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    Beautifully said Brenda. I am under a pink fog all week. Have to admit, I love the feel8ng

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    Good question and wasn't sure myself.

    All I can equate it to for myself is the urge to CD (for me, only nylons) but it isn't at the expense of taking greater risks, but maybe that's just me.

    In the past, it was a matter of somehow finding some alone time whether in the house or otherwise to CD. A short stint would normally do the trick and I'd be fine after that.

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    Pink Fog = excuse for poor decisions, actions and/or behavior.
    Like a corpse deep in the earth I'm so alone, restless thoughts torment my soul, as fears they lay confirmed, but my life has always been this way - Virginia Astley, "Some Small Hope" (1986)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sara Jessica View Post
    Pink Fog = excuse for poor decisions, actions and/or behavior.
    Absolutely. Guilty as charged. ✋

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    Quote Originally Posted by GretchenM View Post
    I think Tiffany might have defined it pretty completely. It is an obsessive behavior that, sometimes seems to be triggered by a dysphoria episode. Dysphoria technically is a strong discomfort with a situation or a circumstance. It is a reaction to something that you are not comfortable with or, put another way, is outside your comfort zone. Gender dysphoria, simply put, is a discomfort with your native gender identity (the one that meets social expectations) and seeking a comfort with an alternative gender identity that fits who you are better. There are all kinds of sub-dysphoria associated with gender dysphoria such as body dysphoria, expression dysphoria and a pile of others. The dysphoria is relaxed by moving in the direction of greater self comfort in expression or behavior.

    Eight years ago I was almost constantly dysphoric and it drove me and everybody else a little crazy. Now I rarely experience any kind of dysphoria because, after 70+ years, I finally figured out who I am and why I am that way. So, now I am almost always comfortable who I am, no matter what that is or how it is expressed. I did that by abandoning the gender binary concept and embracing the gender mosaic or gender spectrum concept that allows complete freedom in expression and avoids nearly all stereotyping. Very free now.
    I'm with Gretchen on this. We feel the discomfort of gender dysphoria and it gets stronger until we deal with it one way or another. Sometimes we are much more capable, have resources, alternatives, obligations or distractions that keep it suppressed. For some of us that's the way of life most of the time and we get by with dressing occasionally, buying a few things we don't need and then put it all away. I tried that and it only raised the bar, time after time until I decided it was time to change hormones. I don't get the pink fog any longer, but it took years, counseling, medications, admitting and sharing the truth of my gender to figure out what could make that happen.

    At times it would be nice to have either accepted the pink fog or figured the whole thing out years ago, but I think I've finally arrived at the best solution for me. Your path will be different, enjoy it.
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    Pink fog for me is when I have dreams where I am dressed and out and about. I wake up around 3 am and that is about it for the night, no more sleep just thinking about it and wondering when the next time I will be alone.

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    when the dressing starts to takeover.
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    To me, Pink Fog is the name given to one's desire to be girly, Or a reaction to something girly with a wish to be able to projet that femininity myself, sort of like a string vibrating sympathetically to an outside stimulus at the same resonant frequency.

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    Thanks to all who have responded.

    All your definitions and experiences are unique, however I tried to draw some dominant traits of the Pink Fog :
    - It can be triggered by a gender dysphoria episode
    - It can be an urge to dress, or an obsession about crossdressing
    - It can cause a stress that you need to relieve
    - It can lead you to lose your boundaries, take unusual risks, go on a buying spree
    - Some consider it is an excuse for bad decisions/behaviors (like a rationalization after the fact?)
    - You feel better, more relaxed after having satisfied the urges.
    Of course all the above do not apply to everyone.

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    I?ve always assumed that pink fog referred to something like ?the fog of war?, where you do things because of altered perceptions that in a different, less frenzied, context you might never otherwise do.
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    My biggest pink fog was when I finally accepted myself and wanted to try everything out. I was obsessed and always wanting more. Though I had the same thing when I got back into running several years ago and I didn't call it running fog though it would be pretty true.

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    "Pink fog" is whatever you want it to be. As someone else posted, it's often an excuse for making bad decisions.
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    For me it?s a frame of mind, if I had to guess the product of the hormone balance being in a particular place.

    Some days I?m just not interested whereas on a pink fog day I can?t think about anything much but dressing. I used to feel it more when I was younger and opportunities were scarce And so came to associate it with frustration, but fortunately, I get far more time to myself these days.

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    It's the uncontrollable force which causes me to think irrationally and brings on a lot of anxiety. It totally distracts me. I am not able to focus on anything and all I want to do is push my limits of dressing.
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    To me pink fog is just want to be one of the girls going out shopping and enjoying Kay time! Then it is back to reality yuck!!!! The fog will always roll'n again that is a guarantee!

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    After going through discussion I found so relaxed as I was so confused about my unknown behaviour which clears when I complete the crossdress session. I found a name to that behavior 'PINK FOG' lovely experience. Every body want go through and stay there as much as possible.

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    I can recognise a lot of that BTW, particularly if I don?t have any commitments (such at the weekend or presently during furlough), the pink fog means that I am going to be dressing en femme whether I want to or not.

    The amount of willpower it takes to ignore just isn?t worth it for the sake of my mental wellbeing.

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    Hi Diane , It is a state of mind, See line #2 In my signature, >Orchid .oooo.
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    I have found the pink fog to be quite helpful for dealing with stresses beyond my control. I can't really do much about unreasonable customers or requests from my boss at work.
    But, I can easily afford cute clothes with the money I make. And it is cheaper than a therapist.

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    I believe Sara nailed it. However I'd add an add'l thought. That the "pink fog" is a blinding urge, nay need, to do what ever it is telling you to do. The "excuse" part comes afterwards...

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    Soooooo, I've just spent 50 quid on a pair of utterly gorgeous white stilettos that I will wear .... no not for work or going out or anything remotely practical, but for walking up and down my hallway together with holdups and mini skirt just to see what it feels like! Even before the purchase I'd already planned on re-selling them on Ebay when I'd 'finished' with them. WTF! Master Yoda wasn't present during that purchase was he!

    Pink fog.

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    Diane T, that's how it is for me too.

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    Your answer is in your post. It's a feeling such as the thrill that you describe, but like sexual desire it is random, intermittent, varying in strength. Some days you won't feel it at all while other days you will. Sometimes the feeling will be mild while other times it will be strong. Sometimes it will be triggered by something specific (like something you see, smell, touch, hear, or a memory, or even the fact of being alone), and sometimes you won't know what has triggered it.

    This feeling, depending on how strong it is, will trigger different behaviors in different people and at different times, based on the opportunities available to them (and their degree of self-control if opportunities are limited), and based on the strength of the feeling at the time. This could be lapsing into fantasies, or dressing up, or seeking certain websites (cd websites, online shopping, or dating apps and porn sites for some people), or seeking sexual release, or simply putting aside the feeling for a better time although for some people, the feeling will grow in strength the more they lack the opportunity to relieve it.

    Everyone here will have a different slant on it. The feeling and the strength of it is as varied as there are personalities combined with life circumstances. If you want to see a wide variety of answers, look at the results of the 'pink fog' tag search. Tags haven't been assigned to more recent threads, but some things never change. The answers here from 2008 to 2017 are just as relevant today.

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