Page 3 of 4 FirstFirst 1234 LastLast
Results 51 to 75 of 93

Thread: What did you struggled with when first dressing?

  1. #51
    3dxchat User JuliaGirl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2019
    Location
    Southern Ontario
    Posts
    213
    Makeup to this day.
    Closeted for 45 years, so please take any advice I might offer with a massive dose of reality.
    Julia xo

  2. #52
    Member Victoria_Winters's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2018
    Location
    North Dakota
    Posts
    263
    For me I have to say it is the makeup and embarrassment... I used be very embarrassed by dressing. Now I am at the stage in my life where I saw why the hell should I cam what other people think!

    I still struggle with makeup. I?m entering the world of Being. Drag Queen but I want to look like a real girl not a clown. So I am working still to get better at makeup. This weekend I am learning how to do a nice smoky eye!
    Last edited by char GG; 02-14-2020 at 04:37 AM. Reason: word not allowed even though it's disguised, we know what it is

  3. #53
    Gold Member Lana Mae's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2016
    Location
    North Carolina
    Posts
    8,606
    Definitely eye make up! I even had instruction and can't get it straight!
    My being naive about all this until I was 65! Yes I realized much of it but did not apply it to myself! Oh, yes it is me alright! LOL
    The decision to start HRT!
    Seriously!
    Hugs Lana Mae
    Life is worth living!
    "Foxy lady! You look so good!!" Jimi Hendrix

  4. #54
    Crossdresser Taylor186's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    Location
    Midwest USA
    Posts
    1,160
    • Finding time to dress without discovery while deeply in the closet.
    • Finding a safe, non-obvious, hiding place for my things.

  5. #55
    New Member Fran out's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2020
    Location
    Rockey mountains, Colorado
    Posts
    13
    Initially it was trying to understand my urge to try on female clothes followed guilt, confusion and questioning my sexuality.
    The top two are:
    Where to store my female things
    Make up..... I'm still struggling and need help here

  6. #56
    Aspiring Member Desiree2bababe's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    Location
    Georgia - Hotlanta
    Posts
    832
    Makeup without a doubt!

  7. #57
    Member AllyCDTV's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Location
    Suburban Chicago, Illinois
    Posts
    413
    Eyeliner. I love an intense Arabic style and I usually wind up screaming, "good enough" after spending way too much time struggling with it. I also have to take 2 tries to get false eyelashes in the right position.
    "We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think." - The Buddha

  8. #58
    New Member xEvelyn's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2019
    Posts
    29
    Voice has always been the hardest part. I still avoid interacting with people because it is so incongruent.

  9. #59
    Non-Binary Member Krea's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2017
    Location
    Kent, England, UK
    Posts
    798
    Something that i had difficulty with at first was finding the right type of female clothes to suit my figure. (i don't use forms/padding)
    Fortunately i am short and skinny and my hip to waist ratio is very good compared to most GMs, but even so i quickly discovered that some clothes that looked great on women didn't look good on me.
    I had some great guidance from my wife about garments to try and have now found certain looks that suit me.

    Quote Originally Posted by Fran out View Post
    Initially it was trying to understand my urge to try on female clothes followed guilt, confusion and questioning my sexuality.
    Yes, i had the same feelings of confusion, shame & guilt when i began experimenting with CDing, altho in my case i was always clear about my sexuality.
    "The only way is onward. There is no turning back."

  10. #60
    Senior Member mbmeen12's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Location
    Connecticut
    Posts
    1,634
    That I was initially a sexual delinquent and was far from the normal. After a while, I realised it was the vanilla world that was in denial of their true selves.

    As to the dressing, the epiphany on why I cant hook a bra from the back.... large man arms dont stretch like a nat gg.
    Escapism isn't necessarily bad, but is definitely unhealthy in the long term. While helpful in the short term, things will degrade over time. At some point, the escapee will have to face the issue. Things simply blowing over isn't really going to happen in many situations.

  11. #61
    3dxchat User JuliaGirl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2019
    Location
    Southern Ontario
    Posts
    213
    Quote Originally Posted by Taylor186 View Post
    • Finding time to dress without discovery while deeply in the closet.
    • Finding a safe, non-obvious, hiding place for my things.
    OMG, this.
    Closeted for 45 years, so please take any advice I might offer with a massive dose of reality.
    Julia xo

  12. #62
    Aspiring Member fun4metoo2004's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Location
    DFW Texas
    Posts
    529
    Makeup. Still struggle with it.

  13. #63
    New Member Davina13's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2019
    Location
    Connecticut
    Posts
    17
    Oh yeah,make up for sure is a struggle. But I keep at it,I have to get better eventually.
    And I always clip my bra in the front and spin it around.

  14. #64
    New Member crissy7's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2020
    Location
    akron,ohio usa
    Posts
    19
    clothes never a problem.makeup used to be ,but not so much now.

  15. #65
    Senior Member Maid_Marion's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2018
    Posts
    1,912
    I got a free tube of lip gloss from VS. You may want to try some if you have trouble putting on lipstick or just want something a little less obvious. I've been putting it on before going to work.

    Marion

  16. #66
    New Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2020
    Posts
    11
    Buying fem stuff to wear

  17. #67
    Aspiring Member jacques's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    East Yorkshire UK
    Posts
    922
    Hello Brandie
    finding the right sized bra was not easy. And then learning how to wear it!
    luv J

  18. #68
    Silver Member darla_g's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Location
    terrapin station, you need to guess a little bit
    Posts
    3,664
    I've practiced makeup consistently and watched tons of videos on techniques . Whenever i dress i have a specific makeup look in mind.

    I struggle with certain heels. 3" heels is my limit or i basically can't walk

  19. #69
    Silver Member prene's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    Location
    Pacific North West
    Posts
    2,791
    Makeup,
    clothing that fits my tall figure,
    Guilt and self-acceptance,
    Finding a accepting GG,
    Men ... arg

  20. #70
    Senior Member Maid_Marion's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2018
    Posts
    1,912
    Some heels are designed only for looks and are terrible for walking.
    I studied the reviews before choosing what to buy.
    I've gone shopping in heels.
    Last edited by Maid_Marion; 03-31-2020 at 09:54 AM.

  21. #71
    Member AllyCDTV's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Location
    Suburban Chicago, Illinois
    Posts
    413
    Quote Originally Posted by Maid_Marion View Post
    I got a free tube of lip gloss from VS. You may want to try some if you have trouble putting on lipstick or just want something a little less obvious. I've been putting it on before going to work.

    Marion
    Great advice Marion. I used to struggle with lipstick all the time. Tried lip gloss a while back and haven't used lipstick since.
    "We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think." - The Buddha

  22. #72
    Silver Member Natalie5004's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2020
    Location
    X
    Posts
    2,425
    I tried False Eyelashes today for the first time. What a joke. Man they make looking like a woman tough. I am gain a lot more respect for what women do every day. My hat is off to them.
    I will practice my eye lashes more.

  23. #73
    New Member Kelly Pearson's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2020
    Location
    Uk
    Posts
    18
    Always eye liner for me.....still struggle sometimes

  24. #74
    Member BaliGirl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Posts
    148
    Here is what I've struggled with:

    - Guilt and shame about enjoying cross-dressing. Self-acceptance.
    - When I started cross-dressing as a teen, fighting myself to not do it when I had the opportunity. I could only cross-dress when I was alone at home, and it was hard to predict when this would happen. So when I was alone, I tried not to do it. Mostly failed.
    - The fear of getting caught. I played it safe most of the time, but one time I risked putting on a front-close bra when I wasn't alone because I'd never done it before.
    - Guessing clothing sizes. I'm not brave enough to shop in stores, so when I started buying clothing it was a guessing game about what would fit.

  25. #75
    Banned Read only
    Join Date
    Jul 2018
    Location
    New England
    Posts
    917
    In the beginning! I have large feet and when I first started it was nearly impossible to find women's shoes larger than 10 or 11. When you did find a pair, they looked like they were designed by Dr Who. That was a struggle. These days everything is a click away.

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  


Check out these other hot web properties:
Catholic Personals | Jewish Personals | Millionaire Personals | Unsigned Artists | Crossdressing Relationship
BBW Personals | Latino Personals | Black Personals | Crossdresser Chat | Crossdressing QA
Biker Personals | CD Relationship | Crossdressing Dating | FTM Relationship | Dating | TG Relationship


The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs.
We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.

Browse Crossdressers By State