So my wife knows all about ?Kelly? and is supportive of my needs even though she isn?t a willing participant. We had been discussing divorce over this since she recognizes my need to do this and is afraid that if she spends time with me dressed that while she would still love me, it would turn more into a girlfriend thing, as her image of me would be somewhat shattered. So we did an experiment where we watched a movie together while I was dressed up (although no wig and makeup). In the end we decided we would press on and that our love was stronger than ?this.?
So the question I?m going to pose to her (and am asking the group for your thoughts here first) is this:
Is it better to see me as a MIAD without the wig and makeup so that you can very obviously see that it?s still me? Or is it better to see me only with full wig and makeup so that you can mentally draw a line between the husband and the girlfriend? Or does it not matter at all?
My skills at makeup are not overly great and my wig is hot and bothersome (especially in warm Florida summers!) so it would be difficult to do the whole 9 yards every single time, but if it helps her ?pretend? that it?s not her husband but some friend named Kelly she?s hanging out with it would be worth the effort.
Thanks in advance for your thoughts!