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    Jacqueline,

    Dressing with style and class is ageless, in fact it's often a sign of someone more mature. I have GG friends who are also of a certain age and they all continue to dress with style and grace and non of them look out of place when out socialising.

    For me there's only one big mistake and that's to confuse dressing younger than your chronological age with dressing like a hooker but hey if that floats someone's boat that's their choice.

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    I have many outfits that would be "not age appropriate" Where's the fun in being "appropriate"?

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    I say if you are going out in public you should dress your age. Unlike children's toys, clothes don't come with age labels, but you need to understand some basics. Miniskirts are not for the "senior" set. The same goes for tube tops.

    Look around and notice what others your age are wearing. Dress as they do. You can aim for the younger part of the "senior" group, just look in the mirror or take a photo and then look to see how the outfit looks on you.
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    hello Jacqueline,
    I think that -
    If you are trying to "pass" in public without drawing attention to yourself then you should act and dress your age.
    If you are an extreme extrovert then just do as you please.
    If you dress in private no one will notice what you are wearing.
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    Dress to make yourself happy

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    In Today's "Femulate" blog, Stana makes the excellent point that you can dress to your body's age, not your chronological age.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jacqueline Vivaldi View Post
    Thanks for all of your comments and helpful encouragement. It is good to do a reality check occasionally
    There are really a l lot of beautiful looking women who are near my age. Actually one gal who responded is my age, 85.
    Amelie- I think that I will try a stylish gray wig like yours. You look grand.
    The picture I put up in my post was not a picture of me. Although I do have a grey wig, I never posted a pic online with it.. My avatar pic the wig is green but when put into a black and white mode it takes on a white/blue tint.
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    All good responses, and I think it's important to remember that many cis people have preconceived notions as to whether we should even be out and about or even exist in the first place. Even like minded gender fluid or non binary folks, etc. may have their own opinions as to how one should present. Live your own truth, be happy with who you are or change it to satisfy yourself. In the end it is only your internal peace that should be considered. Feedback and affirmation can be important to many but doesn't necessarily require subscription. Personally, I think you look great, and if it pleases YOU that is all that really matters in the end, regardless of age.
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    Wow, if you've made it to 85 wear whatever the heck you want.
    Damn the torpedoes, Full skirts ahead....lol
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    I'm 72 not only don't I dress my age I don't dress my gender. I have a friend who is a GG of 86 years and she still dresses up and looks great.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Krisi View Post
    ...Look around and notice what others your age are wearing. Dress as they do. You can aim for the younger part of the "senior" group, just look in the mirror or take a photo and then look to see how the outfit looks on you...
    What others my age are wearing?

    You mean like jeans, sweatpants, baggy tops, short, mannish "maintenance-free" hairstyles, running shoes and cross-body bags? Ain't gonna happen with this "gurl". If I am doomed to stand out on two counts because a) I am a crossdresser, and b) because unlike most GG's these days, I prefer to wear dresses, skirts, heels and makeup when I go out en femme, then so be it. I refuse to dress like a shlub. Of course, I don't dress like a teeny-bopper either by wearing crop or tube tops, miniskirts, long, dangly earrings or sky-high stilettos, nor do I have a particular compulsion to dye my hair fuchsia or lime green and get tattoos or body piercings. But I will wear skirts, dresses and modest heels even when going to a suburban shopping mall, and if that raises eyebrows among the more - ahem! - "casually dressed" soccer moms there, so be it. Their loss, not mine.

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    In the early years of my crossdressing I took heed of the advice from a transgender peer who tried to guide me in wearing what women in my age group (mid 20?s at the time) wore and didn?t wear. She advised me to stop wearing hosiery (eventhough it was my primary reason to crossdress) cause women don?t wear them any more or rarely ever did. I was led to buying the unstylish crap that Walmart tends to sell in order to present more casual everyday look. Well during that period, I became so dissatisfied with my crossdressing that I was pondering on walking away from it. Thankfully I came to my senses and wore what I want to. Hosiery no matter what!
    Since then when someone gives me the same type of advice on how to dress, I tend to exaggerate even more of what they told me to not wear the next time I knew I was gonna see them. The skirt got shorter or the heels got higher or the more fancier for the next coffee meet up with them!

    Btw my friend Krystal who is several years into retirement pulls off a look well younger than her age very well. She has 20 plus years on me and could look very eye pleasing in her mini skirts and highheels better than I have while I was in my 20’s and 30’s
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    I'm older than most any of you. I recently went to a friends birthday party. She looked elegant in her outfit. It was an expensive pant suite. She and her daughter have done modeling. By the way she turned 92. Many of the other women couldn't touch her.

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    I never pick clothing based on how happy I think it will make a stranger I don't care about. I will wear what I want to, regardless of age.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Leslie Langford View Post
    Age appropriate? Ummm...maybe you missed JLo and Shakira's performances (and outfits) during the recent Super Bowl half-time show. Cher and Tina Turner...did they ever worry about age limitations in the way they dressed, and both are in their 70's now? Shania Twain is not quite there yet, but she still dresses on stage like the "hottie" she continues to be.
    Those are performers, on a stage. Their attire is intended to draw attention. If a 50-something crossdresser wants to try to look like J-Lo, more power to him, but lets not pretend that just because a gorgeous, talented, 50 year old Latina, who keeps herself in exquisite shape, and who was assigned female at birth, can pull it off, he can too. Please...
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    I wear leggings a lot which tend to allow me to sorta fit in with the crowd when fully dressed, and sorta standout when dressed mostly male. I do spend a lot of time looking at what other women wear, but I think I tend to model my look more toward the layered look, a bit toward the LL Bean outdoor style. I don't have very many dresses and I wear them in public only occasionally.

    So, I think I do enjoy being someone a bit different when dressed, more focused on the here and now, and less on the stresses of day to day male life.

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    If I don't dress my birth gender, I'm sure as heck ain't going to dress my birth age

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    I have no idea what an 85 year old woman wears other than my mother-in-law. She wears jeans and graphic tee shirts. She also had a hard life and the wrinkles show the effects of working in the sun following the crops for many years. She also smoked cigarettes for many years. Her mind is sharp as a tack. Forget the fact she needs a walker now for stability.

    If you have the assets to pull it off, then wear what you want. Throw caution to the wind. At 85 you have beaten the odds and should enjoy yourself. There are no do overs in life. As a word of advice to the younger girls here I would recommend taking care of your body. Minimize exposure to the sun. Use lotions. Keep your muscles toned so the sagging of aging does not set in.

    I would shy away from a short mini skirt. The vast majority of mature women I have met in professional fields know what they want and how to get it. They have experience. They have confidence. They do not need gimmicks to attract attention of the kind they want.

    Sometimes the person standing out in the crowd is the mature woman smartly dressed in the sea of young women wearing short mini skirts and revealing tops.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krisi View Post
    I say if you are going out in public you should dress your age. Unlike children's toys, clothes don't come with age labels, but you need to understand some basics. Miniskirts are not for the "senior" set. The same goes for tube tops.

    Look around and notice what others your age are wearing. Dress as they do. You can aim for the younger part of the "senior" group, just look in the mirror or take a photo and then look to see how the outfit looks on you.
    Such practical advice Krisi. Many of us like to blend in with the public when out and about so Krisi's statement makes sense. Others have stated that we should dress for our body age and not our chronological age and this is so true also. Today, classy mature ladies wear a variety of outfits from midi-dresses, to jeans, to leggings, all with stylish boots and colorful tops. Many of these real woman are in their 60s and 70s with grey hair and they look great. Us older Tgirls, can surely emulate them with style and attitude.
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    Hi Jacqueline, We only get to go around once in this life, it's your life, don't waste it with regret. That said, I tend to dress a little younger than I am. How about a few pics?

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    Hi Brenda-
    I can attach only one photo per day, so here is one from the back. Will post a front view in another outfit later on. Since this photo, I have lost another four pounds, am headed for 166, and will stop there. I do a simple set of core exercises for 30 min. each day that I am not doing some sports event like biking, etc.
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    Jacqueline, I would have never guessed 85. I looked at your aviator for a long time trying to take a wild guess on your age
    Age is only a number and you look way much younger so dress the way you are most comfortable
    You sure do show your beauty and not your age

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    I think it's a mixed bag. At some point maybe you should lean towards dressing your age. My goal is to dress to the environment I'll be in. This sort of has the same result because at some point we should stop going out 2 bars and clubs where the 20 year olds go. LOL I found the older crowd in my area which is age appropriate. They don't dress up too far yet I do. I often get pointed out as an example that's some of the other women should follow my lead and dress up more. What's most important is how comfortable you feel and if you feel overdressed that could lead to feeling uncomfortable. So if you're fine with it own it and have a good time. If someone does comment about the length of my skirt or whatever I tell them I'm breaking so many rules, that's the least of my concerns

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    Of course you should dress your age. That goes without saying. It's what that age is that matters and that will be whatever age you want to be at that particular place and time. Get out there and have fun, however you want to do it. Being the Grande Dame of the site that's one privilege that you've certainly earned. Go on you.

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