Learning to be happy with who I am on the inside ? beauty is an inside job as a concept - has been a struggle. I always tried to strive to be the Ideal in physical, mental and social situations?achieve the ?norm? so to speak. When I started to explore my female dressing, I was again met with having to meet this ?ideal? female image. The relentless ?Being passible? question ? I am 6?1? flat footed ? tall and slim like a runner with narrow hips and average shoulders ? so ? no - I am not going to meet any social standard to ?pass? the ideal test. After a bit I started to look around at the gym, work, the mall and the department stores to discover that people come in every possible shape and size combination. No two were alike to include those who were surgically enhanced. The truth I have learned is that there is no norm or ideal?there is just me. I am perfect just the way I am and the way I express myself is equally my ?norm? and perfectly acceptable. I don?t want to have to worry about meeting someone else?s arbitrary view of what a social ideal is - male or female. I won?t continue to postulate this stigma of fitting in ? it has some potential for real harm. If you are reading this, I want you to know that I think you are awesome exactly how you are. I choose to be happy and I hope you will join me.
This is an very informative article on body image and shaming - https://journalofethics.ama-assn.org...-today/2019-10
This is a nice article on breast size and perception - https://www.bigcuplittlecup.net/thin...up-looks-like/
