Sometimes I think See Knows

[jamiecd636]

I am deep in the closet, very careful about when I dress. The other day my SO was watching a TV show and said we should get you a dress like the one being worn by the shows star. I laughed it off, saying yeah sure. Later in the evening she said if we get you that dress, you'll need a bra. Again, I made a yeah right comment. At other times, she will come home with a new lipstick of eyeliner which she tries to put on me however I always put up a fight and push her away.

Is she just playing or does she know and wants to see how far I will go? Any advice?

[Vicky_Scot]

Go with the flow and just take it slow Think she may be testing the water. x

[BTWimRobin]

It sounds like it's time to come out of the closet. You might want to have the talk with your wife.

[sara66]

Call her bluff. Just say ok. If she is serious than you have a new dress. If she says haha of something similar you really are out nothing. Pascal's wager, little down side, big upside. Good luck.
Sara
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[Micki_Finn]

It’s hard to say honestly, especially not knowing you all personally. If I had to venture a guess I’d say that your wife has picked up that any discussion of “girly” stuff makes you more uncomfortable than is logical, so she keeps pushing that button both to get a reaction but also I think probing a little bit.

As far as if you should come out or not, don’t try to read anything into her actions. Her eventual reaction is still unpredictable.

[Krea]

It could be either, but it sounds like just the opportunity you long for. Go for it!
If she's the one suggesting you try a little bit of CDing, she can hardly complain if you go along with it.

[Helen_Highwater]

So Jamie, the star of the show, male, female, in drag. If female then saying for no good reason we should get you a dress like that is just so random as to be bizarre. If it happens again I'd suggest you call her bluff.

I assume you and your SO are different sizes so the first criteria needs to be, "We get it in my size". "I'm not squeezing into a dress that you really want for yourself". "If we do this, we do it properly". Throw down the gauntlet as if you're calling her dare.

I suspect she has more than an inkling or perhaps having you in a dress is a fantasy for her. Play along but keep an eye open for bear traps.

[Bobbi46]

Go with the flow, she knows and is Ok with everything

[DianeT]

Totally with Micki on this one.

[JuliaGirl]

She's probing. In he gentlest way she knows how? I say, say yes once and then see.

[alwayshave]

Jamie, I think she knows and is just trying to give you an out.

[Paulette]

Jamie you might try saying something like I have been thinking about your offer to buy me a dress and I think I would like to see what it feels like.

[RADER]

That is close to what happened to me with my wife.
And It all worked out great. I was able to dress at home anytime I wanted.
She would often dress me up. I loved it.
rader

[Mermaiden]

Not sure anyone can tell you what to do, but as you decide your next move it may worth asking yourself what you want. Would you be happier if she knew? As always, baby steps are safest.

[char GG]

I wouldn't trust asking people that don't know you or her. You may want to ask your wife.

[Di]

I wouldn't trust asking people that don't know you or her. You may want to ask your wife.

This a thousand times!
The two GGs in this thread are telling you the same thing.
And please stop with the lame ( yeah right)
You are asking if she’s playing games well you are as well .

[HelpMe,Rhonda]

Think I'm at the point where I'd just say sure, let's do it. But hard to know what's going on here, as others have said.

[KymG]

Well, as its her idea..
Play along and see what happens.
An opportunity too good to waste.

[JenniferR771]

Feel her out. Probe for more.
For instance, say, " I once crossdressed years ago; I looked really good."
Don't lie to her--but maybe you could say, "I used to crossdress years ago." That would be true, right? LOL!
Let her say, "Did you take any pictures?"

I had a similar situation with my roommate and his girlfriend. I never admitted to being a crossdresser--but he must have found one of my magazines. His girlfriend gave me one of her bras, just before I left for an out of state college. I still did not admit I was a CD. Kept that bra for years.

[Krisi]

Strangers on the Internet have no idea what your wife is thinking so be wary of anything that's posted here.

Whether she knows, suspects or whatever, she is handing you the opportunity to dress. You are a fool not to take that opportunity and run with it. She has offered to buy you a dress and a bra. She has offered to do your makeup. Let her do these things and let her think it's her idea. Once you're walking around the house in makeup and a bra and a dress, you can suggest other things like breast forms, hip padding and a wig.

Remember, she started it. Take it from there.

[Vickie_CDTV]

She must suspect and is probing you to see how you react. The fact she brings makeup home and keeps trying to put it on you is absolutely bizarre. Why on earth would a GG do that?

[Pumped]

Strangers on the Internet have no idea what your wife is thinking so be wary of anything that's posted here.

Whether she knows, suspects or whatever, she is handing you the opportunity to dress. You are a fool not to take that opportunity and run with it. She has offered to buy you a dress and a bra. She has offered to do your makeup. Let her do these things and let her think it's her idea. Once you're walking around the house in makeup and a bra and a dress, you can suggest other things like breast forms, hip padding and a wig.

Remember, she started it. Take it from there.

What she said!!

[Asew]

Before I came out to my wife, she would say things that would make me wonder if she knew. Such as how I liked to see her in dresses and skirts, she would say "if you like them so much why don't you wear them". We would watch RuPaul's drag race and she would make comments. And things about how "she wears the pants around here so I should wear a dress". One night when she made this comment and left to go out with a friend, so I put on one of her skirts and waited for her in bed and when she came home she was disgusted and said never do that again. Well back into the closet.

One year for halloween my wife had bought a new cute femme costume but was too lazy to wear it when we were going out so I said "if you aren't going to wear it someone should" and wore one of her older femme costumes.

When I did come out to her, she said she had no idea. And that her response to me surprising her in bed was she thought I was doing it for her based on her comment, not for me on something I wanted to do. That all her comments were in jest and not some way of knowing. So long story short, who knows if she knows.

[Rileyaz]

Strangers on the Internet have no idea what your wife is thinking so be wary of anything that's posted here.

Whether she knows, suspects or whatever, she is handing you the opportunity to dress. You are a fool not to take that opportunity and run with it. She has offered to buy you a dress and a bra. She has offered to do your makeup. Let her do these things and let her think it's her idea. Once you're walking around the house in makeup and a bra and a dress, you can suggest other things like breast forms, hip padding and a wig.

Remember, she started it. Take it from there.

If you get this far, she will probably be the one to suggest breast forms and a wig. Let her play.

[CandaceNichole]

Hi Jamie

I would love to hear an update. My experience is that she will eventually find out, so it might be best to find out she really feels.