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    Attracted to your fem self

    So as I've been honing my makeup skills, I've found that when I look back at my photos...I'm very attracted to myself. It's a strange and confusing feeling. Especially these two photos. B84911E7-2551-44B7-AF7E-47E44A61136F.jpgC490BB53-D0EC-42E0-8ABF-F57895C7EE95.jpg

    Maybe it's just exciting because it's new. But I swear the feeling is the same feeling I get when I would meet a new girl I'm interested in dating. It's so weird to me! lol Anyone else experience this? What ever developed of it?

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    I believe you are referring to autosexual. Yes, I have had the feeling in my younger years. Never much though about, back then. I have not noticed it for decades. I believe others have had the same feelings. I do not recall much discussion on the subject here at CD.com.
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    Seems an odd thing and kind of self centered.

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    You look beautiful!! I know what you are feeling, I only have 5 pics of me with makeup and my (natural then) hair curled and I think the same.

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    You look quite attractive, and trust me I get what you are saying. It does feel weird though to think that you are attracted to the person you see in the mirror, but I have felt the same way sometimes briefly.

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    I almost quit dressing 20+ years ago because the girl in my mirror didn't turn me on, Ginger!

    That's when Sherry was born! No matter how old I get, (76 now), Sherry never ages!

    What's not to lust?
    U can bet there's countless other T girls attracted to themselves. But, as Marcia said, this is NOT a popular topic on this site!

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    It's because you look so sexy!
    "This is ME" I am not CRAZY, I'm just a GUY who likes dresses!
    Since allot of men dress up in woman's clothing that makes it a manly thing to do!
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    I agree with you Judie: I think it's extremely manly. That's why I've never really worried about it. Although my children's mother went mental about it. And yes Ginger, I like what I see in the mirror. I wouldn't bother otherwise.
    Last edited by MiniRock; 02-15-2020 at 01:12 PM.

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    I have yet to make myself look like something I would be attracted to.

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    I kind of think of it another way, I am not necessarily attracted to what I see in the mirror when I am dressed up, and everything pops, I am just happy with what I see looking back at me, I am satisfied in knowing that is the real me as I feel it. I guess some people could see it as being vain or self absorbed, but who are we trying to please with doing this, others, yourself?? I am just trying to express myself the way I want to be and bet that your "attraction" is as much being satisfied looking that pretty. You look great, own it!
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    I wouldn't say attracted to myself but I have looked in the mirror and said "damn, I look hot".

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    I think this happens to most of us at some point. You see a free available female in the mirror and think yes you will do nicely today. Time will pass and you will find there are many other attractions in life. But this particular one will always be there should you need her.

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    It isn't so unusual. A straight man who dresses is naturally going to dress up as a woman he finds attractive, he isn't going to dress up in a way he finds unattractive..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vickie_CDTV View Post
    It isn't so unusual. A straight man who dresses is naturally going to dress up as a woman he finds attractive, he isn't going to dress up in a way he finds unattractive..
    That's assuming that there IS a way to dress that will make us attractive as a female. Many of us simply don't have the physical gifts that allow us that option. Large brow bar that simply cannot be made up to look like anything else, shoulders a mile wide with arms, thighs and calves to match, five o'clock shadow that would still appear even through a coat of paint, well at least we have our fantasies, as long as we keep the mirrors covered!
    Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
    There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
    Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.

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    Count me as one that is attracted to the girl in the mirror. But my mirror is a liar

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    Quote Originally Posted by sometimes_miss View Post
    That's assuming that there IS a way to dress that will make us attractive as a female. Many of us simply don't have the physical gifts that allow us that option. Large brow bar that simply cannot be made up to look like anything else, shoulders a mile wide with arms, thighs and calves to match, five o'clock shadow that would still appear even through a coat of paint, well at least we have our fantasies, as long as we keep the mirrors covered!
    I don't agree, Lexi. If looking good is THAT important to u, as it is to me? Most T's can find a way(s) to appear attractive. It's simple really. Do what I do:
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    My thought is that the combination of testosterone and the universal feminine traits and signals that attract men line up to cause a type of attraction. I don't and never did consider myself to be a crossdresser back then, but in my teens I'd put on my mom's or sister's bra that they left drying in the bathroom. Testosterone loaded the gun and the bra was the femininity that I aimed it at. Now, in my sixties, I don't feel the same at all.

    I like the clothes, but not because they make me feel feminine. I do wish I could still wear the same size bra that I wore back in my teens and twenties. I like my natural man boobs, I don't want forms, but there's virtually nothing cute in a 40a as far as i've seen. I pretty much settle for bralettes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Majella St Gerard View Post
    I wouldn't say attracted to myself but I have looked in the mirror and said "damn, I look hot".
    Yup, I look at myself in the mirror and mutter "that skirt deserves your great legs".

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    Ginger,

    Many, not all, seek to create as convincing female image that we can and for that image to be as attractive as it can be. So if we see albeit in the mirror or in photos an image that reflects those aspirations then feeling drawn towards it isn't that surprising.

    In effect you like what you've created, it's a manifestation of the image you've had in your mind and so understandable that you're drawn to it.

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    This behavior and perspective is not unusual, although only some experience it. Mostly it occurs early in the development of the behavior. Some psychologists think that it isn't a real attraction to your self, but rather the brain perceives what, in its experience, is a new person who is attractive and therefore it reacts as if the reflection is a new person. Keep in mind that it takes awhile for the reactive part of the brain to catch on to what the conscious brain realizes. We often think that the conscious brain controls all thought; it doesn't. It is the rest of the brain that does the thinking and then transmits the results to the conscious brain which then takes action on the instructions. There is a back and forth that occurs over some time before everybody is on board in realizing it is a reflection and not a new person. It is just that you do not sense all the back and forth and arguments between different parts of the brain to resolve differences. Sometimes this behavior continues, but usually it goes away after awhile. Many of our assumptions about how the brain operates are not wrong, but they are simplistic. The reality is very complex.

    You make a very attractive young woman. Of the two photos I think the first says feminine/female the most; a little bit of maleness creeps into the second one, but not much. Great makeup job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GretchenM View Post
    This behavior and perspective is not unusual, although only some experience it. Mostly it occurs early in the development of the behavior. Some psychologists think that it isn't a real attraction to your self, but rather the brain perceives what, in its experience, is a new person who is attractive and therefore it reacts as if the reflection is a new person. Keep in mind that it takes awhile for the reactive part of the brain to catch on to what the conscious brain realizes. We often think that the conscious brain controls all thought; it doesn't. It is the rest of the brain that does the thinking and then transmits the results to the conscious brain which then takes action on the instructions. There is a back and forth that occurs over some time before everybody is on board in realizing it is a reflection and not a new person. It is just that you do not sense all the back and forth and arguments between different parts of the brain to resolve differences. Sometimes this behavior continues, but usually it goes away after awhile. Many of our assumptions about how the brain operates are not wrong, but they are simplistic. The reality is very complex.

    You make a very attractive young woman. Of the two photos I think the first says feminine/female the most; a little bit of maleness creeps into the second one, but not much. Great makeup job.

    Thank you for this response. It was very interesting to read. Also, I agree with you. My therapist like the second photo the most though. 🤔 lol

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    Ginger,
    Depite Tracii suggesting it's odd I don't agree .

    There are several reasons for your feelings and I admit I understand them . To look at the reverse for a moment I like how I look in male mode less and less .
    I feel it's mostly down to the female side showing itself , a woman will possibly spend more time looking in the mirror refining herself or maybe thinking about a totally different look all to look more attractive to herself and hopefully more so to others . Why should we be any differnt when we dress ?

    On a deeper level to love oneself as a woman is a trait of AGP in fact that is what Autogynephilia translates as , while it gets some people jumping up and down , I accept it and live with it , if it's part of me then so be it , it doesn't affect my life on a daily basis .
    The real me ,no going back.

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    I have to say I feel the same way and honestly I have always looking at myself when dressed. Now that I am out I still am constantly checking myself out in the mirror.

    Call me a narcissist, it's better than hating myself as a guy.

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    We cannot see our faces. We can imagine our beauty exists, though. Pass a mirror or a really reflective surface (plate glass store front?), and we face our reality which we usually do enjoy regardless of how we view ourselves mentally.

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    Glad you posted this as I?ve been thinking about the role of ?autogynephilia? in crossdressing. There are ?experts? who have attributed the entire reason for crossdressing to a misplaced sexual desire to be attracted to oneself as a woman. Ok, I?ll admit I can feel this sometimes but it just doesn?t account for all the other good feelings I get from CD. And from the responses here, some people have felt it and some not. So I conclude autogynephilia is a real phenomenon but is a minor part of CDing.

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