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    Twenty Questions

    Twenty questions

    Thought we might get to know each other. No comments on anyone?s answer please just your answers . If there is something you do not want to answer or it does not pertain to you just put N/A


    1) When did you start dressing?

    2) At what age did you pick your name?

    3) why did you pick that name ?

    4) Are you married, single ect?

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?

    6) When did you tell them?

    7) How did that work out ( the telling)

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

    11) Favorite place to shop?

    12)Have you purged?

    13) If so did you regret it?

    14) Any advice to new cders?

    15) Do you do your own makeup?

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?

    17) Anyone you would like to tell?

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out?

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
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    1) When did you start dressing? Not sure around 7 or 8 I guess.

    2) At what age did you pick your name? 23

    3) why did you pick that name ? My first GF name

    4) Are you married, single ect? Married

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

    6) When did you tell them? When we were still dating.

    7) How did that work out ( the telling) no issue she is supportive just doesn?t want to see me fully dressed pictures are ok though.

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have accepted it at a much younger. Age.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Not really.

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? NA

    11) Favorite place to shop? Pennys, Macy?s, Kohl?s.

    12)Have you purged? Over the years yes a few times.

    13) If so did you regret it? Yes especially older pics

    14) Any advice to new cders? Embrace it

    15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) better at make up, go out and interact with others.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? Yes some friends but wouldn?t end well.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? NA

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Recently had my first make over wonderful experience. Will do it a lot more.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? How important it is to me and how it makes me feel.

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    1) When did you start dressing?
    Age 10
    2) At what age did you pick your name?
    Age 54
    3) why did you pick that name ?
    Always thought it was a pretty name (it's not Roberta)
    4) Are you married, single ect?
    Married
    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
    Yes
    6) When did you tell them?
    20 years ago
    7) How did that work out ( the telling)
    Fully accepting
    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
    I would have come out sooner.
    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
    Modern trends
    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
    N/A
    11) Favorite place to shop?
    Torrid
    12)Have you purged?
    Yes
    13) If so did you regret it?
    Yes
    14) Any advice to new cders?
    Come out right now!
    15) Do you do your own makeup?
    Yes
    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
    To blend
    17) Anyone you would like to tell?
    My Mom, I will be once we can travel again
    18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
    No
    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
    25th Aniversary
    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
    They all seem to understand and accept it.

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    1) In college
    2) 40s (long story unto itself)
    3) see 2
    4) Married
    5) Yes
    6) a few years ago
    7) Swimmingly
    8) I would have taken dance lessons
    9) haute couture of course. Ok more like punk couture.
    10) I seem to be the representative Drag Queen of the forums
    11) Fashion district L.A. Amazing fabric to make my own, or Santee Alley when I want something fabulous but premade.
    12) Yes but not in the way you mean
    13) No
    14) oh my gosh, so much... first and foremost I’d say learn to do your own makeup
    15) yes
    16) just constant improvement
    17) I’m not exactly hiding from anyone! Lol
    18) not really
    19) every time is a good time
    20) N/A

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    1) When did you start dressing?
    Hmm, age 8? I can't remember not desiring to be more feminine.

    2) At what age did you pick your name?
    When I signed up here, I was 40 something at that time.

    3) why did you pick that name ?
    I was scared about anonymity when I joined here.

    4) Are you married, single ect?
    Currently single.

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
    All, 2 wives, and every girl friend was told early in relationship about my CD. Almost universal acceptance although the unspoken communication gave me varying levels of comfort.

    6) When did you tell them?
    Early in relationship when I felt we both were committed to staying together.

    7) How did that work out ( the telling)
    Only on GF had negative reaction, we broke up a month later.

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
    I do feel I never was honest to myself about where I see this going, therefore, I could not be totally honest with my SO.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
    I like to fit in, that means casual style most of the time.

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
    This site has given me confidence to be myself and get on with life.

    11) Favorite place to shop?
    JCPenny.com, they have good prices and large selection of woman's tall. I fear they will go bankrupt soon.

    12)Have you purged?
    Yes, during my last divorce, really was no need to. But in retrospect, much of my stuff was old and not my style, so it does not bother me.

    13) If so did you regret it?
    No, I learned to adopt a style and find places to shop, wardrobe is better than ever.

    14) Any advice to new cders?
    Read this forum, understand that the regrets of older CDers will be yours as well some day. The good news is, you can avoid those regrets today.
    Also, get out of any relationship that is non-accepting if you can.

    15) Do you do your own makeup?
    Yes, I know it is a personal item and I am reluctant to borrow.

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
    A more feminine look either if I am in drab of en-femme.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell?
    My family does not know, we are geographically spread, but I think my sisters would be fine with my gender expression.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
    Only on GF was disgusted. I was quite surprised since she espoused a ultra-liberal social view on all things LGBQT. You

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
    A vacation with a GF where we strolled a big city dressed, tourist sites, dinner and conversation with locals. Then out of the blue, she pulled me into a MAC store to get me a better foundation. So much fun.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
    I wish everyone could separate gender and sexuality. I am more sexually conservative than most people I know, but revealing CD often evokes thoughts of sexual deviance in folks.

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    1) When did you start dressing?
    I was probably around 10 years old

    2) At what age did you pick your name?
    I was 45 when I joined the forum. I had played with a few names, but settled on
    Raychel an extension of my guy name just like Raychel is an extension of me.

    3) why did you pick that name ?
    Needed a name for the forum

    4) Are you married, single ect?
    Separated for 3 years

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
    Yes

    6) When did you tell them?
    about 13 years ago

    7) How did that work out ( the telling)
    She did not handle it very well at the time.
    But she did accept it fine afterwards

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
    Oh Yes, I would have told alot more people when I was young

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
    Fancier dress, Mother of the Bride,
    Business, Formal

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
    60 years old, Had a struggle my whole life.
    Was not very well accepted in school,
    Had a very hard marriage for 23 years.
    Now living by myself and feel incredibly lonely most of the time
    Sure hoping to meet someone that can accept me for who I am and
    enjoy walking thru the rest of life as happy as possible

    11) Favorite place to shop?
    My Favorite place over the years has been Dress Barn or JC Penneys. With Dress Barn gone now
    I will have to check out some other places

    12)Have you purged?
    Yes, several times when I was younger, Never again

    13) If so did you regret it?
    Yes so much. Lots of wasted money

    14) Any advice to new cders?
    Accept yourself and enjoy life

    15) Do you do your own makeup?
    No makeup at all here, Just a guy in a dress

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
    To make everyday happy and better then yesterday

    17) Anyone you would like to tell?
    I have told everyone that needs to know
    I was afraid of telling my father.
    But my wife put me on the spot about 6 months ago, I came out and told him
    He was fine

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
    Only my wife for a short while.
    No one else cared at all, They know me for the person I am

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
    Went to Spring Fling in Massachusetts one time

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
    I just wish they understood that being dressed is really how I feel most comfortable
    Last edited by Raychel; 04-14-2020 at 10:22 AM.
    my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress

    "Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"

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    Started dressing in 8th grade.
    Made my name in 8th grade, though at the time I only used it for video game characters.
    The name was based on the name of a girl I liked.
    I am married.
    My wife knows.
    I told my wife a little over 2 years ago.
    My wife has accepted it.
    Probably wouldn't change anything as I am in a good enough place now.
    For myself, I love skirts (and pair them with anything) and some dresses. Though some styles I like on women I don't like to wear personally, took a bit of trying to figure this out.
    I would like you to know we are always here for you.
    I love to shop at thrift stores, tons of variety and great prices. Torrid is my favorite first hand retailer.
    I purged a couple times in my teens and 20s.
    I regret the purges a little bit.
    Accept this side of you. Though most that are on these forums are most likely already there.
    I have tried makeup and I don't like it so I don't ever wear makeup.
    I strive to be able to dress as I wish always. Mostly there.
    I have no one left to tell.
    No bad reactions coming out.
    Going out with my family and always being treated as normal.
    I think my loved ones understand it pretty well. Initially my mom thought it was more like wearing kilts when it was more than that as she now knows.

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    1) When did you start dressing? Around 4-5 years of age

    2) At what age did you pick your name? NA

    3) why did you pick that name ? Didn?t have to. Kimberly is my given name.

    4) Are you married, single ect? Married twice, divorced twice. Total married time was 35 years

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Both did

    6) When did you tell them? First time it just revealed itself in sex play. Second, before we were engaged.

    7) How did that work out ( the telling). Initially, well, but I grew toward full time and that didnt work

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? More attention to my ex wife?s real feelings.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Everyday, business casual

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Not really. Nothing special

    11) Favorite place to shop? Used to be cold water creek

    12)Have you purged? Several times

    13) If so did you regret it? Deeply

    14) Any advice to new cders? Practice, practice, practice

    15) Do you do your own makeup? Of course.

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? I try to look as feminine as possible

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? Not really.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not really

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? A night out with a group of lesbian and bi women. Nothing erotic. I was just so welcomed and included.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That it doesn?t change me...I have always been the same person.

    Easy come, easy go;
    Easy left me long ago...

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    Di,
    Nice idea :-

    1) It chose me at the age of 8-9.
    2) I chose my name because I needed one for the forum , so glad I did as it's made things a whole lot easier.
    3) Purely by accident as the forum accepted it , now I use Terri instead of Terry .
    4) Married for 45 years now half way through the divorce .
    5) Everyone knows now .
    6) I came out twenty years ago in my forties.
    7) OK for about two weeks then the DADT wall went up .
    8) Tough question , looking back the damage was obvioulsy done when I came out so maybe we should have agreed to separate then .
    9) I guess I try to be the girl next door , being full time to me means integrating into society , I also feel we need to consider age , to a certain extent .
    10) I've probably worn my heart on my sleeve for too long , there isn't much left to tell .
    11) I just love to shop face to face in retail stores , online does nothing for me , I'd miss the fun with the SAs .
    12) Never purged , when the need is 24/7 there isn't much point .
    13) N/A
    14) Is there really a new Cder ? It's about accepting yourself which for many goes right back to being born ,for a man it's the hardest part admitting it .
    15) I now do my makeup everyday , I don't mind as it's part of my identity now .
    16) I assume it's goals and not a bucket list but my goal would be acceptance from my son as he's now one of the few who's never seen me along with my mother . Bucket list would be a cruise as Teresa .
    17) No one left to tell , which feels good .
    18) Coming out back in my forties lead to almost ending my life . Now I'm free to be Teresa over the last two years not a single bad reaction .
    19) The best time must be rejoing my painting group as Teresa last September , that's when I really found normality .
    20) Because I prefer not to appear male anymore , I wish they could understand I'm still a good person in fact I feel I'm a better person which they could be missing out on .

    Thanks Di .
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    1) When did you start dressing?
    10 or 11
    2) At what age did you pick your name?
    Never did (except for this forum in 2017 but that's utilitarian).
    3) why did you pick that name ?
    Forum name was I think a reference to Diana Rigg.
    4) Are you married, single ect?
    Married
    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
    Yes
    6) When did you tell them?
    In 2019, after 36 years together (met in high school)
    7) How did that work out ( the telling)
    Very hard for my wife, she can't understand it (but tries very hard) and is turned off by the news. We are struggling, but there's love.
    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
    Would have told earlier
    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
    Straight/tight office or evening attire
    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
    The way I dress has no bearing over my view of women and femininity. I dress my way and women dress theirs, everyone is free and I couldn't care less!
    11) Favorite place to shop?
    Online. I don't go out so no brick and mortar for me!
    12)Have you purged?
    Never had much to purge, so, no.
    13) If so did you regret it?
    Not applicable
    14) Any advice to new cders?
    Don't be ashamed, it's just you. Tell your SO.
    15) Do you do your own makeup?
    Yes
    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
    Nothing special, try to be myself, which includes infrequent venturing in female presentation.
    17) Anyone you would like to tell?
    My close relatives so my wife could vent. No need to bother friends with it.
    18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
    Only came out to my wife.
    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
    Every time is special. First time standing up with heels was a shock (something to do with utter transgression or the fact I could not pass doors anymore).
    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
    My crossdressing doesn't change my love for my wife. When I don't I am (and enjoy being) 100% her man. And she's the only real thing as far as femininity goes!
    Last edited by DianeT; 04-15-2020 at 07:28 AM. Reason: Precisions

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    1) When did you start dressing? 12

    2) At what age did you pick your name? 36

    3) Why did you pick that name? Not sure. It just felt right. (although Lee is my real middle name)

    4) Are you married, single, etc.? Married

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

    6) When did you tell them? 2003-2004 (After I came to terms it wasn't just only a Halloween thing any longer; reflected on my youth & realized it wasn't going away)

    7) How did that work out (the telling) At first she was okay with it 1-2 times / week. Then... out of nowhere, it wasn't. It was a "perverted" & "disgusting" thing I was doing. Enter DADT, although she does see when/if I dress on Halloween. (which she I know she hates)

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Buy stock in Amazon . See #17. Following through on the challenge a girlfriend laid out about coming out to my best friend/neighbor Halloween 2012... and seeing if she was right.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? A lot... but I'm a sucker for a retro style dress with a full skirt.

    10) What is something that you would like us to know about you? I identify as gender-fluid and pansexual

    11) Favorite place to shop? Online, Express, Macy's or Penny's. If I were younger.. A&F, Hollister, Pac Sun

    12) Have you purged? Unfortunately... pics, clothing and shoes

    13) If so, do you regret it? Yep, Yep, Yep

    14) Any advice to new CDrs? Don't purge, don't use cheap make-up, and just buy the good breast forms.

    15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

    16) What things do you strive for (goals) Learning to contour and blend, develop a softer voice so that I can pass & hang out with friends outside my house.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? Y Maybe.....

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not yet.

    19)The best time (so far) you have had dressed? Having a girls night with my sister. Spending the evening talking, drinking wine, and modeling clothes & sharing clothes.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? This is part of my make-up/being. I can't change. Any attempt to do so only puts my mental health at risk.

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    1- age 15
    2- n/a
    3-love the name
    4-married
    5-yes sure
    6-when I dressed in her presence
    7-worked just fine, she approved
    8-no
    9-no. not really. I like skirts
    10- Thinking I should be born different gender.
    11- web and malls.
    12- no
    13- n/a
    14- be yourself, you'll be happier.
    15- yes
    16- enjoy being me, dressing when I please
    17- nobody elses business.
    18- n/a
    19- relaxing dressed daily.
    20- wish everyone would accept us like we are.
    Wanting something is a fantasy which on a long time period clouds your mind and makes you think you need it.

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    1) When did you start dressing?
    Earliest 11-12, seriously, 49-50

    2) At what age did you pick your name?
    49 although I mulled it over for about 20 years

    3) why did you pick that name ?
    Needed a name for a makeover. Meghan just popped out. First letter in boy name

    4) Are you married, single ect?
    Married 30 years

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
    Yes

    6) When did you tell them?
    Hmm, a few times over the years, but not as completely as 50

    7) How did that work out ( the telling)
    Challenging. She is NOT a fan.

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
    Probably. The most important thing is to fully disclose before marriage.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
    More than one, but classy and well dressed. Professional, pencil skirt etc. Clean lines

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
    Love is important?

    11) Favorite place to shop?
    Lowe's hardware? No... Jungle Jim's international grocery

    12)Have you purged?
    Yes. But not in a while.

    13) If so did you regret it?
    Maybe a little. I did what I thought was right.

    14) Any advice to new cders?
    See number 8. And relax.

    15) Do you do your own makeup?
    Of course! Unless it's a very special occasion.

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
    To appear as much like an attractive lady as possible. To spread love and acceptance.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell?
    I've told most people that I would want to. There might be a few others, but it really depends on the reason for sharing.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
    Mostly my wife. I've not had another bad reactions that I can remember.

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
    Vegas Transformation. Look it up. Million years.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
    I feel very complete and happy as Meghan. And Meghan still loves my wife.
    Last edited by Meghan4now; 04-14-2020 at 12:27 PM.
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    I'm just doing this because I'm bored and happened to check the forum.

    1) When did you start dressing?
    I guess I was ten, unfortunately.

    2) At what age did you pick your name?
    N/A

    3) why did you pick that name ?
    I only use "Pixie" as a nickname on the forum, I like anonymity to an extent.

    4) Are you married, single etc?
    Single, and I have no plans to change that.

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
    None at the moment, but I would prefer to get rid of it if I were to be in a relationship like that.

    6) When did you tell them?
    N/A

    7) How did that work out ( the telling)
    N/A

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
    Maybe not even trying to shop.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
    I have no idea anymore.

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
    My social enviroment tends to be not the best one for most of people's sanity.

    11) Favorite place to shop?
    None, I can't shop anymore.

    12)Have you purged?
    Many times, to be honest, and I'm considering it for the last of my "stash".

    13) If so did you regret it?
    I did, but I can't do anything about it.

    14) Any advice to new cders?
    Try to keep a low profile.

    15) Do you do your own makeup?
    I don't wear makeup, nor plan to do it.

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
    Getting a job once I graduate.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell?
    Not at the moment.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
    There were and that's why I looked for a "cure" for years.

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
    I'd say when I got some high heels, but that was an awful year.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
    I don't know anymore, I simply don't want any trouble.

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    1) When did you start dressing? Around 7 or 8 I think. It was a long time ago and really sporadic.

    2) At what age did you pick your name? 45

    3) why did you pick that name ? I’ve always loved Eastern European names

    4) Are you married, single ect? Married. 2nd wife one kid

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

    6) When did you tell them? The day we reconnected. I knew her in high school, lost track, reconnected.

    7) How did that work out ( the telling). First she thought I was gay. So far it’s worked out ok after that I guess.

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have been more honest with myself at a younger age. But hindsight is 20/20.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Yes. I would classify it as modern chic

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I’m an introverted extrovert. I love people. I believe we as a species are capable of amazing things when we allow ourselves to.

    11) Favorite place to shop? Nordstrom

    12)Have you purged? Yes. Several times

    13) If so did you regret it? Not a bit. My style has changed over time and I would have gotten rid of those items anyway. Some, not all where bought in haste, some where bought when I first started out and where gawdawful. What I regret is the wasted money.

    14) Any advice to new cders? Live YOUR best life not someone else’s

    15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes. Not much. Once you figure out what you want to present it’s pretty simple to have a trimmed down supply.

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be the best version of me I can be.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? No. Not really. All the important people know already. Running around telling be now would seem pointless and self serving.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Only to the pocket book

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Every time I go shopping with my wife.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Not that I can think of. Nobody has ever really asked me anything really out there or not been accepting that I know of.
    You laugh at me because I'm different. I laugh at you because your all the same

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    1) When did you start dressing? The very first time that I fully dressed, was actually quite a few years ago, back in 2005, I think..... I was married at the time and really only did it that once because my now ex-wife did not like that at all.

    2) At what age did you pick your name? 36

    3) why did you pick that name ? In my honest opinion, Kimberly is a very beautiful name, (all female names are LOL), plus it also has a lot to do with my crush on the actress, Amy Jo Johnson, who portrayed the first Pink Power Ranger, and her character's name was Kimberly.

    4) Are you married, single ect? Single

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? N/A

    6) When did you tell them? N/A

    7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I only wish I could've started dressing a lot sooner.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Not particularly..... I like to experiment with different styles.

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? N/A

    11) Favorite place to shop? Walmart

    12)Have you purged? Yes..... A couple of years ago, I was fully dressing but only at home and I did not get out dressed at all. Due to religious reasons, I purged EVERY bit of my feminine things, (wigs, clothes, shoes, makeup, etc.) except for my hosiery. I felt miserable after I did that and around Halloween last year, I decided to go back to dressing because it feels like it's who I'm supposed to be.

    13) If so did you regret it? Yes

    14) Any advice to new cders? Be true to yourself.

    15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Coming out as a CD'er to a few friends; I haven't done that yet.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? Yes, a close friend who lives in California.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I went to see a movie before the pandemic, because that was the longest that I've stayed at one place at a time while dressed and a lot of people saw me.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? N/A
    I may be crazy, but I'm BURIED in your memory!

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    This could be enlightening. Thank you for the opportunity to share and to learn more of others here, Di!


    1) When did you start dressing?
    The first time I remember was trying on my mother's panties. I'm not certain of the age, but I'd guess around 5 or 6.

    2) At what age did you pick your name?
    That came much later. I'd guess around age 40.

    3) why did you pick that name ?
    I wanted a female name for an online presence. Having such a female name has not been terribly important to me otherwise. I don't have much of a female persona - I simply feel compelled to express some femininity in my dress.

    4) Are you married, single etc.?
    I've been married since I was a teenager 40-odd years ago.

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
    Yes.

    6) When did you tell them?
    I told her while we were dating in high school.

    7) How did that work out ( the telling)?
    At the time she said it "didn't matter," but some months after we married she decided that it did. She would no longer accept or tolerate my dressing. She has said that my wearing women's clothing was/is just "not right." We are currently in a type of don't ask, don't tell. Our relationship has undoubtedly suffered as a result. Admittedly, I have made some bad choices in seeking such acceptance outside of my marriage.

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
    I would not have married so young and would have asked her to work together with me to honor the "didn't matter" sentiment or to end the relationship. My own guilt and limited self-acceptance kept (and perhaps still keeps) me from doing this.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
    I am interested in 3 styles: clothing on the feminine side of androgynous that I can wear every day (almost all of the jeans, shoes, and underwear that I wear daily are women's), everyday dresses or skirt outfits for (exceptionally rare) trips out in public, and bedroom lingerie of silky / satiny fabrics. I have breast forms and a wig that I seldom wear.

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
    Several things: Like many here, my desire or need to crossdress has progressed over the years from primarily fetish as a teenager to something more - although the fetish aspect remains even as I enter into my 60s. I don't feel I was born in the wrong body and certainly don't hate my male anatomy, but it is obvious that I am not solidly of the male gender. I sometimes wonder if I would have been happier had I been born female, but perhaps I would have been equally comfortable (or uncomfortable) with my gender had I been. I'm somewhere in between on the gender spectrum. I identify as "straight." That is, I am attracted to women regardless of how I'm dressed, and am much less comfortable around men than women when dressed. Despite all of this, I consider my gender (such as it is) an important part of me and would not change it if I could.

    11) Favorite place to shop?
    I love shopping in person - especially in the company (and with the support of) of a f.a.b. friend, but by far the majority of my wardrobe has been bought online. Nordstrom Rack, Macys, and Dillards have great bargains on quality clothing during clearance events. I never pay full price for anything.

    12)Have you purged?
    I purged several times during my younger years - before I was married and around the time that my wife decided she could not tolerate my dressing.

    13) If so did you regret it?
    Absolutely!

    14) Any advice to new cders?
    Love yourself first, and find a partner and friends that value you and your happiness regardless of what gender you wish to present. Do not accept tolerance - it is important to find those who embrace every aspect of you. They exist! I have a few in my life without whom I would be lost.

    15) Do you do your own makeup?
    I don't do my makeup or nails enough to do them well. They are skills that I would like to improve.

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
    I want to be accepted - and embraced - for who I am in all significant interpersonal relationships.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell?
    I've hinted to my grown daughters, and I suspect that they know... something. I would like to get that out in the open.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
    The only significant bad reaction was the delayed rejection by my wife.

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
    My best times dressed were going out with accepting / encouraging friends - a female-at-birth friend and a couple. One was a shopping trip and the other was a Halloween party.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
    I wish my wife knew how important this aspect of my personality is to me, and how much her rejection hurts me and our relationship.

    These are very insightful questions. I have learned something of myself by answering them!

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    1) When did you start dressing? - 12

    2) At what age did you pick your name? - Do not remember.

    3) why did you pick that name ? - I just loved the name.

    4) Are you married, single ect? - Married

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? = Yes

    6) When did you tell them? - 22 years ago

    7) How did that work out ( the telling) - Good after a few questions and tears.

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? - Would have come out to my wife before I did.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? - Casual look

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? - I love my family.

    11) Favorite place to shop? - Primark

    12)Have you purged? - Nope, I am too tight to throw out things

    13) If so did you regret it? - N/A

    14) Any advice to new cders? - Be who you are

    15) Do you do your own makeup? - Yes

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? - To be happy

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? - Nope

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No to the two people that know.

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? - Girly weekends away with the wife.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? - If they knew just to accept I am the same person before you knew I dressed.
    Don't Take Life To Serious, It's Only Temporary

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    Junior Member Jennifer Slater's Avatar
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    1) When did you start dressing? 12 or 13

    2) At what age did you pick your name? 22

    3) why did you pick that name ? Name of my first girlfriend in 6th grade...also t's a pretty name

    4) Are you married, single ect? Married

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? yes

    6) When did you tell them? about a year after we were married

    7) How did that work out ( the telling) Started out ok, but she believes it's an addiction that needs to be overcome

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? not really

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? no

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm kind

    11) Favorite place to shop? on-line

    12)Have you purged? yes

    13) If so did you regret it? yes

    14) Any advice to new cders? be yourself and be honest in your relationships

    15) Do you do your own makeup? no

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? accepting me without lapsing

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? no

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? yes..girlfriend used cross dressing to exploit me

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? 1988

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I love my wife and I value her more than crossdressing
    Don't make no difference what nobody says, Ain't nobody like to be alone - Bruce Springsteen

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    1) When did you start dressing? - Started with Pantyhose back in Elementary School

    2) At what age did you pick your name? Last year, it was just known as my "Alter Ego" previously.

    3) why did you pick that name ? Closish to my name - yet far enough away to protect.

    4) Are you married, single ect? Married

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yep and fully supports

    6) When did you tell them? Shortly into our relationship.

    7) How did that work out (the telling) - Acceptance, started with my fondness of Pantyhose.

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? - Gone out more fully dressed sooner!

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Dresses, followed by skirts.

    10) What is something that you would like us to know about you?

    11) Favorite place to shop? Online, Lane Bryant, Just My Size, Amazon, Long Tall Sally.

    12) Have you purged? - NOPE

    13) If so did you regret it? N/A

    14) Any advice to new cders? Be yourself, be careful and take your time.

    15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes - but Wife will help and has taught me along the way.

    16) What things do you strive for (goals)?

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? Some friends but not sure I want to risk that.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No

    19) The best time (so far) you have had dressed? Several - both with and without Wife.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? N/A
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    1) When did you start dressing? 12? 13?

    2) At what age did you pick your name? Hmm. In the last decade? Wavered between Kathy and Julia all my life.

    3) why did you pick that name ? It's pretty.

    4) Are you married, single ect? Married.

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? No.

    6) When did you tell them? N/A

    7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have told my wife about my CDing 28 years ago when we met.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Very feminine and classy.

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I don't want to be closeted but have fear of rejection/humiliation. I'm a genuinely kind and curious person. I play in an online game where I can be Julia and have found a lot of acceptance there.

    11) Favorite place to shop? Online.

    12)Have you purged? Oh, yes. But not in the past 10 years or so.

    13) If so did you regret it? Every. Single. Time.

    14) Any advice to new cders? Own it with your spouse/SO/partner.

    15) Do you do your own makeup? If you can call it that, yes.

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be happy. Calm. Dressed. Sexy. To once go out with a friend, safely, dressed.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? My wife. My transgendered daughter. My son. Wife most of all.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? All of them. Spending hours in a hotel or AirBnB dressed and happy and content just hanging out. The ones with a pro makeup session most of all.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I'm not weird. That it's okay. To please not mock me. That I need acceptance, not just tolerance.
    Last edited by JuliaGirl; 04-14-2020 at 02:56 PM.
    Closeted for 45 years, so please take any advice I might offer with a massive dose of reality.
    Julia xo

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    1) When did you start dressing? first recollection 3 rd grade 1st experience probably 16

    2) At what age did you pick your name? I would say late 20's early 30s

    3) why did you pick that name ? After a line in a Lou Reed tune"Sallee's got eyes on her knees". I have know idea why or what it means

    4) Are you married, single ect? yes

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? yes

    6) When did you tell them? probably 37 yrs ago

    7) How did that work out ( the telling) Okay she took an interest whe went out together to support group and other outings

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? NO I don't think so

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Casual trying to look real but classy

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I don't get out as much as some may think once a month I use the term in the "In the closet but the door is open and light is on"

    11) Favorite place to shop? Any mall or large department store

    12)Have you purged? yes many years ago

    13) If so did you regret it? Its to long ago to look back on

    14) Any advice to new cders? There is tons of information out there. No one really cares so go out have fun, enjoy

    15) Do you do your own makeup? yes but I enjoy makeovers they are lots of fun

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To accept myself more

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? No just to be more open about it

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not really

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I was mistaken for a GG at a support meeting. The speaker thought I was some ones SO

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I wish she was more accepting
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Sallee

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    Here is my input.

    1) When did you start dressing? 8 or 9. My mother used me as a dressing dummy for some of the costumes for Dance Recitals. I liked it then and have done it since.

    2) At what age did you pick your name? 15 or so I guess. I was dressing when I could. Not full, just what i could get away with.

    3) why did you pick that name ? It is the feminine version of my name.

    4) Are you married, single ect? Divorced, and she passed away about 15 years ago.

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? No.

    6) When did you tell them? N/A.

    7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A.

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Yeah, I would have done better with my weight and toned up better.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Skirt/Blouses. Girdles with Suspenders. No pantyhose. Skinny jeans or Faux Leather pants. At least 3 inch heels. I have some 4/5 inch, but only for certain occasions.

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? single for so long it does not matter any longer.

    11) Favorite place to shop? Amazon. Never been dressed and shopped out. May try that after the new house is built.

    12)Have you purged? Oh yeah! too many times to count.

    13) If so did you regret it? Yes. Not purging anymore. I am comfortable with myself and where I am in life.

    14) Any advice to new cders? Take a chance. Don't be afraid of what others think. Tell your significant other you like to do it. if they don't want to understand then they are not the right person for you.

    15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes, horrible at it.

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Makeup perfection.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? No, I came out dressed at Halloween and was accepted by the peer group I am most respected in.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not at all. Lucky I guess.

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? I did a Pinup Photo shoot that was supposed to be part of a calendar. Photo shoot was blast. No Calendar.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? No. My son does not care, thinks it is funny. All the rest of the family in my home state, are very cool with it.

    In closing, I think the only people that would not be cool/understanding with my dressing is my work colleagues. It is a male dominated environment. even with the huge number of people in the company, there were two people that I know of that transitioned and it was a big joke in some circles. I have no plans to transition. I love my male parts. I just wish I had bigger breasts!

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    1) When did you start dressing?
    I have known from a very young age, probably 4 or 5 that there was something "different" about me, and I was experimenting with my mother's, aunt's and cousin's clothes starting at about 6. I was in my mid- to late-teens when I started dressing fully, and started to play with make-up.

    2) At what age did you pick your name?
    About 14 or 15, when I started to dress fully

    3) why did you pick that name ?
    When I was 10 or so, I asked my mother what my name would have been if I had been born a girl.

    4) Are you married, single ect?
    Divorced

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
    My ex wife knew

    6) When did you tell them?
    About 18 months after we got married, in 1986. She found my stash of lingerie I started to accumulate after about a year of marriage.

    7) How did that work out ( the telling)
    Short term not well, lots of tears and yelling. She insisted I see a psychologist to be "cured." Long story short, after he met with her, he convinced her it was harmless, and I could not be "cured."

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
    Not get married, so I could have been free to explore my gender more in my twenties and thirties.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
    Professional, classic

    10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
    N/A

    11) Favorite place to shop?
    Lane Bryant

    12)Have you purged?
    Yes, before I got married.

    13) If so did you regret it?
    Yes. I had some lovely clothes.

    14) Any advice to new cders?
    Don't feel shame, own it.

    15) Do you do your own makeup?
    Yes, and I get compliments.

    16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
    Exploring my gender identity. I stopped identifying as a crossdresser about 10 years ago, I now identify as being transgender, and trying to decide whether or not I'll transition.


    17) Anyone you would like to tell?
    My daughter and my 2 best male friends. I'm not sure my ex knows how far I've come in exploring my gender, so I need to talk to her about it.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
    Only my ex-wife when I told her. Everyone else I've come out to has been incredibly supportive. Even my ex came around and was supportive after she had a chance to digest it.

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
    A week spent in Duluth, MN fully as Elizabeth.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
    That I am happier as a woman than I ever have been as a man.

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    1) When did you start dressing? Around 4 years old

    2) At what age did you pick your name? My current name at age 50. I used another name from around age 23 to that time.

    3) Why did you pick that name ? My current name is a fictional character in a stage play. I performed that part in several plays and the fictional character?s personality reflected my own quite well.

    4) Are you married, single etc? Married

    5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

    6) When did you tell them? Before we were married

    7) How did that work out (the telling) Worked out very well. We have had our ups and downs over it throughout our 50+ years together, but overall she is very accepting.

    8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would not have told my parents. I did that when my wife and I had our first child. It did not go well with my parents and became a DADT subject. We were not living with my parents, so there was no real need for them to know.

    9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Classic and professional (skirts and tops, dresses, hosiery and pumps)

    10) What is something that you would like us to know about you? I accepted my desire to crossdress at an early age and have never regretted it.

    11) Favorite place to shop? Department stores, thrift stores, eBay, other online stores

    12) Have you purged? Never

    13) If so did you regret it? N/A

    14) Any advice to new cders? Come to terms with your need to crossdress and own it. You do not need to transition to be able to go out and be accepted in today?s world.

    15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

    16) What things do you strive for (goals) ? Help others who are struggling with their crossdressing to find a way to incorporate it into their lives without destroying relationships or jeopardizing careers.

    17) Anyone you would like to tell? I would like to tell some of my wife?s friends, but my wife does not agree. I honor my wife?s wishes in this.

    18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Only with my late parents

    19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? There have been so many, it?s hard to narrow it down to one. The most memorable was over 20 years ago when I was in a community theatre group and first played the character Phoebe Reece in a comedy play. I was onstage fully dressed performing as a female character in front of friends, family, and co-workers - who mostly did not know I crossdressed off stage.

    20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I would like my wife to understand that I would appreciate it a lot if she would participate more in my outings as Phoebe. I prefer her company over others. She will go out with me, if we are out of town and I have brought my femme things along. But that doesn?t happen very often.
    Phoebe

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