Results 1 to 9 of 9

Thread: Finally understanding myself

  1. #1
    Junior Member Gia's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2020
    Location
    Germany
    Posts
    35

    Finally understanding myself

    Hi all.
    I wanted to share something that recently happened to me and made me feel a lot better around my crossdressing.
    A bit of context for those who do not remember my introductory post. I am a closet CD, 27, married to a wonderful wife ( bisexual and the most open mindend person I ever met) and I live in Germany.
    So that is what happened. I was talking to my wife during one of my ? guilt trip? moments. I still do not fully accept the fact that I like so much to look like a woman sometimes.
    She is really into all the psychology behind sexuality and gender. At some point she asked me ? Have you ever asked yourself whether you might be genderfluid/bigender or not ??.
    A new world opened to me. I did not know anything about bigender people and I really find myself in this category. Individuals who have two genders ( non biologically) in them and who like to switch between them.
    That would explain a lot why sometimes I want to pass as a very masculine man and other times as a very feminine woman.
    It might seems stupid but finding a ? label ? which describes me made me feel more confident in who I am.
    In near future we have plans to explore more this new identity of myself; or better the identity I was not aware of.
    She does not care at all about which gender I decide to display and that made the happiest man on Earth.
    I hope this thread could help somebody else in my situation.
    Have a wonderful day and sorry for typos!

  2. #2
    Gold Member bridget thronton's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Michigan USA
    Posts
    7,977
    You have a smart and insightful wife

  3. #3
    Gold Member Helen_Highwater's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    Midlands UK
    Posts
    7,188
    Gia,

    Wonderful that you've been able to gain such insight. Being better able to understand ourselves is an important step. Your wife is a clever person and to be treasured.

  4. #4
    Platinum Member Crissy 107's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2018
    Location
    Maryland, USA
    Posts
    11,033
    Gia, Wonderful to have found that out and at such a young age. Your wife is a keeper for sure!
    Crissy

  5. #5
    Aspiring Member Star01's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2018
    Posts
    654
    The more I learn and the more therapy sessions I have the less I understand myself and my fixation on gender. You are very fortunate if you had an ah ha moment and that answered all your questions. This can be a very confusing process for a lot of members myself included. One size as they say does not fit all.

  6. #6
    Silver Member Stephanie Julianna's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2013
    Location
    Prospect, CT
    Posts
    2,476
    Self acceptance is the first step to self appreciation and love. Your wife sounds like a very insightful and loving person. I was 30 years old before I embraced my femininity. Until then I lived with self destructive guilt. I was raised Catholic and guilt is their go to tool for controlling their congregation. So when I realized that I was truly not a bad peson because of my gender fluidity I finally achieved a level of contentment and happiness that I had never known up to that point. That feeling is marred by my wife's inability to accept that position so I will never know the feeling that you are experiencing with your incredible wife. I am so happy for you.

  7. #7
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    A bit south of the 49th!
    Posts
    23,676
    Don?t sweat the typos and forgive my iPad for ? taking the place of apostrophes! It sounds as though your wife has a very good handle on gender variation and an welcome willingness to help you explore and enjoy your discoveries.
    Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.

    Eleanor Roosevelt

  8. #8
    Silver Member Micki_Finn's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2016
    Location
    Southern California
    Posts
    3,630
    It is sad that people do not know about the existence of this concept. It’s a symptom of western/European society imposing its values around the world. Native Americans called them “Two-Spirit”. In Mexico they were Muxe. In India Hijra. In the Samoas they’re called Faʻafafine. In these ancient cultures, these people were looked on with reverence and respect, and had special roles to fill in the culture and society.

    So if you ever have someone tell you they don’t like all these “new” genders you can tell them that bigender people have ALWAYS existed.

  9. #9
    Junior Member Gia's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2020
    Location
    Germany
    Posts
    35
    Imagine I used to be a quite sexist person.
    Now I can not stand this kind of people but I still have to play the part of the 100% alpha male with my family.

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  


Check out these other hot web properties:
Catholic Personals | Jewish Personals | Millionaire Personals | Unsigned Artists | Crossdressing Relationship
BBW Personals | Latino Personals | Black Personals | Crossdresser Chat | Crossdressing QA
Biker Personals | CD Relationship | Crossdressing Dating | FTM Relationship | Dating | TG Relationship


The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs.
We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.

Browse Crossdressers By State