Wearing a dress makes me happy but I would be happier if I could do so without ridicule from anyone.
Wearing a dress makes me happy but I would be happier if I could do so without ridicule from anyone.
Georgina, I know dresses are close to ones heart and all of that but here round where I live I see very few women wearing dresses it seems more like tops and skirts, I do think there is a greater choice of styles and colours in tops which is the road I have gone down, and I feel happier in tops and skirts
I started life a lost man now I am a found woman
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Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".
(sticking to the forum's slant)
I guess I'd have to respond with "a miracle".
I'd say that what would "really make me happy" would be for my wife to change from barely tolerant of my -um- 'ways', into fully accepting and encouraging.
I'm pretty timid and to be able to follow my dreams, I'd need a cheerleader in my corner, saying "you go, girl" and giving me a loving nudge (or even a shove) whenever I get afraid and balk at doing something I really want deep down inside.
It's not going to happen. I know that. But I can dream, can't I?
I'd lIke my wife to be accepting of who I am. That sounds bad. It would be nice for her to accept the female part of me.
Having my own clothes would be nice, hanging in my closet and not having to hide.
Changing my body shape from male to female.
Maybe HRT.
As someone in the closet to all one thing that would make me happy is to be out to my immediate family. Having the freedom to dress even casually around the house would be a huge lift. So there will be those who will say that it?s within my gift, all I have to do is ?Have the conversation?. The problem sits with not knowing the outcome of that conversation.
My SO could take it in her stride; no biggie and all would be lovely. If however the opposite happens, toys leave pram, then there?s much to lose. That is why many others will tell you they remain closeted.
The thing is, I?m not unhappy with my current situation it?s just not ideal. Yes for me to go around the house in a skirt and femme tee without a care in the world would make me happier but it?s not the be all and end all. I have a good life and I?m grateful for what I have. Perhaps it?s the very act of pursuing that elusive happiness, especially when you?re unsure of what that happiness consists of that makes us discontent.
As has been said, suddenly becoming rich makes for instant but sometimes transient happiness as your new normal loses its initial gloss and you seek a different happy. So perhaps we?re better off seeking that which makes us content.
And the evidence is here in these posts; ?Great news, I?m so happy; my SO is OK with me wearing a dress around the house?. Then some time later; ?If only I could wear my forms and wig around the house?.
So perhaps it?s better to ask what would give you contentment and inner peace?
Who dares wears Get in, get out without being noticed
I am happy at this point because my wife's acceptance has taken a recent positive step change. What would take that happiness to a whole 'nother level? For her to look at me wearing something that makes me feel sexy and tell me "Damn, you look sexy!".
What would make me really happy?
My wife would call me by a feminine name when I'm dressed and treat me as a woman.
My wife would cuddle and have sex with me as a woman (not "dressed", but with my wig, boobs and padded panties).
My wife would go out in public with me as sisters or girlfriends.
Just to be clear, she accepts or at least tolerates my dressing, she buys me clothes and she offers me her old clothes so things are not bad at all. I'm just answering the question.
Krisi
☝️This!! This would make me endlessly happy! It?s my biggest source of anxiety when I?m out doing anythingOriginally Posted by Maid_Marion
Foxy's and Maid Marion's happiness is non-gender bathrooms. In my small city (215,000 =/-) the city council enacted a law that all single person bathroom must be designated as non-gender. Signage must indicate that. So, there are no men's rooms and women's rooms unless there are multiple stalls. Petition your city council if you do not have such laws.
Me? On the issues relating to this specific site, yes, it would be very nice to have an accepting and participating wife, but I am a realist. It ain't going to happen!
On the greater issue? I am sick and tired of every day turning on the television and radio am being confronted with the endless news of COVID-19 and the politics surrounding it as well as the politics of pre-COVID. I fear it is only going to get worse as we get into the fall months with adding no new episodes of my favorite television shows. I don't know what normal is anymore.
You might want to recalibrate your perception of "really happy" considering your wife's generosity. Plenty of ladies with broken homes and plenty of closet queens on here right now.
Sara Lin(sticking to the forum's slant)
I guess I'd have to respond with "a miracle".
I'd say that what would "really make me happy" would be for my wife to change from barely tolerant of my -um- 'ways', into fully accepting and encouraging.
I'm pretty timid and to be able to follow my dreams, I'd need a cheerleader in my corner, saying "you go, girl" and giving me a loving nudge (or even a shove) whenever I get afraid and balk at doing something I really want deep down inside.
It's not going to happen. I know that. But I can dream, can't I?
I'm sorry to say that my magic wand is broken and in the shop for repairs.
So, I can't provide you a miracle.
But, what I can do is say, "You go girl! With your wife's help or without it." You can do anything you want.
I'll also give you a pep talk. I had a very good CD friend who told me that when she was 5, she used to go to bed every night and pray that she woke up as a girl.
When I met her she was married, with two kids and still dressing at 45. A couple years after I met her, she transitioned to full time with the support of her wife and children. So, was it a miracle or were her prayers from 40 years earlier finally answered? I told her that her prayers were finally answered.
Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
I did mention the beach. One of my favorite places. This is from that day. Being able to be yourself,,, priceless
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Hmmm? What would make me happy? You eluded a change is needed when you mentioned, "...would it change much?" ...eluding to dressing more.
So I thought first am I unhappy? We all could be happier, I suppose...but there is always a cost involved, whether it hurts someone feelings, or deprives someone of a husband, or money itself as that never grows on trees!
So that made me think of degrees of happiness... how many more degrees of happiness can I be with the least amount of cost?
Can we go back to our youth and change me not getting my sex change that I was groomed for? Ya, not gonna happen.
Okay, now I am overthinking it!
Just the facts Mamm, as Joe Friday would say....
Okay, I was born with a curvie body, much like a womens and as I aged the curves are more pronounced re-defining my gender, more and more.
To be able to dress in clothes that were made to fit my physically body is a noble cause.
Then I am back to the cost factor and for me acceptance from a caring spouse it tough...for them.
OKAY...win the lottery, divorce my wife, drown my sorrows with hired chamber maids who dress me everyday in the look and clothes I desire.
Go out and mingle with accepting friends and lovers 24/7 365!
That could work!!!!
A full make over by an expert
What would make me happy? Having a wife and a family.
Even if I had to stop dressing to have one.
The world just to accept people for who they are and not judge them. The may find that they are missing out
on a wonderful person. x
For my wife to be consistent with her acceptance. One day taking me shopping the next yelling at me for dressing.
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But, what I can do is say, "You go girl! With your wife's help or without it." You can do anything you want.
I'll also give you a pep talk. I had a very good CD friend who told me that when she was 5, she used to go to bed every night and pray that she woke up as a girl.
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Thanks for the pep talk, Steffi. It's nice of you to offer.
But truth be told, I have a pretty good life -outside of my "moderate" dysphoria.
I want more - but I'm too content/afraid/reluctant to push it.
yes, I can do anything I want. At the same time I don't want to hurt the one I love most.
I too went to bed at night praying to wake up as a girl.
I also had a nightly fall-asleep fantasy where my bed turned into a magical elevator that "changed me" as it lowered me to a world where I could be a girl forever.
..First stop. All my boy toys got traded for girl toys.
..Second stop. all my boy clothes got traded for girl's
..Third stop. That "thing" got taken off, my hair grew long, etc. and I became a real girl.
..Last stop. I'd get off the elevator and step through the gates into a new life.
Funny - but I never remembered what was on the other side of the gate. I guess I fell asleep with a smile on my face about then.
Not having to hide behind the male facade that I have been presenting since I was three.
I like the idea of dressing up in Lingerie and spending time with an attractive young Lady, not a fantasy, I do it sometimes with my Wife, I would like to expand my horizon a bit more, somethings my Wife not going to do.
Happy? To be able to go out dressed, be treated nicely and be accepted. My wonderful, supportive wife agrees.
In terms of CDing, to dress as I like all the time and to be with someone who actually thinks it is cute sometimes. But I am still in a good place already so it wouldn't be the biggest boost in happiness compared to no more covid and the kids back in school (instead of my home office too many times during the day).
Here in the U.K. we have disabled toilets. There are a bit "thin on the ground" but they are locked--you unlock them with a special key (obtained via your Dr) So the toilet is large &unisex.When you go in you lock the door behind you,you then have 20 minutes before the door self unlocks (this is a safety feture in case some one is taken ill ) While i have a key i have never taken 20 minutes........
Having a spouse that thought CD-ing was OK!
"This is ME" I am not CRAZY, I'm just a GUY who likes dresses!
Since allot of men dress up in woman's clothing that makes it a manly thing to do!
Much more fun than fishing.
I do construction like house building and I love CD-ing, what's the difference?
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