The only thing holding me back, is my wife's un-acceptance. I really do desire to live as a woman and probably transition but at 61 have decided not to because of how it would affect so many others.
But if i was living alone I believe I would just start dressing more and more and eventually being living as a woman.
Just curious what so of your experiences may have been?
Yes I was able to dress more often after my divorce, btw my dressing was not the issue in my devorce, .I totally love to dress and all the time,(except when I work) I'm 61 as well after retirement I intend to go 24/7 woman, throw every bit of male clothing I have in the trash, and already growing my hair longer.
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Paula, my wife died 4 years ago! Since then I have discovered that I am a transwoman! I own (but only because I have not got rid of them) very few men's clothes! My name change is on hold but when it is official, I will be Lana Mae 24/7 which I mostly am right now, except at work! I am on HRT now for 16 months! Life is wonderful and I am being me! Elbow Bump Lana Mae
Life is worth living!
"Foxy lady! You look so good!!" Jimi Hendrix
Good for you Lana Mae, it is sad that you lost your wife, however I am glad to see you are making lemonade out of the lemons.
Did you cross-dress prior to losing your wife or did your realzation come on as a surprise after she died.
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Good for you I feel that I would follow the same path
I was dressing a lot before the divorce. Thus the divorce. But, yes, for a while it did. Once I settled into having the freedom to dress whenever I wanted, I certainly "flattened the curve". Probably less overall.
Definitely did. My ex did not know about the dressing so that was not the cause. After she left I was alone half the time so the dressing increased exponentially. At 65 I would love to go full time but my present wife, who knows, wouldn't go for that. Plus my kids would have a real problem. But i'm happy with the time I get now. Sometimes you have to understand it's always not all about you.
Chicken and egg problem. If I dressed more, I might end up divorced. Then I would dress more, for sure!
Mine increased for a while. About a month after we seperated, she showed up at my door, I was dressed. I almost didn't answer the door, then it occured to me, she barged in on me. So open the door went. Turned out it was about the shortest visit I ever had with her. (I was good with that!) There really isn't any venue in my town to go dressed to, so I just restricted my dressing while at home.
I tapered off for a while, there's other things to do. I tend to waffle. Sometimes I do a lot. Other times, I let it slide. I'm not shopping for another girlfriend. My life works better without without one.
I don't dress up because I want to be a woman, I dress up to make me happy.
Lana Mae, you and I are kind of in the same boat as my late wife passed 6 yrs ago. About 3 yrs ago I started HRT, I am very happy with who I have becomeOriginally Posted by Lana Mae
Life is great and I am who I am
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Paula you are very lucky as you present as a beautiful woman
I have been dressing for quite sometime time and knew who I was meant to be
Like Lana, 6 yrs ago after my late wife had passed I just decided it was time to move forward
Today I am who I was meant to be and love it
Best wishes with your passion
I have actually dressed less since my divorce. The ex knew I dressed and we had some fun times going out with me dressed. Without her it was not as much fun and I have not gone out in quite awhile. I now have an elderly dad I help take care of and I do not finish with him till late on a Saturday night and by the time I get home I am too tired to get fancied up and spend 2 hours on the road each way to go to the nearest CD friendly place.
I have to chose Monday weather or not I want to work from home or not and I am leaning towards working at home just so I can dress each day.
After my wife passed away I started dressing more. Started going out with a ex girlfriend who knew of my dressing. But when she got mad at me she would cut up my cloths. After she left I started dressing full time till I remarried. I told I CD and she didn't say anything till after we were married she doesn't like it. Now I wish I didn't get married.
GLENDA
I FEEL LIKE A WOMAN
You look great!
I love to dress and know If I had the chance I would dress quite a lot more.
This addiction if tuff to get rid of!
"This is ME" I am not CRAZY, I'm just a GUY who likes dresses!
Since allot of men dress up in woman's clothing that makes it a manly thing to do!
Much more fun than fishing.
I do construction like house building and I love CD-ing, what's the difference?
Yes it did. I divorced my first wife, she was absolutely horrible. Marriage was a freaking disaster, and that is putting it mildly. Married my 2nd wife, a complete 180 degree opposite of the 1st hag. Current wife is more understanding and helpful. Nothing like this would have ever happened with the first hag.
[B][I]Call me Michelle: doll:
Sort of. I bought my first feminine garments not too long after a break up.
Marriage broke up 7 years ago, ex accepted my dressing but let me know that it definitely got in the way of raising the family. I did not like to dress in front of her since she considered it checking out from the responsibilities of our kids and most other responsibilities. I did not want to dress in front of the kids either. My opportunities to dress back then were limited, partly by my fears as well as lack of support. Since we split, I have the kids 1/2 time and that leaves plenty of time to explore my feminine side.
I have dated two women since, 2 + years each, both were very accepting of my CD side, helped me with make up and clothes. Both relationships broke off for reasons unrelated to CD but they transformed my dressing from "the thrill dresses and heels" to exploring how to dress like the women around me. I learned more about make up, and doing the little things that can make me feel more feminine. They also encouraged me to go to meetup groups for CD/Trans ladies. Lately, I find myself with out an SO and getting quite comfortable by myself and with who I am. I like to dress casually, and now wear womans jeans, shoes and light make up almost every day. I am working up the courage to come out to friends and family, very nervous about that.
All in all, I am in a much better place than I was when married.
P.S. Paula, you look fabulous.
Just increased it by a couple hundred percent. Didn't get my first wig and boobs until after the practice marriage, then multiple outfits, shoes, some more makeup.
Only drawback was it was before internet shopping got serious...I would have probably bought way more stuff.
YES! Since I have been living alone I present as a woman about 90% of the time.
Hugs, Carole
Paula, let's just say I was naive! I wore panties and some lingerie but purged them right away! Was not sure what all of this was about! Did not really explore it until the wife passed on and a few months later I bought a package of panties and came to this forum! The rest is history! Elbow Bump Lana Mae
Life is worth living!
"Foxy lady! You look so good!!" Jimi Hendrix
Paula, Yes my dressing certainly changed after I lost my first wife. She knew and was accepting and supportive, in fact I would say even encouraging in many ways, but always within our agreed boundaries. Removing those boundaries, opened up new opportunities, and I began dressing much more, came out to most of my friends, and found this site.
I dressed some during marriage wife as OK with it, but 3 kids wasn't the best as far as time. 10 years since my divorce (not related to dressing). Finally got my own house and now it seems I can't dress enough. I am working form home a lot before the virus now 3 weeks and counting at home. The only issue I have is I don't go out dressed. If I am dressed I don't get a lot done besides work. I hope this will die down now the weather is getting warmer and I will go outside more.
My wife and I have been married for almost fifty years. Although not divorced I have had the opportunity to dress on occasion for seven to ten days when my wife traveled out of state to visit relatives; Chicago and Phoenix. As a retiree I was free to come and go, do what I wanted. There were days strung together when I was totally en femme. I did go out in the evenings for drive and strolls. As just as a cross dresser I would find being en femme 24/7 for 365 days to be limiting. There may be interaction with some people, but, I'm getting somewhat that feeling with this self isolation with COVID-19. It is nice to be able to slip between male and female expressions whenever I want, but, I also do enjoy male roles.
Yes it did
My wife was OK with my dressing, She even bought my different outfits.
But after she passed away, I started to dress more. I was afraid to dress to often
in front of her. I was a little scared tat she might start thinking the wrong way.
Rader
After my divorce I got my own place to live. I have been able to get dressed whenever I want, living the dream. She knew I CDed and would berate me at every opportunity. Even if I wasn't dressing. Life is better now.
It definitely did. After my divorce about 10 years ago from once in a while to daily
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