What do I do?

[Susan Smith]

Slightly weird one... out shopping with my wife and I spot a tartan skirt in mustard and black that looks perfect. I test the water with ?that?s nice, I should buy it for me? (Sometimes she agrees, other times not). My wife looks at it and says she?s going to buy it for herself, which she does. We get home and she tries it on and it?s really not very flattering on her. While she?s in the bathroom I try it on and it fits perfectly. I ask her to give it to me and she says ?no? she?ll slim down to fit it. What do I do? I really want that skirt!

[JaclynL61]

Susan -

I would say you need to go back to the store and buy one for yourself...

[Susan Smith]

It was in H&M on the Champs-Elysee in Paris. We’re going home in the morning. No time to go back.

[Davina13]

It appears sharing is out of the question��.
Because that would seem like a fairly easy solution.

[docrobbysherry]

U know what u want and the size. Buy something similar from the stores back home. Or, online!

Do NOT steal or sneak your wife's skirt! Maybe, buy something u think she'll like better. Then, SWAP!

[dallasmann]

It was in H&M on the Champs-Elysee in Paris. We?re going home in the morning. No time to go back.

I guess you will just have to extend your stay in Paris. I would do that!

[Diane Smith]

The stores are full of great clothes. Put this item out of your mind and go shopping for something else (but different) that you like even better.

- Diane

[ReineD]

To those of you who think the wife behaved horridly, have you asked yourselves how Susan presents to the Mrs ... as a girl or as a boy? I suspect that Susan presents as a boy to the Mrs. most if not all of the time and so why would it occur to the Mrs. that Susan has first dibs on clothing. Honestly.

In the Mrs. eyes, the Mrs. is the female in the relationship - the one who wears girl clothes all the time - and Susan is the male who occasionally wears girl clothes. Maybe the Mrs. did not even hear Susan ask if Susan should buy it for herself. How forceful was Susan's initial statement and how often do Susan and the Mrs. discuss who should get what when there is a conflict.

If Susan dressed as a girl much of the time in and around the house, then you might have a point in that at least there should have been a discussion about it. But a discussion would require Susan taking the Mrs. aside and saying how much Susan wanted the skirt - and they should really talk about this. But did Susan do this?

You all are being way too rough on the Mrs ... and some of you, on women in general.

To Susan, if you want the skirt so badly, why don't you buy an identical one for yourself if you are unwilling to have a frank discussion with your wife about it. Or do you enjoy posting a thread saying how much better you looked in that skirt, in the hopes of getting some sympathy from members who are more than happy to put your wife (or women in general) down.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but this entire thread is childish in my view.

[Leslie Mary S]

Reine, Susan did ask for opinions on what to do, and she got them. As fo Susan's motive for asking in the manor she did, that is Susan.
Some of us are not as elegant in speaking as some.
So Susan, take all the suggestions you have been given and pick out the one(s) you like, and follow through as your mind sees fit. Some MIGHT be right on and others could be way out in the field. Or none could be correct. Susan you know more about your situation than the rest of us.

[Teresa]

Susan,
One question , why didn't your wife try it on in the shop especially as you won't be going back , it's obviously too small ?

You should be able to get H&M online , maybe order a larger size for your wife but don't tell her and then swap them over .

[Stephanie47]

Nothing much you can do. I would watch out for the rest of your wardrobe if in fact she does slim down to your size. You may be losing a lot of clothing.

[Robertacd]

Why can't you share? My wife and I are the same dress size and we share all the time.

We both have had to accept that things we bought for ourselves actually look better on the other person.

[Tracii G]

Why are some of you so afraid to speak up and say something to your spouse?

[Micki_Finn]

You buy one for yourself. Duh.

[Susan Smith]

Tracii, it’s not afraid of and I don’t need permission, but I do like to get agreement when I can

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Majella, grow a pair is not very helpful. I love my wife and will not simply tread all over her feelings to achieve what I want

[AllieSF]

Yes, please take the caring and compromising path on this one if she is not totally on board with your dressing. That is a small sacrifice to have the freedoms that you seem to have. Most on hear complain about zero tolerance SO's. By something similar, but not the same. I do not believe that rubbing her nose in it (buying the same skirt) is the way to go. Good luck.

[Teresa]

Susan,
I've just been online to check out H & M , I found only one skirt that matches your description but if it's the one they are still stocking it , In the UK it's ?17.99 . Infact I might just pop over to see if my local store has them in stock , I agree it's a nice skirt .

[ellbee]

I love my wife and will not simply tread all over her feelings to achieve what I want

But it's okay for her to do that to you??


Down with the matriarchy!


#boypower

#drunkellbee

[Pumped]

Wow! Are all you girls here giving advice married? Standing up for your rights is one thing, but just slamming your rights in the wife's face is certain doom.

To Susan, she obviously knows you dress, I would talk to her again and let her know you like the skirt and if she won't give it to you, or share, then you intend to buy your own. Test the waters and see her reaction. If she gets pissy about it perhaps some sit down and talk time is in order.

[MiniRock]

Why are some of you so afraid to speak up and say something to your spouse?

Have you ever had one?

[Leslie Mary S]

MiniRock, I guess I was lucky. It was after my first SO passed away and my second wife and I split that I really became active.Before that I didn't even have a closset or even a drewer for my stuff.

[char GG]

I'm sure H & M would have their stock on line. Check the website and buy one for yourself.

[kimdl93]

My advice is to tell her you like it too, but wait your turn. You can have it when she tires of it

[Majella St Gerard]

Grow a pair and but your own

[Majella St Gerard]

Seems like she's rubbing your nose in it by buying something she knew you wanted, that wasn't cool, if you allow her to treat you like a second class citizen, then you will never be happy and will soon resent her. Does she tell you how to cut your hair and cut up your meat for you. I stand by my advice. Be a man or at least a strong woman.