your dream someday.

    I had at one time fantasized about presenting as a lady flamenco dancer. Not going to happen now, could not fit into one of those skinny waist-ed dresses! And the legs and ankle would never hold up to the "stomping".

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    I hear ya. I would looove to do that too. I took Lindy Hop lessons as lead once upon a time with a (now) ex, and I guess I could still lead as a woman but I'd really love to learn the follow part.

    A friend is very into it and she said her teacher used to teach the follow part to (usually gay) men but she had to stop because the "regular" men kept dropping out because they were already so paranoid people would think they were "gay" for taking dance lessons that if anyone heard there were "gays" dancing the women's part they would never live it down. It was totally a business decision in the end for her, she said I can't keep the place going with no male leads, the women will just go elsewhere.

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    My wife and I took Swing Dancing lessons years ago... But they didn't take

    It was doomed to fail as I am rhythm impaired and she can't be lead...

    We are going to try again one of these days but both of us in dresses and she will be leading.

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    Hope that you get your wish someday.

    I wish I could dance like that. I know it would be no problem for me to take lessons if I wanted. It's just I have like two left feet. There is just no way I could learn more or less execute all those steps, oh and backwards?

    Oh in heels too.

    Either way it's great that you are taking lessons, good for you.
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    Many of us have the same fantasy, Rose!

    I hope someday u find your dancing prince, too!
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    U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.

    Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovely Rose View Post
    It's been a really long time since I posted here, I miss expressing!
    Breast pump for the lady...

    Seriously, I'm reminded of a film I think I saw on YouTube about a man who loved to crossdress as, if memory serves, a tango dancer. A lady neighbor from across the street finds out his secret and comes to his home dressed as a man and they dance the tango as their preseted genders. And there were some dinosaurs, but I may be remembering that part wrong.

    Now I want to see it again. I’ll post it if I find it.
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    I hope you are able to realize your dream of being a follower, in any clothing by choices you choose.

    I have always wanted to learn to dance salsa, Latin, ballroom, swing... I have always wanted to be the leader though. Hoping my SO get out there to learn in the next few months.
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    You actually gave a solution to your problem, but it involves hard work. Doesn?t everything worthwhile? I travel far enough away to make encountering someone from my small community unlikely. I have danced the female part in ethnic female clothing, rhythm challenged as I am, with a male partner in appropriate ethnic clothing, in a distant city. My biggest problems are paying for it and, if combined with business travel, packing the clothing and timing it well.

    I just returned from a city 650 km away. It cost about 800 US dollars total to make the trip. I timed it for a public ethnic celebration with lots of dancing, music, and good food. My Bavarian nationality exactly matches the ethnic nationality of the Oktoberfest celebration, so looking the femme part comes more easily.

    I have not tried dance clubs yet, but one of my employees has. He is particularly good at this. He knows all the dance clubs within several hundred km and almost effortlessly, he finds great opportunities in a new city. Your dream is possible but realizing it will be expensive hard work. For me, it is worth it.

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    I've actually taken a belly dancing class en homme.
    Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sometimes Steffi View Post
    I've actually taken a belly dancing class en homme.
    How did that go? Will you continue?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sometimes Steffi View Post
    I've actually taken a belly dancing class en homme.
    Wouldn’t the term en homme be for crossdressing females presenting as male, though?

    Still searching for that video...
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    I took a couple of belly dance classes surreptitiously at a local community center, I say surreptitiously, because my wife thought I was at my regular yoga class. I say en homme, because I just went in sweats for the class rather than a traditional belly dance costume, although I sometimes borrowed a "hip skirt" with coins from one of the GGs

    The first time there was about 10 GGs plus me; the second time, there was a second guy.

    I never realized why it was called belly dancing until I took the class. The basic technique is to undulate your hips without moving your torso or your legs. It's quite a core workout. There are also a lot of asymmetric moves where one arm goes up and the other arm goes down, kind of like patting your head with one hand and rubbing your belly with the other.

    I hd a lot of fun. Some GGs barely talked to me and others were kind of interested in guy who wanted to belly dance.

    I stopped going because the schedule changed and I couldn't make the class.

    There was also a time when I asked about taking hulu dances. The instructor told me that the boy dance moves were different from the girl moves, and the class was for the girl moves only. I didn't have the muffins to tell her that I wanted to learn the girl moves.
    Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.

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