I had a phone call from my wife today asking what my Xmas plans were so we finanilsed the details . She then went on to tell me my daughter in law had seen me in my old home town on my way to my painting group , she then went on to give me a whole list of old friends who had heard about our separation and who knew and even had seen me in the last few weeks , in fact one thought I had transitioned , she keeps telling she not conecerned , I'm not sure if I believe her but that's not my problem . So it appears far more people know in my old town than I'd expected , I feel no guilt or shame , I'm well past all that to be truthful it feels good that I'm gradually able to rebuild my life in a more open situation and old friends are becoming aware and accepting it .