How do you handle the "it's too much trouble moment"

[Aka_Donna]

Last night was a too much trouble moment. Perhaps you have also had one of those and can share your solution.

Background: can dress at home but not out to neighbors so can go out in yard if coverup, but no further.

So I worked all day non dresses as we were purging some things in the garage, no not clothes, that we were never going to use and had people coming by for pickups. Thus I was wearing polo and jeans. It was a blah day as heavy cloud cover and light rain almost all the time.
Get off work and couldn't wait to get out of jeans. Not even female jeans, give me a skirt or dress. But then it's cold out and can't wear without hose or tights and when have to walk dogs in front yard, need to throw over a jogging suit. But tired and just too much bother. So yesterdays solution was to just grab a pair of comfortable leggings and forget all the rest. I go out in the front yard with leggings and no coverup is needed. Not idea, a wanted to wear skirt, but too much hassle.

Have you had moments like that?

[Allison Chaynes]

All the time. It's too much work to wear a dress or skirt/blouse to only have to take it off two hours later because kids will be home from school/I have to go to work/someone MIGHT show up to buy something I'm selling online.

[NancySue]

Interesting thread. I can?t say I?ve ever had a ?too much hassle? dressing moment. I dress, to some degree, daily. I have a supportive wife, but, like you...it?s Ok to dress around the house..maybe in the yard. Where I have experienced this feeling has been with makeup. Sometimes, it?s just not worth the hassle...just the minimum..eyebrows, mascara and lipstick.

[bridget thronton]

It seems that is too much hassle if I have to cover up to go out - I have gone out fully dressed with my wife but usually not in my own front yard.

[BTWimRobin]

I always seem to have the desire to be dressed. On the days I can dress, I usually don't. Why? As I plan out my day I realize how much I will be out and about or how much my wife is home (she's accepting but I don't want to push my luck). Then I think about how many times I am going to need to change during the course of the day. I just put on panties and say it'll have to do. There's always tomorrow....

[Teresa]

Robin,
Once you find that freedom the daily changes get less , I have my home to run and chores to do . I still find wearing a skirt more comfortablle than wearing trousers or jeans , so if I've been out in them I'll usually slip a skirt on for comfort even if I'm cooking a meal or pushing the vacuum cleaner round .

[tinadee]

I feel that "too much trouble moment" often. Tell myself, dress tomorrow. I have to get faster at doing the makeup and transition. I'm getting better every time, I think. I want to have electrolysis on my beard, to make the transition much easier, I think. But it is always worth it to get dressed. I love being feminine.

[Krisi]

The "too much trouble" thing works fine for crossdressers, but for those living full time as women, you have to do it every day, too much trouble or not.

[Tracy Irving]

Short skirt, long coat. Now your secret is hidden from the view of the neighbors.

[Teresa]

SirDonna,
It's never too much trouble when I consider the alternative .

[Alice Torn]

Have had lots of time to dress, for a long time, but too tired, lazy, overwhelmed by other things.

[JenniferWhenCD]

I wear leggings eveywhere, so they are the perfect coverup for me, nothing out of the ordinary!

[Tracii G]

I think you are making a big deal out of nothing.
Don't try and put the blame on the weather or some other reason you just didn't want to put the effort in.
Don't get mad just admit it.

[Stephanie47]

There have been times when I have had ample time to be en femme and have foregone the opportunity. Why? Just because I did not feel a calling. If I were ever to find out why I have the need to be en femme, then I maybe would be able to figure out what was missing when I did not seize the opportunity. For me it is all or nothing except for sleeping in a nylon gown and nylon panty. It's a dress and all the proper undergarments, heels and hosiery and a wig. I forego the makeup as many GG's do.

[Jemima Stephens]

I have the Opposite issue in that I think "I need to focus and get something done so don't have time to dress..." then 5 minutes later find myself getting dressed!

[Krisi]

It takes a lot of work for a man to look like a woman. Women have the advantage that when they roll out of bed, they look like women. For men, it's a lot more work (to look like a woman). So yes, sometimes I'll just not dress because it's too much trouble.

[susan54]

It is why I go out dressed rarely now. I used to get pedicures regularly so had to keep the appointments but I always asked myself why I was doing this to myself. Went out dressed yesterday for first time since August and I could only cope by making really sure I had everything organised the night before. Women do not have the stress of having to carry their shoes, coat and wig separately. I once left home without my skirt and had to go back. It always seems easier just to stay at home in a nice outfit. I also don't like wearing make-up so staying at home saves on that. I hate putting on or taking off nail varnish but love having it on. I painted my nails on Saturday evening and they are already very badly chipped so if I had been going out today I would have had to do them again. Too much hassle.

[April Rose]

This isn't really a CD only problem. I've had times when I blew off a motorcycle ride because I was too lazy to change into boots and leathers, or a bicycle ride because I was too lazy to change into spandex, or pedal. I've also had times when, fully dressed as a woman and cooking, I realized I was lacking a key ingredient and had to change to go out and get it. When I got back, having the energy to change back to feminine clothes was a 50-50 proposition.

There are other times when it works the opposite. If I am facing a lot of routine household chores and I don't feel like doing them, I will change into a dress and apron and before I know it the chores are done.

[Davina Katherine]

Every time I get dressed I feel the "this is too much!!" feeling. And all of it is because of the FACE. First the very close shave (hopeful with no blood), then everything, EVERYTHING related to makeup. I always feel like it too much trouble. But once it's done and I'm dressed, it's all worth it.

I handle it by accepting the feeling as simply part of my process. (And dreaming of have laser beard removal)

[Beverley Sims]

Used to have those problems, now I can't be bothered to do makeup properly on occasions.

[Teresa]

Bev,
That made me smile , occasionally things don't go right or there's a bit less enthusiasm , then people tell you how great you look ! I just smile and offer to buy a coffee and perhaps check they're wearing the right glasses .

[abby054]

If an activity is not worth the effort or does not pay the bills, I will find something else to do. Doing nothing is sometimes an option. Not to worry, the pink fog will be back and soon.

[Angie G]

Never had that happen.
Angie

[Asew]

I have felt this. My wife biggest restriction is to not dress so that it might cause bullying for our kids. Over a year ago, one day I changed my outfit 14 or 15 times due to getting the kid on the bus, going for a run, a doctor's appointment in the morning, getting kid off the bus, bringing another kid to his therapy appointment. That night I complained to my wife about how much I had to change my outfit. Her response was along the lines "is it worth it?" Some days it is. Other days it caused more stress (usually on stressful days already). Why not just wear male mode and avoid the changes. I would push back at my wife why do I have to change. It was hard to be mindful of her pacing of acceptance, when I just wanted to just pick and wear one outfit a day without ever changing.

But I understand and still compromise. I avoid having it be too much trouble by thinking ahead. If I would have to change within an hour, I would just not change (such as getting back from an appointment and having to get the kid off the bus soon). Also, I started to roughly plan out my outfits for the week, something closer to male mode on busy days (so small or no change needed), a dress on the nicest weather day, and my default t-shirt and skirts on most other days. But also since then, I have been given more freedom to dress more places so less changes overall. I rarely think it's too much trouble anymore.

[Maid_Marion]

I was wearing my new rainbow sports bra and decided to go a new restaurant when they first opened for lunch. And some nail polish that didn't look as good as I thought it would.
Too much trouble to take it off. So I just went out on a restaurant and Target run with a bra and pink nail polish. Like anyone panic shopping at Target would notice!

Marion